Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Insta Scoop: Gab Valenciano Grateful to be Out of Hospital, Generates Awareness about Mental Health



Images courtesy of Instagram: gabvalenciano

64 comments:

  1. break na ata sila nung gf. di dumalaw eh!

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    1. gf? doesn't he have a wife?

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    2. 1:10 huli ka na sa balita,they parted ways ng first wife di ba.

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  2. Let me just preface this by saying that mental illness is a tough condition for anybody to have; and using social media to journal one’s journey through the illness may not be the best way to heal oneself.

    It is not clear what Gab has. I think he has made a vague attempt to “open up” to the public in the past, but stopped short at saying exactly what it is that he is diagnosed with, hence such post was not received as well as expected. Here again is another post that vaguely attempts to let people know that he is suffering from some sort of mental illness but for some reason (I think) he expects the public to “just know” what he is going through. If he wishes to be a champion for those suffering mental illness, he needs to be more open so that the public can understand how he relates to what he posts, if he is anything less than open, he will only be misunderstood because people will ask questions and follow-up with more questions from him. Ayaw yata niya masyado ma-expose, pero being “almost open” about such things is not going to help him get the full support and understanding he wants, no matter how much he says or expresses that “he doesn’t care what others think” about him or his posts. In the end, the results of his social media campaign might just negatively affect his recovery.

    Get well soon Gab.

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    1. True. Siguro stay close muna siya with family at kapag napagdaanan na niya tsaka siya magsabi kung ano yung naging sakit niya. Parang nung naoperahan sa puso father niya, nagkwento at nagpasalamat noong tapos na. Mas susuporta mga tao kapag alam nila kung ano sinusuportahan nila. Stay close ka na muna sa family mo Gab para gumaling ka.

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    2. Agree 1:15. Add ko Lang rin, yung regular sharing sa social media, marami rin yung magbibigay ng unsolicited advice sa mental illness na hindi naman applicable at baka maka trigger pa ng kalungkutan sa kanya.

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    3. He already admitted via a CNN report that he has bipolar disorder - which, fyi, is a neurobiological dysfunction. People shouldn't have to expose all the details of their problems to "deserve" empathy. Clearly he is already suffering even if he does not disclose his diagnosis. Any person who demands a confessional of details from others is simply being a gossip. Put yourself in his place. If you had a huge problem, would you want people, even strangers, to demand of you to narrate every detail of your personal problem before they offer you some comfort or pity? Try being human for a while and exercising a bit of empathy for Gab.

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    4. Wala naman masama akong nakita o nabasa sa comment nung 1:15. Hindi rin naman humingi ng details. Sabi nga baka ayaw niya rin ma expose masyado, pero dahil nga doon kaya matamlay ang mga tao kay Gab. Baka daw pwede lumayo muna sa socmed. Yun maman ang mga comments mostly. Parang wala naman nag iisip ng masama o nag pe pressure for details.

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    5. No he doesn’t have to disclose details, but the public will always ask him about it. People will ask for various reasons but that is the nature of being public about one’s life. To say that people need to try being human is condescending and insulting when he is the one who put himself in the middle of a public campaign to advocate for mental illness. People will ask him pointed questions about his own challenges because he gave the public that access. Don’t be naive 2:59, it would be difficult to protect him in social media, unless you have the energy to fight off everyone who has a question to ask or a comment about him and his illness.

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    6. You can’t regulate the public feedback once you put your life out on social media. That is the painful truth 259. Unfortunately for Gab, that is how he chose to go though his illness, by being public about it. Maybe he thrives in public attention whether good or bad, as long as he is present in people’s minds he doesn’t mind the negative feedbacks.

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    7. 259 if that's the case, then it really is a good idea for him to stay off social media. It appears that less that stellar response from the public also triggers his depression (i'm basing this off of his past rants).

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    8. 259, YAS!!! 👏👏👏

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    9. 2:59 you do realize it’s gab who’s constantly posting about his mental health journey? He makes it public & he’s aware people will have opinions, so if he didn’t want any usolicited advice, then he needs remake it private and not post for all of social media to see! I agree with the anon, that if he truly does want to help people with metal Heath issues then he has to be open! He’s been in and out of the hospital yet no one really knows what he’s going through because he is vague about it. So we can’t really fault anyone who criticizes him.

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    10. But he admitted in his recent CNN PH interview that he was diagnosed last year with bipolar disorder and clinical depression. Dunno lang if that was the first time he disclosed the diagnosis.

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    11. Tama,maybe he might want to vlog about it.To show people what bipolar disorder is.I mean it is not just celebrities suffering from this condition.

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    12. @259 Duh hindi naman lahat nanunuod at nakasubaybay kay Gab. Dapat klinaro nya yun sa post nya. Assumero naman kasi na dapat alam na ng madla.

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    13. Maybe his family can produce a documentary by with a well-versed journalist on the matter of mental illness. Gab, along with others suffering from mental illness can be featured in it. That will be a better way to provide awareness to the public. A documentary, if well done, will bridge the gap and provide answers to those of us who know little about the subject. Gab can use that as a platform to speak to his intended audience. That is a better vehicle than vlogging to chronicle his journey in a very raw manner. The intended audience might become vulnerable to the vlog’s content and negatively affect their recovery.

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    14. Mas gusto ko nga mag vlog itong si Gab about bipolar.Para malaman ng tao at mas lalong maintindihan kung ano ang pinagdadaanan ng isang celebrity na may ganito.Kulang kasi sa Pilipinas ang pagunawa sa mga Mental Health issues.

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  3. I have severe depression, it is not easy for me and for my husband as he needs to be always there to check me and be assured that i am good and the kids are good. Having mental health is like a curse, you have it but not many will believe it, you want it gone but you dont know how to remove it. Wish for him to stop social media for the meantime.

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    1. It is actually good for him if it is an outlet at the same time very informative so that more Filipinos would understand what a person with bipolarity goes through.Mas maiintindihan.

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    2. Mas maiintindihan kung meeting mental health professional na kasali sa vlogs niya. Hindi yung siya lang nag vavlog at nag sasabi ng mga bagay bagay. That is irresponsible. Iba iba ang pinagdadaanan ng mga taong meron mental illness, they are all very vulnerable kaya yung pa vlog vlog ni Gab na siya lang nagbibigay ng kung anong opinion niya baka makasama pa yan sa kanya ay sa mga ibang target audience niya.

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    3. @1051 in my case its not, social media triggers my depression as i can see negativities. He needs to focus on himself and heal first, when he is ok then he can do this to help others.

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    4. 1:42 hindi yan pwede may privacy act between doctors disclosing the prognosis of a patient.Kaya siya na lang mag disclose kung ano ang comfortable sa kanya.

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  4. Social media is not kind to those who lick their wounds publicly and walk like a wounded puppy expecting to be given allowances. Social media is a jungle filled with all sorts of harmful characters that will not help someone who needs to go through a tough life challenge. Taking a break from social media should help you focus on getting better.

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    1. I think he likes the validation or attention that he gets when he posts on social media.

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    2. @8:17, that is the root of the problem...

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    3. Hindi masama yan dahil kilala naman din siya kahit papano.Buti nga yan at very informative.

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  5. I dont think it is healthy for him to be in Social Media kung may mental health issues sya. At hindi rin nakakatulong ang pagtolerate ng parents nya sa pagiging active nya dito.

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  6. Yung mga lumalaban sa malubhang sakit, lumalaban ng tahimik. Walang mga battle cries, hindi naghahanap ng public support. Laser focus sa pag harap sa sakit na kailangan labanan ng buong tapang, ng puso, ng isipan. Mahirap ngunit nakakapit sa panampalataya kadamay ang mga mahal sa buhay...hanggang gumaling. Mga sugat maghihilom, mga sakit matatabunan ng pagmamahal ng pamilya, malalapit na kaibigan, ng Panginoon.

    Hindi ka pagagalingin ng mga Instagram posting mo. Wala kang mapapala sa public approval o affirmations. Lumingon ka sa iyong Ama at sundin mo ang gabay niya, ang ginawa niya noong dumating siya sa oras na nag-agaw buhay siya. Tularan mo ang pagiging mapagkumbaba niya. Hindi mo kailangan lumaban sa buhay na mayroon ka, sa mga pagsubok na dumarating, kailangan mong yakapin ang mga ito at pagtibayin ang iyong sarili. Walang pride. Walang hang-ups sa kung ano ang dapat maging image mo. Kapag nasanay kang gawin ito, Makakahinga ka ng maluwag, mararamdaman mo ang balat mo, maririnig mo ang bawat tibok ng puso mo, hanggang sa maging ikaw ay Ikaw.

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  7. Guys what are the early signs If you have depression? Me kasi hinde ko talga alam, gusto ko pa check but I’m scared Go... I have My down Times If i’m alone, mabilis ako mainis ESP pag hinde ko nakukuha gusto ko, i’m so sensitive, sleep less nights, thinking too Much, have my frustration too. Losing hope , tired and worth less. Are these signs na ba? Or Just sad lang ako? Promise hinde ko alam talaga

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    1. Magpatingin la sa doktor. Wag lang mag rely sa social media for diagnosis, that the time to see a your general practitioner for assessment and they will refer you to a specialist, if necessary, you owe yourself that.

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    2. Hindi din ako sure eh kasi ako nagka depression naman ako dahil sa gamot na inionom ko dati for a different sickness.So kahit ano pa yan,magpatingin ka po.Dun ko lang din nalaman eh na may effect yung gamot lalo na if it affects hormones.

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    3. Please have yourself checked most likely you are

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  8. I think there are people who empathize on social media but the problem is it compounds the problem. Others show empathy by tolerating Gab’s self-pity posts, others massage his ego by encouraging him to keep talking on his experiences half-baked. People have a different level of expectation because he is a celebrity, which unfortunately comes with the territory, and because of that all such public declarations may be affecting him negatively in some way. Mental illness is tough enough to deal with within one’s own little world, and to open that door and let the world wide web give you their buy-in along with whatever support that comes through is quite dangerous, think about it. This is painful to watch unfold on social media, and because it’s there we all comment about it. You can’t expect everyone to be gentle with him because the world is so vast and many will simply not understand what he is going through. I am not being hard on him, I’m simply talking about the method by which he decided to manage his journey—he chose this tough road called social media, instead of choosing to be around those closest to him. It will be very tough for him.

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    1. Ateng,this is beneficial if you are talking about the Philippines.Walang may alam sa ganyang problem.Only the elite.So maganda din na mapanood yan ng lahat para naman magising ang mga kababayan natin na may ganito palang uri ng sakit.Ok.

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  9. Hindi pa kasi laganap ang kaalaman sa mental illness dito sa bansa natin. Kaya nagtatanon ga tao kay Gab ng specific questions dahil sinabi niya na meron siyang bipolar disorder. Mahirap kasi wala rin sa kanya lahat ng sagot at mahirap sagutin mga tanong ng mga taong hindi mo kilala. Pero wala e, ginusto niya gawing public yung sakit niya kaya dapat spect niya yung mga tanong sa kanya.

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    1. Para sa mga sagot kailangan ang tanungin ng mga kababayan natin ay mga eksperto sa Bipolar Disorder at hindi si Gab.Nagbigay lang siya ng mukha sa bipolar disorder pero hindi siya doktor.So mas maigi na komunsulta sa doktor.

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  10. Keep on praying Gab

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  11. I have mild depression and anxiety disorder, it's not easy to dwell with it every now and then. There were times you just feel so useless and hopeless. Social media also adds to depression.

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  12. He was in the hospital again? And why does he need to post about it every time? He’s always preaching about working on himself and then ends up in the hospital and starts posting again😑 maybe if he would jus relay off social media, he’d feel better. Idk there’s just something about him that doesn’t come off sincere, he comes off very attention seeking especially since he couldn’t make it in showbiz so doing things like this keep him relevant.

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  13. Public discussions online regarding one’s mental illness is a slippery slope, especially if a medical professional is absent from such discussion. First, you get the accolades for being courageous, then many will empathize and support you. But then, the next few times you post about it again, people (read: strangers) will want answers to their questions because you sparked their curiosity. Unfortunately, not everybody will be careful or cautious or eloquent when asking questions, lines will be blurred, and a simple unadulterated query or observation will be tagged as unkind, unfeeling, or worse, inhuman. I think in general, FP followers are sensitive and smart, and try to understand posts like those of Gab’s. Loyal FP followers either post their own experiences to show that they understand and relate to him, or others will advise that social media will unlikely help in his journey to healing, or others will offer unsolicited advice based on their personal experience or acquired knowledge from reading online articles regarding the subject, or others are even medical professionals themselves. But there are still those who will criticize the manner by which he takes on affectations to impress the public or whoever reads his bold musings on the subject. Either way, it would be cumbersome to have to defend against each and every comment you don’t like or don’t understand 2:59. Maybe take things with a grain of salt. So far, nobody here has attacked Gab like you seem to have interpreted. All-in-all, I think people are solicitous because they want to relate to him, and/or see him triumph over his illness, thus the advice to stay off social media.

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    1. Di wag magbasa ng comments.Ang sa akin naman,maganda yung pinapakita ni Gab at sana mag vlog siya about it dahil dito sa Pilipinas hindi pa alam ng karamihan sa mga tao ang ganitong kundisyon.Maganda din na pinapakita na walang masama na pumunta sa mga espesyalista o doktor kung ikaw ay may karamdaman.

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  14. Get well soon, Gab!

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  15. Minsan kasi the reason why people post it in social media not putting all the details but ung informing lang na may mental health issue ung tao is for awareness. Awareness kung paano sila dapat iapproach ng ibang tao or ng mga taong kakilala nila. Kasi yung iba hindi alam na may pinagdadaanan ung tai, yung iba akala na napakastrong nung tao, ung iba akala emotera or arte lang ang pinagdadaanan.
    Gusto lang nila na maging aware ung mga tao na eto weak ako may mental health issue ako so please approach me nicely or treat me nicely kasi baka pag ndi makadagdag pa sa pinagdadaanan ko ngaun.

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    1. Correct ka! Actually dito kasi sa Pilipinas hindi man maintindihan ng mga tao ang mga ganitong karamdaman.Lalo na sa remote areas,minsan sinasapian daw kaya dinadala sa albularyo o minsan sabi aswang pero hindi naman masamang tao.May Mental issue.Kaya magands na nagbibigay kaalaman yang mga post ni Gab.

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    2. Then maybe he should just say that. Hindi yung kung ano anong battle cry. Confusing kasi ang message niya. First of all, bakit para sa buong mundo kung message for friends lang pala? Second, bakit hindi gawing more personal? Kasi sinasabi niyang hindi siya humihingi ng awa, na para sa ibang tao mga pinopost niya pero ang sinasab mo gusto niya bigyan siya ng allowances. Wala naman masama magsabi na mahina ako kailangan ko ng konting pag unawa. Ayusin sana yung pag communicate o paglatag ng message para maayos rin ang landing sa buong mundo na makakabasa ng mga post niya.

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  16. Its like having a 3rd eye. No one believes you have it because its not tangible

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  17. Di ko gets. People who love God are not sad and hopeless.

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    1. Teh ke you love God or even if you are an atheist,pwede kang magkaroon ng Bipolar Disorder.So kahit sini,mayaman,mahirap etc.

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    2. You are absolutely right. People who thrive in God’s grace are not perfect by any means; but they are resilient and they find joy in everything that comes from Him—yes, even in carrying their own little crosses, they find joy in that. Because in the final analysis, they know that they are not alone and that God will never forsake them.

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    3. Christians will also experience problem,but what makes it different is how they cope with the problem.Nakikita mo naman na very supportive ang parents ni Gab.

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  18. Narerequire ang hospital stay kapag nagkaroon ng incidence ang pasyente na baka gusto niya saktan sarili niya. Sana naman hindi yun ang nangyari. Get well Gab. Iwas socmed ka na muna.

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    1. Meron din naman na yung pasyente ang nagpapa confine to regulate the meds.Kasi hindi pwedeng mag self medicate.Kaya minomonitor ng mga doktor.

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  19. Ok lang mag socmed if he is encouraging awareness.Wag na lang tignan ang comment section. It is a double edged sword.there are people who will appreciate you and those who will bash you.

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  20. Person with bipolar disorder here Gab and I am just basing this on my own experience. Social media usage, esp during the course of treatment, can exacerbate symptoms of mania and hypomania. Be very careful.

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    1. I saw an episode of Modern Love featuring Anne Hathaway and dun ko naintindihan what a person with bipolar disorder goes through...talaga palang extremes and hypomania just hits you all of a sudden...and only medication can pretty much make it better

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    2. I have a loved one who is bipolar.Struggle talaga para sa kanya kahit ang ordinaryong pamumuhay.Kung minsan nga ayaw bumangon,ayaw maligo.Minsan naman pag manic,palaaway.Struggle kasi hindi daw ma control ng tao kung bakit ganun siya.Nakakaawa.

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  21. Our prayers are with you Gab.

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  22. In short and in layman's term ano po sakto ang problema ni Gab?

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    1. Bipolar,depende sa klase or cycles.Kung minsan ubod ka ng saya at very active,next bigla ka na lang depressed.Ayaw bumangon,walang gana mangausap.Nagkukulong sa kwarto.Tapos balik sa pagiging manic or walang kapaguran,masayahin ulit,mabilis kumilos,magsalita.

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