Friday, December 6, 2019

Goodbye Expectations

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Whenever a newbie is asked why he/she entered the local entertainment industry, the common answer is the desire to alleviate the family from poverty. Talent, looks, creativity, and personality will, thus, be the investment in attempts to reach the goal. While talent can be developed, looks can be altered, creativity can be honed, personality spells the difference. Even the less talented ones survive because their personalities hit something with the audience.

Attractive Actress (AA) managed to fit the criteria and after receiving breaks, she can look back and say that she has a successful career. Like previously mentioned, AA entered the business to help her family. Although AA has managed to keep her family away from the public eye, helping them was her priority when she was starting out. Consequently, her family fully depended on her.

After sometime, AA realized that enough is enough. Given that competition is hard these days and projects are scarce, AA might not be as financially viable these days. Besides, her partner, who belongs to a well-off family, is not giving her money, as they are not yet married. Feeling the pinch, AA had to be smart with her money and thus, she no longer sent money to her family as often as before.

One day, a relative called AA and asked if she could send financial help. AA freaked out and told the relative that they should start working and stop relying on her for their survival. As AA was no longer sending support, the family had to dispose of early investments, such as land and apartments. This time, they had nothing more to sell and AA was contacted. The conversation was not pleasant, and from then on, no one from her family bothered to call her again.

‘When you're the most successful person in your family, in your neighborhood, and in your town, everybody thinks you're the First National Bank, and you have to figure out for yourself where those boundaries are.’ – Oprah Winfrey

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    1. AA - S
      Since bata pa ito sya na talaga. Give her a break naman. Sobra naman pangangailangan yan at lahat naibenta na. May luho ba si pamilya?

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    2. I dont think si S ito. Hindi sya kulang sa projects

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  2. Ayan mga batugan. Mag trabaho kayo. Huwag umasa kay AA. Hindi naman tama na hindi na gumagalaw. Ginagatasan niyo lang palagi.

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  3. Could this be E - KaF?

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  4. Third world problem.

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  5. Dapat talaga may boundaries. U can't always depend on someone else financially, even ur family.

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  6. Its E. We are actually neighbors in their hometown

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  7. E

    Why do many Filipinos or rather, Asians, depend on one or few family member/s to provide for everyone? Why don't they try working too?

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    1. From personal experience, I had to wean them off slowly and gently so they learn to rely on themselves instead of me. It worked in such a way that I no longer hear from any of them because they no longer need my help. Win win situation hahaha

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    2. Sa totoo lang madaming Pinoy kung hindi naging OFW or nag abroad magiging tambay lang dyan. Brother in law ko sa Pinas tambay lang pero napangasawa ng kapatid ko at nagtatrabaho na dito sa America. Kailangan ng push pero wala sa mentality ng karamihan na maging go getter, mas go with the flow tayo. Kaya talo tayo ng mga ibang lahi at may confidence sa sarili kahit mas kaya natin gawin yun.

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    3. I'm an expat too and I pity a lot of people I've met. I know somebody whose brother stopped working kahit depamilyado na kasi may kalakihan ang sweldo ng kapatid niya dito. Sa kaniya na inasa. 😓

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    4. @2:03 am Asian? Dito sa Japan...ayaw nila ng umaasa...kanya kanyang byahe dito walang nagpapapasan na pamilya sa mga Hapon

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  8. tama lang gawa ni E, hirap kasi ganyan pamilya.

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  9. This is E. It's good that she learned to cut off ties with those leeches. The problem with a lot of Filipinos is that they rely on other people for their needs even if they are young and strong enough to provide for themselves. You helped them more than a dozen times but in the end, ikaw pa ang masama.

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    1. Yung nakatulong kana pero mamaliitin lang tulong mo kesyo maliit, hindi pa nagpapasalamat. 😂 Sakit na sa bulsa sakit pa sa puso. 🤣

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    2. Ikaw na tumulong ikaw pa masama in the end....sad

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    3. May kakilala akong ganyan. Sya pa galit pag di nabigyan ng kanyang kapatid sa abroad. Eh may sarili na syang pamilya. Spoiled na nga sya ng asawa nya, todo pa manghingi sa kapatid.

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  10. Yes lalo na pag nasa abroad ka, akala nila ang dali ng buhay dito. At kaloka pag napadalhan mo na wala ka ng maririnig kungdi mo pa tanungin kung natanggap ba o hindi!

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    1. hahahaha this is so true!! lahat sila de-hingi sa mga nasa abroad, kapag birthday mo, di naman sila makabati sayo

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    2. sinanay nyo eh ... mga asa kaya tao sa aten

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    3. Case to case basis yan, di lahat ng nasa abroad eh tumutulong sa pamilya,yong iba walang pakialam pag nasa Ibang bansa na.
      Yong iba nmn pag nagpapadala kung makapagsalita sa pamilya,sobrang masasakit na salita kapalit, kahit Nagpasalamat k na kulang pa,susumbatan ka pa.
      Kaya swerte nong mababait ang anak o kapatid na tumutulong sa pamilya.

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    4. 12:40 Hindi naman kase dapat umasa sa mga kamag-anak na nasa abroad. Dapat sariling kayod at sikap. Lalo na kung ayaw mong makarining ng hindi maganda, dapat talaga kumayod at magbanat ng buto para walang marinig na sumbat. Ang sarap kaya makita mo yung katas ng pinagpaguran mo kesa katas ng bigay.

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    5. Ok sana yan pero buti sana kung inaasahan talaga cla paano kung hindi at magbibigay lng kung kelan gusto,hindi pa rin matatawag na umaasa yong ganon.
      Sadyang may tao na ganon pag nakatulong akala mo sa kanila inaasa ang buhay.

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    6. May mga nagbibigay nga pero isinusumbat sa iyo ang tulong na naibigay. Kesyo ako yung nagpapaaral sayo, hindi ka makakarating kung nasaan ka ngayon kung hindi dahil sa akin. Yung feeling na, no matter how hurtful words are thrown at you. You have to endure it for the rest of your life because of utang na loob.

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  11. AA - E
    Grabe naman din kasi yung relatives. Wag gawing retirement plan ang anak o kapatid etc.

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  12. So true @2:27 am, the worst thing, the family disposed early investments of AA (lands and apartments) pwede sana nila gawing source of income ng family, need Lang ng proper management.

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  13. AA - E. Tama lang siguro na di na siya nagbigay kasi naa-buso eh. May pinsan ako, nag-bayad ng utang sa kapatid niya. Pero ginawa ulit kaya ayon the second time around di na siya nagpa-gamit.

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  14. E... but she has a big “client” lately why not help?

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  15. AA- E
    well she has the rights naman kasi... yung iba kasing relatives mo akala ganun lang kadali magkapera...

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  16. Relate ako dyan mga sis!

    Lalong lalo na pag nag message sayo or txt na “ate kamusta na?” Alam mo na ang kasunod hahahahahah! Buti sana totoong nangangamusya lang eh,’kaso may kasunod agad na pahiram at kung ano anong problema. Ka stress sis! Ayan pinam blocked ko sila, ngayon may mga trabaho na kaya naman pla mabuhay na hindi umaasa saken. Kaya tama yung ginawa ni E.

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  17. Akala kc sa Pilipinas, pinupulot lang natin ang pra, di nila alam pawis at dugo ang pagkita ng pera. Tapos puro bilin ng signature items eh ako nga di gumagamit nun. Nagdala ako ng Avon, bakit daw Avon lang hindi Mac susmaryosep ke yayabang, pero puro hingi. Tapos agblow out ka buong barangay imbitado, akala yata eh piyesta. Susmaryosep.

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  18. Ang sakit na ibenta yung bahay at apartment na binigay mo. Ang hirap kumita ng pera tapos hindi man lang nila naipalago or nagipon man lang.

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  19. This is G KaF. Yung pamilyang nakaasa at nag aantay na lang nagi mabigyan at maambunan ng pera nakaka disappoint talaga. Alam ko yung ganyang feeling tapos hindi pa marunong magpasalamat.

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  20. Mahirap kasi kapag sinanay mo ang relatives mo na ikaw lahat gumagastos. Hindi na sila kikilos para sa buhay nila because they willl depend on you habang buhay. Sad that this situation really happen.

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    1. Totoo yan may kilala aq na ganyan,noong nag abroad cge padala sya pero pag cnusumpong, kulang na lang patayin sa salita ang pamilya kaya yong nanay puro iyak na lang.
      Noong ayaw na nya ayaw padalhan ang pamilya nya,syempre nahirapan cla mag adjust kc sinanay nya cla
      Ngayon ginagawa nya puro sumbat, samantalang sya isa sa dahilan kung bat cla naging tamad.

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    2. Swerte ng mga magulang na hindi mapanumbat at makwenta ang kanilang mga anak.
      May mga anak na minumura ang magulang ng dahil sa pera,Pag nakkatulong na kontrolado na magulang sa lahat,wala ng kalayaan ang magulang,bawal na maging masaya kc ang anak na gumagastos para sa kanila.
      Kaya yong magulang kahit may nararamdaman na,nag a apply pa rin ng trabaho.
      Kung ang magulang nman ay naging pabaya sa anak cguro di rin masisi ang anak na manumbat.

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  21. AA is G of kah.

    Kahit ako rin naman gagawin ko yan may hanggganan din naman tayo at napapagod. pero madaming ganyang pamilya ng mga nasa showbiz yung mga batugan at tamad.

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  22. I think si G ito.

    Not E of Kaf she's always with her family. Hindi lang niya pinopost sa social media.

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  23. Kapal naman ng mukha ng pamilya. sana may hangganan at katapusan ang pagiging palaasa.

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  24. Why did the relatives sell the apartments? That’s already a source of livelihood. Kawawa si E

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  25. Nakakainis yung mga ganyang kamag anak. yung mga naghihintay lang maambunan ng kung sino yung malakas kumita. Tapos karamihan sa ganyan di marunong mag appreciate at magpasalamat at once na di mo
    mabigyan ikaw pa masama.

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  26. kakampihan ko si E dito. mahirap kasi yung talagang dumepende na sa kanya yung buong pamilya. yung tipong baka hindi na talaga nagtatrabaho ang iba para may makain or kitain. hindi naman sinabing madamot si E pero sa ganitong kagipitan, may karapatan naman siguro syang magalit at magsabing NO, enough is enough.

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    1. Correct 9:29. She has to protect herself financially. Iyong family nag take advantage sa kanya. Hard earned money din iyan. Sabi nga nila, ang artista ay hindi forever ang trabaho. Kaya spend your money wisely and invest para sa future kung wala na work.

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  27. E. sumama siguro loob nya dahil binenta yung mga ari-arian na pinundar nya.

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  28. This is S. Sure na. Nagising na sya.

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  29. U are so blessed if you help your parents kahit buong buhay tinutulongan mo sila.look at all the artista who helps their family sila ang ma swerte.

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    1. Oh please! Yung mga ginatasan na laos na ngayon super kawawa.

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  30. What happened to the new client transactions... pero sa bagay sariling sikap din yun.

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  31. May mga apartments naman pala bakit kailangan pang manghingi. Baka maluho rin ang pamilya kaya?

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  32. Kaya ako di ako nagbibigay kahit kinokonsensya ako eh. Di bale na masabihan na madamot kesa gatasan ka lagi. Bigyan mo once lagi na mga nakaabang. Pag inutangan naman ako sinisingil ko talaga. Hirap kumita ng pera no.

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  33. You're so blessed if u love and help your parents,kahit buong buhay mo tinutulongan yong parents,talagang ma swerte ka..you're blessed not only sa pera and sa pamilya at anak mo.


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  34. AA - J of KaF
    Boyfriend - L

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  35. lagi nya ngang kasama family nya hindi ito c E

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  36. Sino ba talaga? Si G, si E, or si S?

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  37. Grabe namam lahat iasa kay aa. May apartment may mga properties ibenenta.. kahit sino naman mananawa mag supporta kung buong angkan mo supportahan mo. Baka pati kapatid na may asawa si aa pa din nag sususporta.

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  38. I’m very lucky na hndi ganito family ko. Yes tumutulong ako sa kanila, hndi ako mahigpit sa pera, ang nagustuhan. Ko lang sa magulang at mga kapatid ko is tinutulungan din nila ang mga sarili nilang umangat ang buhay. Parents ko nagtitinda ng sampaguita occasionally. Sa mga kapatid ko ako nagpapaaral, nakapagtapos na ang dalawa at my mga work na, may isa pa akong college at she’s doing well in school. Ang reason ko kasi, tutulungan ko sila para hndi lang ako ang successful sa panilya nmin. Magtulungan lang talaga.

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    1. 139yes true ito. Nagtutulungan para mapaunlad ang buhay ng isat isa. Duba maganda din sa pakiramdam na hindi lang ikaw nakakain ng masarap at nakatira sa bahay na kumportable at may pambili ng gusto pati narin kapamilya mo.

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    2. Korek ka dyan.

      At pag tumulong huwag na isumbat para nmn hindi umiyak yong tinulungan mo sayang nmn, maaalala pa nila yong sumbat na kapalit ng pagtulong.

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    3. 3:04 yan nga ang reason ko bakit ko sila tinutulungan, na hindi lang ako ang tumatamasa ng magandang buhay. Alam ko kasi ang hirap ng buhay kaya hanggat maari eh matulungan ko sila, very deserving nman ksi eh.

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