Monday, April 6, 2020

Disappointing Strictness

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When the household helpers (HH) finally left their Former Employer (FE), they heaved a sigh of relief. The time they spent with FE was a revelation and confirmation of rumors surrounding her personality. Initially, when HH found out they would be working with FE, they were excited, as that means being close to Undisputed Icon (UI). Not everyone is given a chance to be up, close, and personal with UI. Many stories have been heard about the kindness of UI and the horridness of FE.

As soon as HH landed in the household of FE, the realization of her strictness came quickly. FE told HH to be frugal with food. Their food was different from the food they prepared for FE and her family. Moreover, they were told to eat in the dirty kitchen and they were not allowed to eat in the main dining room. FE even has an inventory of the food in the main ref, and she keeps track of the number of hotdogs, eggs, etc. Thus, the idea of frying and eating such food for HH were farfetched because FE would know if the supply would lack one or two pieces. Even if a member of the family would request for hotdog or egg, they would have to ask permission from FE.

UI noticed the strictness of FE toward HH. UI questioned the treatment of FE, as they have much food and she has money to spend for extra grocery. FE, expectedly, told UI not to interfere with her household management and she should just concentrate on her career so that money would continue to flow. Nonetheless, whenever UI would have time at home, the helpers are treated well and able to eat delicious food. Sometimes, UI would be the one to prepare food for them.

All the bad memories with FE are now forgotten, as HH found a new family. Actress Mom (AM), as the new employer of HH, was shocked upon hearing the stories of HH about FE. With AM, HH are treated like family and AM is known to be among the showbiz personalities who are generous and kind regardless of the status of people. As far as her household is concerned, AM treats her help fairly. The food is the same for everyone, including HH. AM could only shake her head at realizing that even if FE raised UI, the latter’s attitude is very far from the former.

‘You can't get what you want, if the intentions are solely directed for self-benefits.’ ― Ashish Patel

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73 comments:

  1. Easy peasy, FE - D parang ang sama sama nyang tao noh?

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    1. True. She's so greedy

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    2. Galing sya mismo sa hirap. Kung hindi dahil kay UI, wala syang kakainin. Feeling alta talaga tong si FE!

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    3. SUPER KURIPOT TALAGA

      All the horrible stories are true

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  2. FE - D
    UI - S
    AM - ?

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  3. FE- D UI- S So, totoo pala talaga ang mga kwentong inventory! D, aanhin mo ba ang sobra sobrang pera na yan?! Wala kang pakisama sa mga helpers mo! Ano yun, tiis tiis sila sa gutom? Madamot ka!Nakaranas lang ng kaunting ginhawa, nawala na ang yapak mo sa lupa!

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    1. Ako ung napapagod sa ginagawa nya. Sobrang stressful yang pati itlog bjnibilang haha maghapon nagkukuwenta sya.

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  4. Nakakatakot ang karma na sasapitin ni D dahil sa kasakiman niya. Imposible na walang balik yan.

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  5. KaH or KaF si D? Sorry newbie

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    1. Waley beshie kasi wit siya artista. Arti lang siya

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  6. Grabe naman talaga si D!

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  7. Sana lang kahit sino pa yung makasalamuha natin dapat pantay pantay. Iisa lang naman ang gumawa saatin at iyong ang Maykapal very lucky na yung iba na pinanganak na mayaman o yung iba e talagang naging successful sa profession nila pero sana wag tayo makalimot kung saan tayo magsimula.

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  8. Hala anung ugali meron c D.
    Grabe ang ugali

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  9. Cya ung nanggaling sa hirap, na sumobra sa pagiging ganid at sakim. Lumobo utak nya.

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  10. Excuse me, agree ako sa madamot sa food si FE at masama yon.
    Pero ang kapal nung HH to expect sa main dining room din sila kakain with the family! And to have the same food? So kung wagyu, paella or tempura yung handa yun din kakainin nila? Iba ang food ng kasambahay sa amo. In my house we are generous with the househelp. They have chicken, pork, assorted fish, veggies and fruits but they eat in a different area and time PLUS their menu is different from ours. Unless it is tinola, sinigang, karekare or nilaga day

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    1. nakakaawa ka ..

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    2. bakit siya nakakaawa? Obligado ba siya magpakain ng premium food sa kasambahay? Pag pinoy food naman yung ulam kasama yung kasambahay a.

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    3. Naloka din ako dun sa complaint nya na hindi sila sa main dining room kumakain. Seryoso ka ghorl?? Lol.

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    4. Typical nouveau riche! Di sanay sa luxury that’s why you would like to put a line between the rich and poor. I pity you 8:19.

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    5. kung marunong kang umintindi hindi sinabi ng katulong na nag expect silang kumain sa main dining room. mukhang namention lang nila among other things.
      yung mga kilala kong from well-to-do families kasalo ang mga kasambahay kumain. minsan yung talagang maykaya yun pa yung humble talaga at may pakisama sa kapwa.

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    6. Si AH nga same food for everyone, wag ka umarte teh! Wagyu, paella at tempura IPAGDADAMOT MO?

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    7. 8:19 AM - I see you live up to the "money can't buy class" saying all too well.

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    8. proud pa talaga .

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    9. Sa amin pareho lang ang food namin sa mga kasambahay not unless di nila bet yung food kasi di nila nakasanayan. May mga helpers kami before na super close na sa amin at sinasabay na namin kumain sa amin...pero yung mga recent mga abusado na at sawsawera kaya dun na lng sila kumakain sa dining table sa kitchen pero sabay pa din sa lunch namin.

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    10. Arte! If I know wala ka namang househelp! Kasi for sure kung meron, kawawa lang.

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    11. I also agree with 8:19. Do you expect the chairman of the board of your company to eat with you on a regular day? And same lang food nyo? If your answer is no then you should understand 8:19.

      However ibang level pa din si D. She’s treating her HH as lowly people

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    12. Grabe araw araw kayo naka wagyu? Kung ganun maiintindihan ko pa. Pero baka once or twice a week lang din, y not? Paella at tempura? Tingin mo pang amo lang amg pagkain na yan? Nakakaawa ka nga. Lol

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    13. My family is generous to the househelp too pero iba talaga ang pagkain nila for the simple reason na magkaiba kami ng gust o. We have a weekly menu for them and yun ang basis ng pamamalengke. May pasobra kahit papano and di talaga sila magugutom but di puedeng maubusan before the next pamalengke.

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    14. I would assume as long as it is plenty the staff can also eat the food. Sa mayayaman may sariling food allowance ang mga kasambahay so technically iba food ng mga employers.

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    15. 819AM you are as bad as D.

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    16. Ang yayabang naman nitong mga to! Mga kasambahay kuno! Dito sa US, kung ano kinakain ng mayayanan, same din sa mahihirap. Kadalasan nga mas marami at masasarap pa kinakain ng mahihirap kesa sa mayayaman, dahil may food stamps sila! Also, pag umutot tayo, iisa lang ang amoy, mabaho! May -a -aella and wagyumwagyu pa kayo! Wag aku mga Teh! Hmph!

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    17. I don't get the hate to 819, I'm not matapobre, to mention lagi ko panga pinauuna kumain yaya ko kesa sakin para di ako nappressure bilisan kumain because isa samin lagi dapat may magbantay sa son ko. Pero if some people wants to establish some rules to their kasambahays as long as hindi sila nkakasakit that's perfectly acceptable. Bonus nalang yang mga sinasabi nyo na you'll eat in the main dining at same ulam. hirap sa pilipino pag hindi ka nagbigay ng sobra at base sa expectations nila masama kana. Kung kayo pamilya na Turing nyo to yours good that works for you, pero samin na iba we have our reasons either bago pa sila we need to setup a boundary para di umaabuso or may iba na as a person ayaw nakikisalimuha sa iba and dont want that personal connection with others gusto strictly employees/employer relationship lang. Yan ang ngyayari sa iba na helpers masyado naspoiled sa iba umabuso na kaya inexpect na dapat ganun lagi. Konting di nasunod luho at gusto kung makaarte kala mo inapi na in short unprofessional. But otherwise , we can all agree na si D iba talaga yan sya.

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    18. grabe ka.Meron din kami kasambahay and seriously kasama namin sya kumakain sa dining and kung ano kainin namin yun din kinakain nya, pantay pantay.kahit pa kumakain kami sa labas kasama namin sya sa table

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    19. Totoo naman yung sinasabi niya. May sariling dining room/table ang mga help at hindi kasabay ng mga amo. Hindi masama yun. Thats just how it is. Sa food naman, ganun din. May sariling food ang staff. Basta hindi nagugutom.

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    20. Sa bahay namin, pinaghahanda ng mama ko ang mga helpers namin. May cake at spaghetti sila while kaming mga anak pansit lang ang handa. Lagi din sila kasama sa mga out of town trips ng mama at papa ko. Hindi kami ubod ng yaman pero alam namin magtreat ng tao dahil galing din kami sa hirap.

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    21. Who needs your wagyu, paella and tempura? I don't eat that because I practice healthy living. -HH

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    22. Sa amin nga misan kasabay namin sila kumain pg may bakanteng upuan.

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    23. 8:19 sorry but I can’t relate. Pinalaki kasi kami ng parents ko na we treat our household help as family. Kung ano ang kinakain namin yun din ang pagkain ng mga kasambahay namin. They also eat in the same dining table that we do. For one our family don’t really eat in the “main dining table” as we only use it when we have gatherings at our house. Daily meals are served in the kitchen table. I even remember eating together with our kasambahays pag may mga time na late nakakauwi ang parents ko ang mga katulong namin ang kasabay ko kumain.

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    24. YUNG PANANALITA NI 8:19 YUNG TYPICAL MATAPOBRE SA MGA TS. YUNG ALAM MONG HINDI SANAY SA YAMAN KAYA YUMABANG BIGLA. HAHA

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    25. Same ng food namin yung sa househelp, though hindi sila kumakain kasabay namin. We offer them to get cans from the pantry or frozen food sa ref if they want to eat something else. Umaayaw sila kasi nahihiya. Libre na din namin toiletries nila.

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    26. Mag-ingat kayong matapobre kung paano nyo tratuhin kasambahay nyo. They make and prepare your food. Baka di nyo alam kung ano pwede nilang ilagay sa pagkain nyo. Sabi nga dun sa movie na “The Help”, “Eat my shit!” habang kumakain ng pie. Hahaha

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    27. 8:19 Grabe pati wagyu, paella, and tempura ipagdadamot mo pa! Hahaha 😂 Hindi mo ikakahirap ang pagtrato ng normal sa mga katuwang mo in keeping your house fine. Hindi kami mayaman pero whatever we have, we share. Without them, mahihirapan tayo

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    28. 1:56 wag ka masyado kasi mag base sa teleserye. Professionalism po yun because being a kasambahay is a profession. Employers should always set boundaries. But ibang case na if may abuse. Hindi matapobre si 8:19. As long as hindi sila nagugutom and you treat your househelp with respect then okay na yun.

      Yung kay D kasi ibang level since even eggs and hotdogs bilang na bilang. Those food are very basic so it means na sobra na silang tinitipid. Most households wouldn’t mind giving egg and hotdogs to their househelp.

      Not unless the househelps have their own ref with more than enough supplies kaya galit si D if may kukuha sa inventory ng food for the family. We really wouldn’t know kasi may ibang househelps din na abusado and feeling pa victim.

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  11. ganyan naman talaga mayayaman a. may sarilung food at lugar helpers

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  12. awww UI i <3 u sooobra. sino si AM mga momsh?! K?

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  13. Ibang klase talaga si FE (D)!
    Pagkabait-bait ni UI (S), mapagmalasakit sa kapwa... pero si FE (D), ubod ng ganid!

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  14. Who is AM?

    Grabe talaga ugali nitong si FE, nakakasuka.
    Parang boss ko lang, may inventory ng mga supplies sa ref sa pantry. Tapos yung mga sobrang pagkain nung christmas party, di pinauwi sa'min. Siya lang nagbalot lahat.

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    1. You’re not supposed to bring food home from any office parties/events unless asked 😆

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  15. I agree with management of D though. I don't think it's unfair to not treat helpers as family. Personal should be separate from professional. Maybe D is just cautious just in case they abuse their fondness.

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    1. Agree. As long as they are treated well there is no issue. They should not expect to eat with the family and share their food
      Ang issue kay FE she is starving the help.

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    2. Agree with this, depending on your "kaya sa buhay", hindi talaga kasalo ang employees sa main dining hall, but instead give them also proper place to rest and eat naman din. As for the food, medyo strict nga sya sa food but then again is that really bad? If she is frugal, she is frugal, as long as hindi maltreated ang mga kasama sa bahay. They are employees, baka yun talaga ang relationship nila. So good for others na lang na mas mabait sa kanya. Wag natin compare sa ordinary Filipino na iisa lang ang lamesa kaya sama-sama. Compare nyo sila sa mayayaman din na naglalakihan ang bahay, may area ang mga staff for themselves. - common pinoy na iisa ang dining table. lol. (may experience din ako sa mga househelp na nauna ubusin laman ng ref namin tapos kami ung gutom haha)

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    3. Seryoso ka? Pati pagkain bilang na bilang?? Ang damot huh!

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    4. This is the case in 'alta' families - the born rich ika nga. Mainly because this is how it's been done in their families ever since their world began. Hehe. But, in the case of FE, they are not that kind of family. They've only been 'well-off' ever since UI became popular, kaya it seems like a 'disproportionate' behavior. And I mean really, 'count' food to the point that they are AFRAID to cook anything? Can't be serious.

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    5. Madamot din siguro si 6:02 kaya pinagtatanggol si FE.

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    6. Hi 11:53, ako si 6:02. My opinion is based on understanding their employer-employee relationship. Sabi ko nga, typical sa mayayaman na may malalaking bahay ang maghire staff na purely professional ang relationship nila. Thats why I understand and agree kung kelangan strict as long as hindi nagmamalupit at unfair sa staff. If you based my personality sa opinion ko, opinion mo din yan. Pero sana lawakan ang isip paminsan minsan at tignan yung sitwasyon outside your biases. Thank you.

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  16. Mmmm mukhang kilala ko na si FE and UI. Pero sino si AM???. Penge naman clues dyan oh

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  17. Iba rin ang food ko sa mga helpers ko. Mas masarap sa kanila! On diet kasi ako

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  18. Hindi masama Ang magbilang ng supply Ang amo at Hindi din masama Ang magpaalam kung may gustong kainin Ang isang helper. The fact Na minamasama ng helper Ang ginawa ni D ibig sabihin ay ayaw niyang magpaalam sa gusto nitong gawin at frustrated siya dahil binibilang ang supplies kaya siya galit dahil hindi niya magawa ang gusto niyang gawin. Typical ugali ng Pinoy.

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  19. Ang aarte nyo, kami sa household namin sabay sabay kami kumain sa dining table, yung kusinero at yung taga hugas ng pinggan - kasi kami lang din mag asawa yun eh! hahahahahaah

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  20. To be fair, walang masama sa inventory and pagkain sa dirty kitchen.

    Ang masama eh iba ang pagkain nila.

    Kung tumanda na si yaya sa inyo, makakakilos ng maayos yan sa bahay. Di na papansinin ang pagkonsumo mo ng pagkain dahil kapamilya na ang tingin sayo.

    Ang paghiwalay ng pagkain sa dining area at sa dirty kitchen is drawing the line na employer-employee relationship pa din sila. Mahirap kasi pag naging pamilyar na sila sayo.

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  21. madalas pa nga na nauuna sila kumain keysa sa amin lalo ngaung lockdown kasi hapon na kami gumigising.. 😂

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  22. So it's terrible that she counts the eggs, food in the pantry, etc., that is really strange. But for many, helpers have their own living and dining area separate to the family. Nothing wrong with that. I also agree with the different food sometimes.. Sometimes that happens and as long as they have more than enough decent food too, it shouldn't be a problem.

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  23. The dining area maiintindihan ko pa, kung ako lang din kasambahay ako na unang mahihiya, but the part na even her own family members need pa magpaalam sa kanya just so they can eat hotdog at kung ano² pa, grabe naman. Nasobrahan na sa greed grabe.

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