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Nalungkot ako for ellen
ReplyDeleteAko din 😔 i like them as a couple
DeleteSayang naman. Lalong masaya na sana Pasko nila.
ReplyDeleteTry again, still plenty of time
ReplyDeleteMedyo insensitive.
Deletebakit insensitive? dba encouraging nga? supporting ganern
DeleteBakit naman? I think what 4:17 means is bata pa si Ellen at pwede pa magkaanak uli. OA ka naman sa pagka-sensitive.
DeleteNot 4:17 but paano ba dapat 7:37?
DeleteHala wala ng lugar sa mga pawoke dito! I don’t think she mean harm sa try again. Ano gusto nyo sabihin wag na sila magtry? Ganern? 😑
Delete11:11 and 11:20 Because we don’t know how much they’ve tried. And also, it’s easy to say that there’s plenty of time but it’s not about time. It’s about our body. Saying nothing is the best. Send virtual hug sa stranger. And if this happens to your friend or anyone dear to you, a hug would suffice.
DeleteYan yung isa sa mga pinaka insensitive na comment, ano? They experienced a loss. Parang di pwede malungkot? Pag namatayan ka ng asawa sabihin kaya sayo "try again" tignan natin kung ano maramdaman mo
DeleteYes, insensitive. She lost a baby. Pag sinabi mong try again para bang ganun kadali. There's trauma involved aside from grief. Paano dapat? Keep your mouth shut kung ganyan rin lang lalabas sa bibig nyo. Should this happen to any of your friends or family, better to offer condolences than toxic positivity.
DeleteLuh 7:37 ikaw naman ang sensitive nyan. Kumbaga pampagaan lamg ng loob yung statement e. Buti sana kung sinabi okay lang yan yung ibang tao nga mas mabigat pa dyan ang pinagdadaanan.
DeleteSiguro ang gustong reply ni 7:37 ay boohoo too late d na kau mga bata.#sensitive
Delete11:11 you would only understand kung na experience mo na din. I had two miscarriages and 1 ectopic pregnancy. My partner and I have been trying for 7 years now. So if someone tells me na try again, yeah that’s what we’ve been doing for the past 7 years! At alam mo, sobrang nakakafrustrate at ang sakit sa dibdib every time we fail. No words can console me as a woman because I blame myself and how I must have treated my body to go through all of this.
DeleteMakikita mo sa thread na to yung mga basta basta na lang magbibitaw ng salita ng hindi pinag iisipan. May mga sitwasyon na hindi mo na kailangang may sabihin pa.
DeleteNatatawa ko sa ka OA yan ng nga tulad ni 7:37. Yung pag kunwari may nadapa sa harap niya, bawal sabihan ng okay lang yan, tayo ka na. Kelangan ang sasabihin, oh my gosh nadapa ka! May masakit ba? Sige feel the pain, your feelings are valid, let it sink in. Wag kang tatayo agad, damdamin mo muna yung pagkadapa mo.
DeletePara sakin na nakunan at nawalan, yes insensitive. Kasi kahit na sabihin mo pa sakin na bata pako and to try again sobrang dali. Pero to be honest, sobrang hirap. Lalo na kung ilang beses ka na nakunan.
DeleteOk lang yung try again pero still plenty of time? May mga malapit sa akin na nakunan at nahirapan na makabuo ulit. Nag IVF na at nagpaplano na nga magsurrogate just to have baby. Plus yung trauma. It takes a lot of courage to try again. Hindi madaling mamatayan ng anak.
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Halatang andaming insensitive and di alam paano sumagot sa gantong situation and worse, mocking the person who commented how insensitive it is to say something like this to a couple who recently experienced a loss. Pwede naman na mag sympathize and leave it at that. Like "I'm sorry for your loss..." or "I'm sorry to hear that...".
Delete12:53 Never heard of widows remarrying? Hindi nya ininvalidate ang grief. Optimistic sya na bata pa naman sila so they can try again. Wag kayo masyado balat sibuyas at ginagawang issue lahat ng bagay.
DeletePampagaan ng loo ang try again means wag mawalan ng pag asa at mapressure, may time pa. Sus!
Delete12:41- THANK YOU! As someone who has been trying for years, the best thing to do is say nothing or give a hug. I have been hounded by my husband’s titas and female family members at every chance they get. They believe they are entitled to updates when it’s really between the 2 of us. Unsolicited advice makes worse. Hindi kayo doktors at hindi nyo alam ang health ko!
Deleteparang 4:17 was only trying to be encouraging. yung socmed generation talagang wala nang benefit benefit of the doubt puro pa warla lagi. parang mga predators na ready to pounce.
Delete12:55 Nakunan ka na ba para sabihin na sensitive si 7:37?? Namatay ang baby , kahit ilang weeks lang yan, baby parin nila at masakit yun. Telling someone to just try again means di manlang inaacknowledge na may baby na namatay. Parang gamit lang na walang importance.
DeleteAlso, kahit mabuntis uli si ellen, it would never erase the fact na may namatay na baby.
Kung insensitive ka, tanggapin mo yun at magbago, hindi yun ibang tao ang sasabihan mong sensitive just because you are not. Gets mo na????
8:26 girl, if you've been in that situation you'll understand why some people think it's insensitive. Yung mamatayan ka na nga ng kapamilya na nakasama mo ng matagal na panahon napakasakit na, what more pa if baby pa yan na inexpect niyong mag-asawa/partner? There will be no words to describe especially a mother's pain na dinala yan sa sinapupunan niya kahit pa ilang weeks lang. Encouraging? Auntie, hindi yan basta basta bagay na maipapanalo o maa-achieve mo para mang-encourage ka! Hindi lang socmed generation ang sisi, nasa tao yan. Gusto mo kasi lagi kang may say. Minsan pwede ding manahimik na lang.
Delete12:04 actually i was in that situation, and i didnt conceive anymore. so yes im childless. and at that time i appreciated people who were encouraging me and my husband and giving us hope. pati OB ko was saying the same, we were still young, there’s plenty of time, she can help us like she helped others etc etc. but God had other plans for us. so ok na? baka ikaw ang di pa naranasan ung ganyang situation. if you havent then you dont know how it feels. nag oopinion ka lang din based on your own ‘theories’.
DeleteButthurt yan 1:07? Hehe I don't believe you. You're also just like everyone else here giving opinion based on your own theories. In short, mapagpanggap ka lang to invalidate someone's comment.
DeleteReading the comments here siguro it helps a lot sa timing and how the message is delivered. If recent pa yung loss, parang insensitive yung dating and enough na maki simpatya. If some time has passed, an in depth conversation can be made and tanchahin if something like this will be well received within the conversation.
DeleteIba iba kasi tayo ng situation and pinagdadaanan and wala namang one size fits all difficult situations like this. In all things always be kind.
I like Ellen coz she is real and not pretentious.Ang ibang kasi..no comment..lol
ReplyDeleteKaya maging sensitive lagi kung magtatanong kelan ang isang couple magkaka anak.
ReplyDeleteThe perfect answer to that insensitive question: isang malaking sampal! ✋🏻😤
Delete12:26 talaga? nagawa mo?
DeleteMinsan hindi talaga ibinibigay ang lahat sa isang tao.
ReplyDeleteGrabe ka naman sa pagiging insensitive at maka put down ng isang tao. Kaya mo sabihin yan in front of a friend or family while they're goimg theoigh a loss?
DeletePero sa iba binibigay at sobra sobra pa?
DeleteYour comment reeks of insecurity. Does that make you feel better ngayong nawalan ng baby yung tao?
DeleteTrue! 11:35I know a cousin like that, mahadera at inggitera. When imI achieved something but I lost a lovesone the same year. Yan ang sabi nya. Di ko daw makukuha lahat. The nerve? Well nakarma din naman siya. Dami din nawala sa knya. But I wasn’t happy for her misfortune.
Delete8:57 sa mga taong ganyan mag isip talagang hndi ibibigay such a bitter insensitive comment
Deletethat’s sad… hope they’ll have a rainbow baby soon. 🙏
ReplyDeletenu ba yan? mejo oversharing from Derek. From raspa, to iud. if im ellen, il be sad he shared too much info.well ako lng naman to.
ReplyDeleteToxic talaga s Pinoy yung sa mag-asawa kelan pa kayo magkakaanak?… kung single naman, kelan ka mag-aasawa? Di naman dahil wlaang anak eh hindi na buong pamilya. At yung statement na “ Nakunan okay Lang yan magkakaanak pa naman kayo tsaka meron na kayong anak .” Dapat itigil na yang kakayanin na yan.
ReplyDeleteIsama mo pa yung “Ay, ang taba mo!”
DeleteLahat na lang, ikinagalit mo 😂.
DeleteKatulad nung nangyari sa akin before. Imagine, after a month na nakunan ako, tatanungin ako kung may laman na ulit? SUPER INSENSITIVE!!!
DeleteGosh how insensitive. Akala nya siguro ganinnlang kadi yon😂
DeleteSarap ni derek pag gusto mag focus sa family stop working lang😭
ReplyDeleteTo those who did not experience makunan, gusto ko sabihin na sana di nyo maexperience to. Napakasakit, yung sakit na walang pagsidlan. You literally are in the 'what if' realm. What if nabuhay, ano kaya itsura nya, gusto nya ba color na to, gusto nya ba magplay neto, kkainin kaya nya to? Paglipas ng mga taon, ano kaya kurso sana nya, ano kaya sana work nya. It's endless.
ReplyDeleteStay strong.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteKahit pwede pa sila magbuntis you will still grieve sa baby mo na namatay. Its going to be full of what ifs your whole life- ano kaya itsura nya, ilang taon na si baby sana ngaun.. i wish people are more sensitive
ReplyDeleteang hirap mag comment ngayon ano. hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar. yung gusto mo maging optimistic pero you need to feel their pain.
ReplyDeleteComment whatever you like but expect repurcussions kung may pagka insensitive sinabi mo. Kahit years ago mo sinabi mga insensitive comments mo, yung sinabihan mo might not say anything but baka na hurt din yun. Mas vocal lang mga tao ngayon to call out such things.
DeleteMahigpit na yakap at panalangin. Yan ang best & sincere na pagdamay sa kaibigan, kapamilya o kahit hindi mo kilala
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