10:48 No, she's right. I waited for 15 years before I finally conceived and that was when I least expected it—it was the year I surrendered everything to Him and decided not to pressure myself anymore.
I dont think ginusto nya na maging buntisin, naalala ko pa nung bagong kasal sila na ayaw muna nila mag anak pero nag sunod sunod pagbubuntis nya plus unt bunso sabi nya unexpected. If will talaga ni God wala makakapigil
11:47 auntie, I'm doing the math sa sinabi mong 15 years ka naghintay. Around 35 kasi medyo mababa na yung chance ng fertility. College ka pa lang ba nagta-try ka na mabuntis?
May point naman si OP. Madali lang talaga sabihin yan at magpayo kung never ka nagkaproblema mabuntis. I mean of all people, she's the least person you would listen to. One person that comes to mind na talagang nakaka-inspire at nasa posisyon magbigay ng ganyang encouragement ay yung asawa ni Eric Tai.
1:48 jinustify mo pa talaga ka-bitter-an ni OP? Someone asked her kaya sinagot nya. Ano bang tingin mong sasabihin ng asawa ni Eric? Same thing lang di ba?
1:48, Iya was the one asked directly on her “ask me anything “, so she gave a positive, supportive non judging full of wisdom advice. Ano ba ang gusto mong mangyari? May tao talagang easy magbuntis , it doesn’t mean na hindi sya nakaranas ng infertility issue eh wala syang karapatan na sagutin yung nagtanong sa kanya.
One, “don’t pressure yourself.” It takes two to make babies. This is what the society usually forgets, hence, you will notice that wives are mostly the once being asked and getting the brunt of stress in conceiving. Let’s change this culture of putting the onus of conceiving on women.
Second, “having babies doesn’t define who you are.” I was 40yo when I lost my 2nd baby at 17 weeks. I was blaming myself. I can’t forget what a nun who was doing the rounds at the hospital after my DNC procedure told me, “only God can giveth and taketh.” Yes, it is a blessing to have a baby and experience motherhood, but God’s plan is beyond us. He knew us before we were even born. Our own identity is not defined by anyone in this world.
Last, “the season of waiting.” I married in my late 20s. My husband knows I will have difficulty in getting pregnant and even the possibility of not conceiving at all. We heard it from the OB herself before tying the knot. I stopped going to my OB for workups and taking all the meds toward the 8th year of our marriage, just left taking folic acid, vitamins for women who want to conceive. I surrendered everything to Him. I learned I was pregnant 3 months after. My only child is a living miracle of God. Maybe, it was His purpose for me to be a testament to His miracle. I remember my friend telling me this about our long wait to have a baby, “do you think you will be this kind of parent if you had your child immediately?”
As Ms. Iya said, “you are being prepared to something beautiful, whatever that may be for you.” It is up to us if we will open our heart to it.
148, so mas tama bang ang sinagot nya sa nagtanong sa kanya e “I’m sorry, I cannot answer that. I’m the least person you would listen to,” ganon? Hindi ko alam may pre-requisite pala sa hiningan ng advise bago sya magbigay.
Kung hindi englishera halata si Iya, eh pwedeng pang chat gpt ang sagot nya. Anyway, may anak o wala- mga babae mahalaga tayo, may bilang tayo. Be happy
Unplanned doesn't mean unwanted. Afford naman nila kahit mag anak pa sila ng isang dosena. Ang problemahin mo yung mga wala namang pambuhay sa anak pero anak nang anak.
I think it really comes when you least expect. Kung stress ka, i think it also will follow na hindi nasa condition yung katawan mo. Just enjoy sex to begin with. I feel meron dito sa Pinas yung they just have sex to have babies pero they do not do it for the enjoyment of it. Maybe it happens sa mga women na middle class pataas wherein there is sex repression and taboo to actually like sex
labo mo naman! wanting something you havent had before or never experienced before is differenr from knowing who you are inside. Maraming gusto maging Nanay dyan pero di nabigyan ng chance but that failure should not define them at all dahil marami ka pang purpose sa buhay mo aside for pro creating.
In God's perfect time. If hindi inallow ni God magka baby may reason sya. Ang daming famous celebrities di magka anak, yet ang daming din hirap sa buhay pero daming anak. Kanya kanys tayo ng kapalaran sa buhay, that's life eh 😣
Easy for you to say kasi buntisin ka
ReplyDeleteSobrang nega mo!
DeleteSo what do you want her to say then?
Delete10:48 No, she's right. I waited for 15 years before I finally conceived and that was when I least expected it—it was the year I surrendered everything to Him and decided not to pressure myself anymore.
Delete10:48 ang ampalaya inuulam hindi inuugali
Delete11:47 ilan taon ka na at 15 years ka nag hintay?
DeleteI dont think ginusto nya na maging buntisin, naalala ko pa nung bagong kasal sila na ayaw muna nila mag anak pero nag sunod sunod pagbubuntis nya plus unt bunso sabi nya unexpected. If will talaga ni God wala makakapigil
DeleteInit ng ulo ni madam. Layo pa kase katapusan e noh? Hahaha
Delete11:47 auntie, I'm doing the math sa sinabi mong 15 years ka naghintay. Around 35 kasi medyo mababa na yung chance ng fertility. College ka pa lang ba nagta-try ka na mabuntis?
DeleteMay point naman si OP. Madali lang talaga sabihin yan at magpayo kung never ka nagkaproblema mabuntis. I mean of all people, she's the least person you would listen to. One person that comes to mind na talagang nakaka-inspire at nasa posisyon magbigay ng ganyang encouragement ay yung asawa ni Eric Tai.
DeleteEverybody on this thread attacking 1147. She is defending Iya not OP. You all got it wrong
Delete1:48 jinustify mo pa talaga ka-bitter-an ni OP? Someone asked her kaya sinagot nya. Ano bang tingin mong sasabihin ng asawa ni Eric? Same thing lang di ba?
Delete1:48, Iya was the one asked directly on her “ask me anything “, so she gave a positive, supportive non judging full of wisdom advice. Ano ba ang gusto mong mangyari? May tao talagang easy magbuntis , it doesn’t mean na hindi sya nakaranas ng infertility issue eh wala syang karapatan na sagutin yung nagtanong sa kanya.
Delete12:59, 11:47
DeletePossible pa din manganak at 40 even 45 or older pa she could have been 25-30 years old when they started trying
1:48 you can still try to get pregnant even until 45.
DeleteEwan ko sa inyo. Pray, consult medical practitioners/obgyne and believe.
DeleteBut she’s right.
DeleteOne, “don’t pressure yourself.” It takes two to make babies. This is what the society usually forgets, hence, you will notice that wives are mostly the once being asked and getting the brunt of stress in conceiving. Let’s change this culture of putting the onus of conceiving on women.
Second, “having babies doesn’t define who you are.” I was 40yo when I lost my 2nd baby at 17 weeks. I was blaming myself. I can’t forget what a nun who was doing the rounds at the hospital after my DNC procedure told me, “only God can giveth and taketh.” Yes, it is a blessing to have a baby and experience motherhood, but God’s plan is beyond us. He knew us before we were even born. Our own identity is not defined by anyone in this world.
Last, “the season of waiting.” I married in my late 20s. My husband knows I will have difficulty in getting pregnant and even the possibility of not conceiving at all. We heard it from the OB herself before tying the knot. I stopped going to my OB for workups and taking all the meds toward the 8th year of our marriage, just left taking folic acid, vitamins for women who want to conceive. I surrendered everything to Him. I learned I was pregnant 3 months after. My only child is a living miracle of God. Maybe, it was His purpose for me to be a testament to His miracle. I remember my friend telling me this about our long wait to have a baby, “do you think you will be this kind of parent if you had your child immediately?”
As Ms. Iya said, “you are being prepared to something beautiful, whatever that may be for you.” It is up to us if we will open our heart to it.
148, so mas tama bang ang sinagot nya sa nagtanong sa kanya e “I’m sorry, I cannot answer that. I’m the least person you would listen to,” ganon? Hindi ko alam may pre-requisite pala sa hiningan ng advise bago sya magbigay.
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Ako yung 15 years naghintay. I was almost 40 when I gave birth.
Kung hindi englishera halata si Iya, eh pwedeng pang chat gpt ang sagot nya. Anyway, may anak o wala- mga babae mahalaga tayo, may bilang tayo. Be happy
ReplyDeleteSabi ng sanay sa unplanned pregnancy. Yes di ba yung last nya sya mismo nagsabing hindi planned
ReplyDelete11:35 sad life
Delete12:47 Nah, that's not having a sad life. That's just speaking the truth at kayong mga fan ni Iya ang daling mahurt ang feelings.
DeleteUnplanned doesn't mean unwanted. Afford naman nila kahit mag anak pa sila ng isang dosena. Ang problemahin mo yung mga wala namang pambuhay sa anak pero anak nang anak.
Delete1:49 sad life ka rin 😂
DeleteAng positive na nung sinabi ng tao pero bakit ang dami paring nega?
ReplyDeleteMarami talagang nega dito, madam. Sila yung mga auntie na 'di masaya sa buhay.
DeleteSo pinoy, alam na
DeleteI think it really comes when you least expect. Kung stress ka, i think it also will follow na hindi nasa condition yung katawan mo. Just enjoy sex to begin with. I feel meron dito sa Pinas yung they just have sex to have babies pero they do not do it for the enjoyment of it. Maybe it happens sa mga women na middle class pataas wherein there is sex repression and taboo to actually like sex
ReplyDeleteAng ganda ng sinabi niya. Kahit minsan sablay sila sa oversharing.
ReplyDeleteHa ha ha... seems like the peministas are out here en force destroying IA :D :D :D Iba talaga ang sisterhood :) :) :) Good job girls ;) ;) ;)
ReplyDeleteIf having baby doesn't define who they're then why try in the first place
ReplyDeletelabo mo naman! wanting something you havent had before or never experienced before is differenr from knowing who you are inside. Maraming gusto maging Nanay dyan pero di nabigyan ng chance but that failure should not define them at all dahil marami ka pang purpose sa buhay mo aside for pro creating.
DeleteIn God's perfect time. If hindi inallow ni God magka baby may reason sya. Ang daming famous celebrities di magka anak, yet ang daming din hirap sa buhay pero daming anak. Kanya kanys tayo ng kapalaran sa buhay, that's life eh 😣
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