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Sunday, September 25, 2022

Mikael Daez and Megan Young Discuss Having Kids, Fine with Being Child-free

Image courtesy of Instagram: meganbata

Video courtesy of YouTube: Megan & Mikael Podcast

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  1. tagal na din nila ah.

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    1. Linisin muna nila ang kalat nila sa house. Hindi marunong sa chores. Ang dugyot tignan kaya.

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    2. Mag paka minimalists nalang sila! Kung ganyang makalat sila at tamad maglinis. Nakita ko nga apartment nila very cluttered juskolord.

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    3. 1:02 imagine kung may anak

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    4. Ang sarap kaya ng walang anak, anytime pede kami magtravel ni hubby, walang isipin hehe

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    5. 102 helloooo busy sila! Sa tingin mo may time pa sila maglinis?

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    6. Pwede po mag hire ng maglilinis

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    7. 10:37 bakit pati loob ng bahay pakialaman nyo pa? Hayaan nyo sila magkusa. Kalurks! Pati bahay pupunahin.

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    8. 11:24 one day baka mag beg kayo to have one pero hindi ibigay.

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    9. Kala ko naman dugyot talaga yunghouse. Normal kalat langnaman

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    10. 5:03 PM. Kami din busy kami, may maliit din kaming bagets na gusto parati buhat. Wala kaming yaya dahil hindi uso dito, pero di kami ganyan ka kalat sa bahay namin kahit puro gadgets kami. Busy kamo sila sa gaming mag hapon, yan ang tamang term.

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    11. 9:18 e di ikaw na galing mo eh 😁

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    12. 5:03 i don't think they are that busy to the point na hindi na makapag-ayos ng bahay. Marami ngang time gumawa ng podcast at mag games. Lol.

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  2. Your body your choice pero personally if ganyan ka ganda lahi ko why not kahit isa dalawa...

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    1. 11:30 depends din kung hindi sila nahihirapan magbuntis

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  3. Child free? Yung puro pa kayo games eh ang tanda nyo na mag asawa. Tapos pag nagtatantrums pa si meagan para ding bata. Kasi nga may pagkachildish pa kayo. Isip bata ba.

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    1. Hahaha. Napansin ko din yan. Yung condo din nila parang gusto ko ayusin ang interior at iligpit ang kalat, mukhang walang hilig si Megan sa homemaking. πŸ˜… I like them as a couple pero I don't think ready na sila magka-anak.

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    2. What's wrong with that? Affected life mo kapag ayaw nila ng anak? If I had the means to just play my whole life, would have been nice. Not everyonr wants to push themselves to work hard just to provide for a kid. Tapos tatawagain niyo sacrifice. Fault ba ng bata na pinanganak niyo sila.

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    3. Lol do you know them personally aside from watching them through their social media accounts? Nahirapan ka ba sa mga pinag gagawa nila? Nawalan ka ba ng work? Nde ka ba nakakain dahil sa knila? Humingi ba sila ng pera sau pang games nila? Get a life! Dme alam!

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    4. That's the point they're still happy na 2 LANG SILA MUNA ok wag ka maki alam, they have a LOT of options naman

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    5. Child like bec. they still play games but not childish. As we can see they are financially able, hindi yan quality ng isang childish.

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    6. Sowws! Pakialam mo ba eh buhay nila yan.. their choice, respect that!

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    7. Ang Dami mo ngang anak pero stress ka nman at hirap na hirap Sa life eh di mainam na maging childless

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    8. Remember Megan during PBB days?.. Yup! xa yung ngtatago ng Food sa fridge pag ayaw nyang magshare. Haha

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    9. Feeling mo naman. Buhay nila yan Hinde mo Buhay. Let them be. That’s what they choose e. Bakit mo pakikielam dahil sa nakikita mo Lang Hinde mo naman sila kilala personally. Gosh. Mga ugali Pinoy mga ganito mindset

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    10. That’s their choice. Di naman ikaw yung nagshshoulder ng bills and expenses nila

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    11. 12:19 tapos ibeblame pa yung anak bakit ganun buhay ng parents as if the child asked to be born

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    12. 1:06 as if hindi naman scripted PBB at iba pang reality shows

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    13. Kelan pa nasukat ng pagkakaroon ng anak ang maturity? Pangit ng mindset mo

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    14. So what if they still play games and are a little messy? They've both built successful careers and have good reputations. If they want to remain childlike and don't want kids, that's their choice. Hindi ka ba nakapagenjoy ng buhay mo? Lol

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    15. 1:06 at hndi tumutulong sa chores

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    16. Anong problema if they want to play games and ayaw pa mag anak? Titigil ba mundo? Let them be. Kesa naman magpadala sila sa pressure ng mga marites na pakialamero at paladesisyon ng buhay ng iba

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    17. kaya nga sya megan young. bata pa. haha. joke lang po

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    18. I have two teen-aged kids and we play mobile games together as a family. We also share anime and even go to conventions with them and buy them anime merch if they like. Are we childish or child-like just because of that? Killjoy ka lang. Lol.

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  4. Child free....for now. But what if dumating yung araw na kailangan mo ng karamay when you're at the end of the line? Dear, hindi habang buhay malakas tayo.

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    1. Haha nag anak para papasanin anak sa sarili nya pagtanda. Kawawa mga anak mo sayo

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    2. So magaanak ka para may mag alaga sayo? Ew

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    3. Just like hindi retirement plan ang mga anak, hindi rin sila caregivers lang. Kung magaanak ka lang para may magalaga sayo pag tanda, wag ka na lang mag procreate lol

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    4. Afford naman nila ng caregivers at hospice care kung sakali. Taga-alaga ng matanda at retirement plan lang ba talaga tingin mo sa anak? I pity your kids, you only have them so they can serve you. Kadiri.

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    5. Yung mga gaya mo ang nakakasuka! FYI hindi lahat ng anak aalagaan ang magulang nila Sa pagtanda! Kahit pa sabihin mo na napalaki mo cla ng maayos, once nakapag-asawa yan at nagka-anak hindi na Ikaw ang priority!

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    6. Kung ganito mindset niyo, lalong wag dapat kayong mag-anak. Your children are not your insurance or caretakers.

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    7. Didnt know para pala sa 'end of the line' ang pag aanak. But kung magkaka anak man ako, I dont want to burden them with my 'end of the line.' Go and get a life, kids!

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    8. Sabi ni 12:03 karamay, not alalay. How sad it would be to die alone. I have kids of my own but I don’t expect them to take care of me in my old age. But just to have someone in life, a family, even at the end of your life is just simply a joy.

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    9. 1:22 karamay not alalay?? so ano ung “hindi habang buhay malakas tayo?” Try again lol

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    10. 12:03 sorry ha pero ung karamay nahhhhh! Share ko Lang mga kapatid ng Nanay ko madaming anak pero Wala ka maasahan sa kanila.Madaming mga anak , May mga trabho namn pero di mo maasahan.Di din sapat now basta mag anak ka nlng kasi pressured ng society.Again if mag aanak ka wag mo isipin ung karamay,or let’s say alagaan ka nila pagtanda kasi Dapat hindi ganyn.Yan Lang napa share & Kahit ako nag Iba na din opinion ko sa anak pero I’m not closing my doors namn charezzz!

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    11. I have 2 kids, too and no, not expecting them to look after me or be a burden to them at my old age. But it would be comforting to to have someone that cares about you, know that you actually lived and existed. Lives that you've been a part of and nurtured.

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    12. 12:03 1:22 you have other family naman and friends

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    13. I don’t like the idea na expected mo alagaan ka ng anak mo pag tanda mo kaya ka nag anak. What if they have dreams na physically malayo sila sayo? You expect them to give up on their dreams just because responsibility nila na alagaan ka? What if financially hindi nila afford alagaan ka? Plan for your future, wag umasa sa iba!

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    14. I have family and friends na pwede ko karamay when time comes.

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    15. Just make sure na palakihin ng maayos ang mga anak. Yung iba kasi pag umalis ng bahay when they become adults, hindi mo na makikita ulit. Daming ganyan dito sa US. They haven’t talked to family for decades talaga.

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    16. parang ang sabi naman ni 12:03 ay karamay. grabe naman ang reaction mga sis. di naman pera lang ang basehan. iba pa din ung magkasama , magaaruga sayo at may magmamahal sayo pagtanda mo.

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    17. 1:22 it doesn't mean na childless pagtanda eh wala ng joy πŸ™‚

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    18. Anak lamg ba magpapasaya sa inyo pagtanda? Wag gagawin insurance at caregiver mga anak please lang. End the cycle of using kids as your safety net when you get older.

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    19. Hindi ba pwedeng kapag matanda na may mga apo kang makikita or madadalaw if ever bored ka na sa buhay. O kaya as grandparents, may mag spoil ng anak nyo maski papano. Pwede ring ganyan na pananaw. Wla lang, ang iba kasi kapag matanda na, mag isa tlaga sa buhay. Walang dumadalaw o nangungumusta kung buhay pa ba. Kapag matanda ka na, parang joy na rin na makikita yung anak mo or apo.

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    20. 12:01 wag ka mag anak kung hangang sa pagtanda mo iniisp mo sarili mo

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    21. Nakakalungkot naman yung mga nagaassume dito sa comments na gagawing insurance ang mga anak. Ako nag anak ako because we are building a family, a family that is founded in love. I’m not expecting my kids to be my caretaker in my old age, pero as a mom I long for their company. I think yung mga nagcocomment dito na nagsasabi na gagawing caretaker yung mga anak sa mga nagsasabing they want their family at the end of their days ay probably walang mga kids pa. It’s ok to long for them, dahil mahal mo sila. It doesn’t mean I am obligating them to take care of me pero ano man lang yung mangumusta or magspend time? Ang sad ng perspective ng mga bagong henerasyon ngayon. Ano ba yun after umalis ng bahay when they reach their adulthood, estranged na sa isa’t isa?

      And ako nasasabi kong joy may anak dahil I experience both before without and now with. Mahirap pero hindi ko ipagpapalit itong motherhood. Of course you can find joy in other things, but to have kids, is on a different level. Especially watching them tigether, when we have meals together kahit simple lang, I wouldn’t trade even for comfort.

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    22. 1233 true. Ewan sa mga yan parang may pinaglalaban o kaya ang bitter sa buhay. πŸ˜‚ Nkakaloka diba. Caregiver ako kaya alam ko gaano kalungkot ang ibang matatanda na wala man lang dumadalaw maski once a month. Maski nga once a year, happy na ang iba. Yung iba tlaga dito galit na galit. Bakit?! πŸ˜‚

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    23. Classic boomer mentality. Please, children are NOT retirement plans.

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    24. 5:58 Agree. I think parents who have this kind of thinking don't have any idea how burdensome this mentality is for us kids. Kumbaga, I can't take the risks I want to take and pursue MY dreams because I always need to think about them.

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    25. 2:54 caregiver ka so alam mong majority din ng mga matatanda dun ay may anak right. lels

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    26. 1.22 FYI napakabroad ng word na karamay. Karamay sa pagbayad ng bills? Karamay sa gawaing bahay? Karamay saan?? Well, she talked about when they get old and frail but no karamay. So yun na yun.

      It's just sad that you mistake the role of a husband as the role of a child.

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    27. 12.33 meron kang perceived obligation ng anak kasi in your context sabi mo "ano man lang yong magspend ng time at mangumusta" so may panunumbat ka sa anak mo kung sakaling hindi nila nagawa. Well, i understand though because you draw your happiness from them.

      I dont think it's sad. In fact that realization is good because they acceptance the uncertainty and they have an emotional maturity.

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    28. 2.54 tinanong mo ba sila o hindi? Malamang hindi. Lol. Don't assume that your feelings and their feelings are the same because your culture and their culture are not the same either. And your reasons to have a kid and their reasons to have one is not the same as well.

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  5. Pwes anakan mo ako mikael!

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    1. Baks, secure muna matres natin! Lol

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    2. The answer! Hahaha me next!

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  6. Pwede ring sinasabi lang nila na ok sila pero may iba deep inside gusto talaga magka anak. Di ko naman nilalahat kasi meron din talaga na ayaw pero yung iba kunyari lang na okay.

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    1. 1208 ganyan naman kasi minsan baks lalo nat malungkot ka. Mapapaisip ka tlaga, what if may anak ako. 😁 Pero kung enjoy mo nman ang life without kids, minsanan lang yan sasagi sa isip mo.

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    2. Mukhang hirap mkabuo sila. Kasi dati parang gusto naman na nila mgbaby para di pa dumarating

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    3. Oh my god it is possible to not really want children. Wtf.

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    4. Parang si mikael gusto niya magka baby at si maegan ayaw. Pero dahil magal ni mikael si megan, ok na din sa kanya na child free

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    5. Maraming kapatid si mikael

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    6. Posible na kunyari kung ang happiness mo ay nandun. Lol. Pero ang tanong.. bakit may say ang karamihan sa mga taong ayaw magka-anak???

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  7. Darating din yan, in God’s time.

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    1. Gosh, 1:42. Ikaw yung classmate na mahilig magcorrect ng statement kahit tama naman. Mamaru much?

      And I am not 12:13.

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    2. Who are you to dictate what this person wants to say?

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    3. Mind your own business.

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    4. Luh! Bat g na g kayo. Totoo naman pwede namang in time gusto na nila then ibigay na rin ni God. Kaloka!

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    5. 1213 Di lahat religious kagaya mo

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    6. So what’s wrong if I said that? Mind your own business. May opinion ka, ako din meron. Di puedeng irespeto? Opinion mo lang ba ang tama?

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    7. 5:14 forum to te everyone can comment. if you cant take the heat get out of the kitchen masyado kang sensitive accla hindi ka naman nilait personally.

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  8. Couples with a lot of options go lang, enjoy life, in time you will decide
    Wag nyo na sila paki alaman

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  9. Normalize choosing to be childfree

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    1. This πŸ‘ Happily married for 15 years now without children here ❤️

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    2. Yup. Besides, the world's straining with overpopulation and overconsumption. Nothing wrong with being childless - to some, it's the right path.

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  10. Personally ayoko na talaga magka anak, I am using all my fund to travel the world and give back to people who raised and love me. Because why fo we work di ba? I already witnessed hardship ng bro and sis in law ko nung nagka anak sila. We are not rich so medyo mabigat to have kids. But I will not be hypocrite, nakaka inggit minsan yung may nakikita kang kids. So I might consider it sa future if it’s not too late

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    1. Wala rin akong anak and I love to travel. Kung mag-anak man ako siguro isa lang, knowing how selfish I can be with my freedom and time. Yung kaya ko lang buhayin. I've witnessed how hard it was for my siblings who had 3 kids, ngarag talaga at nakakalosyang. I don't want that burden.

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    2. 1241 sinabi ko din yan dati na ayoko mag anak. Kuntento na ako taga alaga ng pamangkin. Kahit may asawa ako ayoko dati mag anak pero bigla ako nabuntis. Grabe naging 360 degrees pala ang buhay mo. Ibang iba. Un pla ang totoong love. Saka lang ako nakarelate na totoo palang masarap magka anak.

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    3. I’m single and no kids din. I don’t plan on marrying (but who knows in the future) pero kids no talaga. And my plan is to travel the world and enjoy life stress free.

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    4. manood kayo ng dailywire para mamulat mata ninyo. travel travel, it's ok to travel, but that shouldn't be the be all and end all na yun lang ang gusto mong gawin sa buhay mo. i have that thinking as well before but i realized that if you're a person who is capable of giving love, the best way to make sure that you are gonna leave this world in a better place is by raising another human being. when i said "raise" it could be biological or through adoption. this travel culture has transformed millennials and gen-z's to be selfish, if you haven't realize it yet. stop believing the feminist scam because you will regret it.

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    5. Ako naman I was all set na hindi na magkakanak. Parang asa lahi din kasi namin yung hirap mabuntis. Hindi ko na nga din naisip na makakapag asawa pa ko. I got married at 40 so sabi ko kay hubby e let’s save to travel. Yun ang goal. Then at 43 na nagkababy ako. So I guess when it’s meant for you e for you talaga.

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    6. Mindset ko is you CAN have it all. Totoong mababago ang buhay mo when you have kids, but you life goes on-- you can still travel and have fun.

      Hilig namin magtravel mag asawa, and now that we have 2 kids (6 yrs old and 2 months old), we made sure that we can still afford the things that we enjoy individually. Even yung spacing ng age ng kids namin were carefully planned so we can do things with our eldest, and now that our eldest is more independent, we can focus our time naman sa bunso.

      Ang sinasabi ko lang is that having kids and having a fun life are not mutually exclusive. You can have both.

      I also acknowledge the privilege that we have syempre. May decent earning and savings, may supportive family. Not everyone has those kaya talaga tumitigil.ang buhay nila once they have kids.

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    7. Nung single din ako, tinutulungan ko ang mga pinsan ko sa gastusin ng mga anak nila. Naiingit ako dati. Pero ngayong may asawa na ako, parang ayaw ko ng magkaanak sa hirap ng buhay.

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    8. 1118 true. Medyo puzzle nga ako sa iba dito na magbabago na ang buhay kapag may anak. Ano yun every month nagbabakasyon kayo? If yes, mahirap nga yan. Kung 1 to 3 times a year lang nman ang bakasyon, pwedeng pwede na may anak na dala. Ang problema lang, mas marami ka ng bagahe na dadalhin. πŸ˜‚

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    9. 7:17 true so true

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    10. 4:49 extra head during travels can be expensive din. Tapos hassle pa.

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    11. 1118 E merong ngang mga ayaw maganak, bat ka ba nakikialam

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    12. 1111 travel alone or with kids is really stressful. Jusko, yung kaylangan mong gumising ng maaga para pupuntang airport eh hassle na yun tapos uupo ka ng 10 or 12 hrs sa eroplano. πŸ˜‚ Pero yeah, mas mahal na nga. Pero kung hindi ka nman every month magtatravel keri na. Lol

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    13. 1157 hindi yan pakikialam tih. That is another persperctive na positive. Nakakaloka yung ibang comments here kung gaano ka selfish at bitter yung iba. Hindi nman ganun lahat. Lol

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    14. 3:01 sus indirectly sinasabe niyo na ding much better kayong may anak kesa dun sa wala kasi may instant caregiver kayo pagtanda. echos, kung magpapakatotoo lang tayo dito, pag tumanda kayo walang choice ang anak niyo kundi palitan kayo ng diaper specially yung mga walang means mag hire ng tagapag alaga. so ganun din yun pinakaganda niyo lang.

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    15. 908 jusko, sino ba ang nanay at tatay mo at lumaki kang ganyan. Hello, hindi karamihan gaya mo mag isip no. Kung lumaki kang nega at bitter, hindi lahat gaya mo. 😬

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  11. Mas ok for me walang anak dahil ayoko ng responsibility.

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    1. Ako gusto ko maganak pero with one condition kung kaya pwedeng surrogacy, all because ayoko masira body figure ko. Kasi once magbuntis ka hindi na mababalik sa dati ang katawang dalaga mo.

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    2. 139 jusko, ang katawan babalik yan sa dati kung hindi ka tamad mag exercise. Lol, idadahilan mo pa ang anak mo, wag ka na din magprocreate kasi mukhang ang selfish mo. πŸ˜‚

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    3. You’re wrong 1:39..i had 4 kids and my body is still slim and i never had stretch mark! The secret? Huwag kumain ng marami!

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    4. 1:39 newsflash, kahit hindi ka pa mag-anak aging will take your katawang dalaga away from you in due time

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    5. 1:39 usually yung surrogacy is allowed kung may medical reason ka. Ewan ko na lang sa Pilipinas.

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    6. Urban legend yan, baks.

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    7. Kadiri ka anon 1:39. I’m sure hindi ka din sexy. Ang katawan dalaga nawawala basta tumanda. Pero ako 4 anak maganda pa din body ko.

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    8. 1:39 kung sanay sa workout katawan babalik din sa dati ang figure. Pag sedentary lifestyle, mahirapan ka mag lose ng weight no matter the diet.

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    9. Natawa ako sa comment mo. Surrogacy din iniisip ko dati kasi wala ako plano mag anak pero bigla akong nagbuntis at the age of 35 so ok na din na nagka anak ako ng natural pero hindi ko na susundan kasi gaya ako ng ibang commenters dito na masyado ko mahal freedom ko kaya all good nako sa isa at baka may maka misinterpret sa comment ko kaya unahan ko na sila na happy ako na may anak ako pero un nga tama na ang isa.

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    10. 754 Our body our rules ikaw yung kadiri sa pagiisip mo

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    11. 139 tataba ka lang at hindi babalik sa dati kung tamad ka. Lol, tingnan mo nlang ang artista sa Pilipinas, mas marami pa ngang mas payat at sexy after magkaanak. Ex. Coleen G, Kylie P, Max C, Iya V, Camille P at iba pa. Nasa sayo na yan kung gaano ka kabalahura sa sarili mo. Lol

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    12. 12:06 sa genes yan. Hindi lahat pare pareho ang katawan

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    13. 1:39 bakit artista kb?

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    14. May iba naman ako nakita mas gumanda body at nagiba face, gumanda, nag glow after manganak.

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    15. 12:06 ang OA naman ng balahura sa katawan. Normal naman to gain weight as you age kasi nagiiba talaga metabolism with age. May certain medical conditions din nakakadagdag sa weight gain tulad ng hypothyroidism. Pero low carb lakas maka payat.

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  12. Ako din parang Ayoko na din magkaanak.papaaralin ko ba Lang inaanak ko I mean not 100% but will support her. Yan pramis ko sa Kanya habang wlaa pa ako anak. :) ganun muna Pero Kung makaanak ako aba aalagaan ko bigyan ko ng Maganda Buhay. Simple as that

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  13. Having is a big and heavy responsibility even if they’re all grown up, as a parent you never stop worrying for then even, up to your grandchildren. Kaya lang w/out kids your lineage is over!

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    1. Who cares about lineage when life is already hard as is and the world's resources are depleting and everything's expensive. Ang hirap mabuhay sa totoo lang, unless may generational wealth kang pamana.

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  14. Mag cha child free ka sa atin? goodluck! mga marites marunong pa sayoπŸ˜‚ Buti nalang sa US walang pakielamanan kung gusto mo mag anak or hindi.

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    1. Spot on! I think there's some reason why they push their agenda on you because if they are truly happy with their situation bakit sila mangingialam? I don't have a child myself and ni isa walang nag "who cares" sa akin. Hhmm...

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  15. Ung iba dto nagcocomment n ayaw magkaanak, but the truth is wla nmn jowa or asawa tlg kya they try to console themselves na oks lng n wlang anak pra mkapg travel, etc.. Aminin

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    1. I'm happily married for 15 years now and without children ❤️

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    2. 4:58 well surprise hindi lahat uhaw sa lalake at kailangan ng lalake sa buhay. choice nilang maging single kasi ayaw nila ng anak since hindi naman 100% effective ang contraceptives. get off your high horse porket may lalake ka uy 2022 na. lol

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    3. 458 hahaha, hindi nman lahat baks pero yung iba na ang bitter sa comments, malamang.

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    4. Happily married for 12 years. We didn’t conceive the whole duration of our marriage but we can if we chose to. We had my embryos frozen just in case we really want a child some time in the future. We like our childfree lifestyle, but we also know the responsibility for a potential child since we’re not using any contra. A child is not our priority and not our main source of happiness. There is a certain type of peace in understanding your circumstances and your choices. It takes a lot of resources and logistics to care for one.

      So no, hindi lahat ng walang anak ay may mababaw na dahilan katulad ng sinasabi mo. That is so cheap and unclassy thing to say. Besides, there are many other reasons why people didn’t get to have a child.

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    5. Kami walang anak. Whether bigyan pa or not, ok lang din but we don’t think it will define the success of our relationship. Hindi rin naman kami basta nakakatravel because of our pets. Di kami nagpapapressure sa demands ng society na mag-anak and my husband and I have a good relationship. Napakashallow naman ng insight mo. People like you are the reason why people feel bad about deciding not to have children.

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    6. 4:58 yung iba oo haha

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  16. Sa daming gustong gawain ng mga tao ngayon and sa girap ng buhay, hindi na priority ng iba ang magka anak.

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  17. I read sa Buzzfeed before yung regrets ng mga parents having kids. They love their kids but if they can go back, they’ll choose not to have kids na lang. Can’t blame them.

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  18. Ako lang kung maibabalik ko lang ayoko na din mag anak. Mahal ko nman mga anak ko, pro mahirap eh. Parang everyday challenge sya, puro boys ksi anak ko. Like feeling ko araw araw nila ako pinapahirapan.

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    1. Baks, you are overwhelmed o kaya may depression ka ba? You need help.

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    2. Hope you are well. Please communicate with your partner regarding your issues with your children. They are both your responsibilities after all. He needs to pull his weight too and tackle your challenges together. And also talk to a therapist because you sound so overwhelmed by your current situation. Do not wait for you to breakdown before asking for help. Best of luck!

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    3. I have 2 boys and hindi naman nila ako pinapahirapan. I think kasi na-train ko rin sila to look after themselves. Mula bata pa sila we taught them to clean up their toys afte playing. Nag-aaral rin sila independently pero nagpapatulong naman sa amin kapag may questions or need ng help sa projects. Sa house chores, depende sa age nila yung pinapaawa naming tasks. So baka makatulong sa 'yo na ma-train mo rin kids mo. Para naa-appreciate rin nila yung ginagawa mo for them kasi alam nila kung paano gawin yun on their own.

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  19. marami naman magulang na kahit childish or childlike, kahit hndi “home maker” nagkakaanak. ok lang din naman cguro if wala, mas maganda if meron pero si God pa rin ang nagbibigay ng anak and ibibigay nya to whom nya ibibigay. bata pa naman sila marami pa pede mangyari. dapat cguro gawin ng norm na iba iba tayo ng function and fate sa mundo, hindi lahat meron and that should not make you less of a human or a couple dahil iba iba ang preferences natin and ung purpose natin

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  20. marami parents parang di dapat nagkaanak kasi di naman naalagaan or nagguide ung mga anak nila pero who am I to say that. hehe. anyway, hindi dapat ginagawang retirement plan or caregiver ang mga anak. dapat individually sana kaya natin on our own kasi sa dulo ng life, kanya kanya naman talaga tayo. ok naman ung may karamay ka, pede din naman other relatives aside from anak.

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  21. Filipinos should normalize couples not wanting to have kids. It’s the adult thing to consider not only the financial aspects of having children, but also if they’re emotionally and mentally prepared for it.

    Daming parents na may kaya pero can’t give yung emotional needs ng anak.

    Ang iba naman hirap ng buhay kasi anak ng anak when they can’t afford it.

    Children are also NOT your retirement. Don’t expect them to give back just because you gave life to them - di naman nila choice yon.

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    1. uso kasi yung mentality dito na kapag wala kang anak hindi ka complete pero wag ka, yan din yung mga nagsasabe pag nagkulang yung magulang at iniwan sa ere yung bagahi ang masasabe lang ng majority sa huli "magulang mo pa din yan" lels

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  22. Same pov. If wala edi wala, if meron edi ok. Tho we’re still not trying kasi ayaw pa namin ng responsibility. But we do want to have kids kahit 1 lang, kaya nag pa egg freeze kami for insurance.

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  23. I saw a mom in school. Her daughter is crying because she’s hungry. The mother slapped and yelled at her. The mom had no money. Goes to show that not everyone can be a mom.

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    1. kaya nga minsan sa school, nung nagtuturo ako, kung pde lang, nasabi na ng mga co.teacher ko nun yung “aanak anak kayo di nyo naman kayang buhayin!”

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  24. Well it depends sa anak yan kung gusto nila na alagaan ang mga magulang nila o hindi. Nasa kanila yan. Kung gusto eh di thank you kung ayaw naman eh wala tayong magagawa.

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  25. Me 1 kid or none. God gave me a beautiful and good daughter.

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  26. Ang mindset kasi ng lumang panahon na kelangan mag anak para me mag aalaga sayo sa pagtanda mo. Please lang noh.

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  27. Nakakalungkot yung mindset na kailangang magkaroon ng kids “to complete your purpose as a woman”. Parang, yun lang ba talaga ang role ng babae? I don’t think so. For me, there are those that are made to be mothers and those that opt to become mother figures instead. I, for one, choose not to have kids dahil apart from health reasons, I know that I do not have the patience and temperament to be a good guardian and role model. Being a parent is hard work and you really need to be completely ready and committed to parenthood.

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    1. Ako rin baks. I'm very good at taking care of pets and animals pero wala akong patience sa bata, lalo na pag nag tantrums. Same lang yan kay Oprah at Betty White, they're very aware na wala silang right temperament for motherhood.

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  28. I admire this couple. I mean, I’m at the age where people get married, start a family, etc.. and I hate being asked THAT question, by family and friends. And I AM TIRED of it! I’m not one to follow societal standards just so. I have my own ideal life to live and don’t dictate what I’m supposed to be doing. Such a rotten way to live.

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    1. Hope you learn to just ignore or laugh it off because it won't end. They'll ALWAYS have something to comment on - no bf? When's the wedding? No kid yet? When's the next? - Filipinos are SO rude (whilst also being so easily offended!)

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  29. Nung bago pa lang yung pandemic at nasa bahay na araw-araw yung mga bata kasi walang face to face classes, ang daming magulang sa buong mundo ang nainggit sa mga walang anak.

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    1. Totoo yan. Hindi naman sa nagsisi pero bigla ako nagkaroon ng fear for them. Naisip ko noon kung meron lang sana preview kung ano mangyayari sa future, baka di nako nag anak. Hindi lang pandemic ang rason pero sa nangyayari sa buong mundo.

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    2. haha, so true! di lang nga ako ganon. ako yung type na di gaanong happy sa back to school time coz i want more time with my kids.

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  30. Wag na kayo mag-anak. We are in the period na magulo ang mundo. Maraming problema. Kawawa next generation nyo

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  31. Ika nga, your life your choice. What if di talaga nila kaya mg anak, paki natin. U dont know the struggle of people trying to hav kids kaya hayaan na natin sila. Mahal mgka anak kaya isip2 din haha i only hav one and thats enuf lol

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  32. ingat sa mga ganyang sitwasyon. sabihin happy sila sa decision na wag mag anak. tapos si lalake makakabuntis ng iba. magiging super bitter si misis.

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    1. so magiging kasalanan pa din ni babae sa huli ganun ba? kakaloka dito sa pinas very 3rd world pa din ang utak na parang wala pa ring choice ang babaeng hindi magpa anak kasi pag iniwan ng lalake siya pa din ang may kasalanan.

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