Sunday, December 23, 2018

Insta Scoop: Xian Lim Recounts How He Was Bullied in His School






Images courtesy of Instagram: xianlimm

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  1. This post is really sad. I agree with Xian that if you are being bullied, speak up and do something about it. Most of the time, bullies pick on people who are quiet and deemed weak.

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    1. I agree with Xian, too. And I also had the first hand experience, being an introvert. We are always so misunderstood. Now, I worry about my son because he picked up my introvert trait. But I keep reminding him to always report to me when something happens at school, because he never talks back or stands up for himself against bullies. Ugh! Dear God, help me.

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    2. Ako din nabully na ng mga maliliit na batang hamog kasi hingi sila ng hingi ng pera or pagkain dahil gutom na gutom na daw sila hindi nila ako tinantanan talaga hanggang sa pati yung pagkain ko sa fastfood e dinuraan nila para ibigay ko na sa kanila natakot ako e. nga pala im 5"10, 195lbs., muskulado yung mga bata edad mga 8-12, 4 sila isa babae. Mga hanggang siko ko yung pinakamatangkad sa kanila. Puro sila payat typical na batang hamog yung tipong pag tinabig ko baka mamatay.

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    3. I agree! We should tell our kids not to be afraid to report any incidence of bullying. It’s better to stop it right away instead of ignoring it. A lot of kids just keep it to themselves and worse, they end up committing suicide.

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    4. Dapat sa pinas i adopt natin yung sa South Korea in which 200,000 petitions to the office of the president and they are legally obliged to make a statement and do an immediate action. Kasi naging national issue naman na itong bullying incident.

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    5. 9:31 Huwag po nating masyadong ilagay sa pesestal ang SK. Mas worse yung bullying dun and competition sa schools are very harsh.

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    6. But bullying in korea is even worse than the philippines @9:31

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  2. Oh xian... thanks for this... ako sinasabihan ko talaga 2boys ko na sabihin sa akin diretcho if may mangbully sa kanila... panganay ko dati was always picked sa school ay niratratan mo ung parents sa harap ng principal.. from then on wala nang nang aano sa anak ko... yeah tama ka always speak up...

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  3. Yan ang example ng NaBully! Pero yung mas malaki ka at lumaban at naover power ka ng maliit na me background ng martial arts that is not considered na NaBully! But yun ang Bandwagon ng Lahat ngayon so mag-isa ako sa opinyon ko.

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    1. are you saying na just because mas malaki ka and mas maliit sayo yung oppressor mo e hindi na counted as bullying???

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    2. Lumaban siya dahil inumpisahan na nga ang pag bully. The bullying started with words which provoked the bigger kid. Malakas ang loob ng maliit kasi alam niyang kaya niya saktan yung malaki. That IS bullying.

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    3. My niece in 3rd grade was punched by a boy in his class for no reason. Why are children becoming more violent these days?

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    4. Hindi mo yata alam definition ng "bullying". Wala sa size yan at kakayahan lumaban. Ito ha sabi ng Google "use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants". Kitang kita naman sa video that he was provoking the other kid na lumaban at ang gusto niya lumuhod yung isa, halikan sapatos niya at genitals niya. Tinanong nga niya di ba? Bugbog o dignidad? Yun palang sign of intimidation na. Wag mo sisihin yung biktima na komo mas malaki siya pero hindi siya marunong lumaban hindi na form ng bullying. When you are being taunted and provoked at may kasama pang paghahamon at pananakot, it's called BULLYING.

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    5. Napanuod mo ba ng mabuti ang video? So para sayo based lang sa size ang bullying? O ito hinanap ko ang tamang meaning ng bully para naman maliwanagan ka bakit nagiisa ka lang talga sa opinyon mo.
      Bully - a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

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    6. 12:40 that bully is a black belter. The victims tried to fight back but that creature knows the right moves.
      And obviously those victims are well bred.

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    7. 12:40 AM if those videos are not considered bullying to you then maybe you are from a family of hard core bullies #TruthBeTold

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    8. 12:57 me difference ang Bullying sa Provoking. Syo na nga nanggaling Provoking so lumaban! Yung pag hindi lumaban tulad ni Xian na nanahimik lang yun ang biktima ng bullying.

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    9. 12:54 that's just Violence. Wag kayong magulat coz LAHAT NG KASAMAAN GINAGAWA DITO SA KAMUNDUHAN/KALUPAAN, ULTIMO YUNG ALAM AT TINGIN MONG KABUTIHAN SAGAD SA KASAMAAN!

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    10. There must be a reason why he’s being a bully. The parents must do something about it.

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    11. Si 12.40 ata nagpapatawa. Hahahaha


      Pakiexplain nga po samin kung ano tawag mo dun sa ginawa nung maliit na bata na may background sa martial arts dun sa malaking bata? Please enlighten us 12.40.

      Wag mong sabihing self defense yun kundi ibubully din.kita

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    12. 2:22 lumaban ba yung malaking bata? Natalo lang? So nabully pa rin ang definition mo nun? Pag talo nabully? pano kung nanalo yung malaking bata at napuruhan o natsambahan niya Yung maliit? Ano na magiging definition mo nun? Mas nakakatawa ang perception mo! Hahahahahaha!

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    13. 2:22 that was a definition of a fight between two males and dahil natalo yung malaki ang definition mo na agad dun is bullying?! I watched the videos and i saw fights ensued not one male bossing around the other well nung natalo yung isa normal yun dahil dominance yun e.

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    14. 2.58 nagaway lang sila ganon ba? Nakita mo yung video? Umiihi yun bata then nasa likod yung bully kung ano ano pinagsasasabi, bugbog o dignidad? away lang pala yun. Ok.


      Yung ibang videos nakita mo ba?


      Thank you for enlightening me. Away bata lang pala yan. Di pala pambubully

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    15. Eto ha ang true example of Bullying is HAZING! Yung sa mga fraternities na me mga Greek letters pa originated from the Jesuits and Masons the oldest fraternities of Satan!

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    16. 12:40 just 2 things, watch all the videos related to the montes kid and improve your reading comprehension skills

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  4. Thanks for this, for speaking up, its not easy to share such experiences...

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  5. He didnt deserve this and no one deserve to be bullied happy he's brave enough to speak this thing up we love you..

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  6. I knew he had been bullied in school from his Draw My Life video from 2016 but reading the details of how badly he was abused by those bullies breaks my heart. Glad he has shared more as he is an example of how a bullied, chubby, socially awkward kid overcame adversity and is thriving. Bravo Xi!

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  7. Naalala ko tuloy sa elementary, binully ako ng mga kaklase ko. When i couldn't handle it anymore, nagsumbong ako sa nanay ko. To my surprise, pumunta sya sa teachet ko at nagsumbong at pinagpapalo ang kamay nila sa harap ko ng aming guro. After that, they stopped bullying me.

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  8. Ang cute cute mo Kayang Bata Xian. Insekyora yun.mga nambully sa yo.

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    1. Ko-comment ko rin sana to hahaha, inferness kay Xi ah... pero yes! No to bullies! Pak!

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  9. I think this period in xian's life made him all the more introvert :( how sad. It never really goes away no matter how old you get- that feeling you had the whole time you were bullied at a young age. Just recently di ba some bullying also happened at a school in europe where the victim is a refugee. you think your child is safe in school and the opposite happens. this kid in admu that was bullied didn't tell his parents because he was scared. he could've told them but why din't he? because he was too scared that the bullying would not really stop. just because he was bigger than the bully doesn't make him a coward, that he could overpower that *soab*! it is fear that couldn't be explained. but this has to stop. it has to stop.

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  10. I was once a bullied kid, youngest in class 6 yrs old. Everyone were 2 yrs or more older than me..trust me it will really leave a scar, as it left a scar on me. I became strong physically when I became hs, i became as tall, as defensive as these kids who bullied me. But it still left a mark on my 6 yr old me which I still carry nowadays.

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    1. Just like you, the now bully kid was probably bullied before and that’s his way of coping. It’s no surprise to me kung nabully na sya before because of his physical appearance. The kid needs guidance from his parents. The netizens aren’t helping.

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  11. Laging ang mga goodlooking ang nabubullyano? at laging angmga pangit ang malakas mambully. Nabully din ako before but not as hard as Xian's experience. It also made me hate school

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    1. So based on your logic, goodlooking ka. Ok.

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    2. Even sa workplace good looking people -special good looking women - are bullied. The bullies usually are the boyish (but not lesbians) or hindi ligawin na women.

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  12. My niece in 3rd grade was punched by a boy in her class for no reason. Why are children becoming more violent these days?

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    1. That's just Random Violence. LAHAT NG KASAMAAN GINAGAWA DITO SA KAMUNDUHAN/KALUPAAN! ULTIMO YUNG TINGIN AT ALAM NIYONG KABUTIHAN SAGAD SA KASAMAAN! Pag naintindihan niyo ibig sabihin nito e GISING KAYO AT HINDI MALILINLANG!

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    2. These days lang talaga? Lol dati na yan. It's just thay social media are more powerful right now kaya ngayon lang nahahighlight.

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    3. @2:53 bullying is also random violence. duh. at kapag pala lumaban ang isang bata sa bully niya ay hindi na yun bullying?so dapat do na lumaban at hinayaan na lang masipa sipa kasi pag dumepensa siya ay mere "fight between males na"?


      at di ko maintindohan ang logic mo na porkw maraming karahasan sa mundo e magiging manhid na dqpat ang mga tao.

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    4. 2:53 Ge. Dun ka na sa kulto mo na "gising at hindi malilinlang"

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    5. Naka tira ka ata 2:53.

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    6. Dati na yan. Its not a generational thing. 3 years old lang yan, magulang ang may kasalanan dyan.

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    7. I didn't know my henerasyon pala na walang naaway or nang-away na bata @1:34. Yung mga ganyang eksena sa school, nangyayari na yan noon pa. Ang kaibahan lang ngayon, naiivideo na at nasishare sa lahat dahil sa social media. At noon, hindi pa gamit ang bullying na salita.

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    8. @5:18 OP said becoming more violent. emphasis on more. hindi niya sinabing ngayon lang naging violent ang kabataan.

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  13. So xian kung may history ka talaga sa bullying bakit ganyan ugali mo may pagka gaspang at may attitude ka. Alam yan sa showbiz insdustry.

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    1. Teh hindi naman ibig sabihin ng nabully ka e goody goody ka. Nega nega mo. Pabugbug kita kay berna

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    2. He wants to justify yung pagiging suplado nya ay because he is introvert na result ng pagiging victim nya ng bullying.

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    3. Mas magaspang daw be ang ugali mo. Hahahaha.

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    4. close ba kayo ni xian? kung makahusga ka na magaspang ugali niya e parang close na close kayo. Don't you think xian has incurred that kind of behavior as a defense mechanism because of being bullied when he was younger. Don't judge.

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    5. 2:34 Kitid utak mo. He’s not justifying anything. He’s just sharing honestly what he went through as a child that’s why this hot topic now strongly affects him.

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    6. I think he is only being misunderstood, because if you really want to know a guy one thing you have to do is observe how he treats his mom, and in his case he loves his mom and lola so much.

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    7. 1.35am. Ayan lumabas na ang nega. Lungkot ng buhay mo! Kawawa ka naman

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    8. 234pm What does being suplado or not have to do with this? I'm an introvert (INTJ) & suffered from social anxiety through my high school years. I dreaded interacting with other kids and basically faked my way or stayed away from social interactions until I became more confident. Xian is sharing HIS TRUTH and it's clear that his introversion made matters worse as he was also overweight and at the time spoke english with a thick filipino accent. Would it be fair to call you a basher or bully for your mean comment? Bashing as you may know is similar to bullying. Which one are you?

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    9. 234 - mismo! clearly yung post ni xian is a plea para mapalapit sa pulso ng masa - na malayo sa kanya. phleaseeee. hindi kame ganun ka clueless xian. wag kame!!

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  14. i was also bullied in grade 1. sinumbong ko sa ate ko, 5 years older (we were in the same school). nagpunta siya sa classroom ko nung recess and sumigaw, "nasaan na si ___ na nambubully sa kapatid ko?" 2 of my classmates tinuro kung nasaan si bully sa loob ng classroom haha. sinabihan lang ni ate na wag siyang mambully kahit kanino. after that, the bully stopped ever since and we all lived happily ever after.

    #speakUP

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  15. kung nabully ka, why kilala kang pangit ugali sa showbiz? something just does not add up. ako nabully kaya nga mas maingat ako makitungo sa iba

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    1. He is misunderstood. Malay natin hanggang ngayon he's still get bullied. Know him first before concluding anything. Di ko rin kilala si Xian but I won't judge him agad.

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    2. Iba iba effect sa individual. Kung ganyan ang effect sayo wag mo expect ganon din sa iba.

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    3. 3.00am- Mahilig ka siguro sa chismis at ikaw yung taong may puna o judgement kahit hindi mo nakitang personal Ang mga pangyayari

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    4. 2:17 di naman natin kilala si Xian para masabi mo yan. Nabully ka pala dati dapat mas maintindihan mo siya. Lawakan mo pag-iisip mo, nagiging bully ka sa comment/s mo.

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  16. Yung "I ate my lunch in the toilet/bathroom" naiyak ako 😢 para di sya makita ng bumubully sa kanya dun n lng sya kumakain.😢😭 Ang sakit sa puso

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  17. ang masasabi ko lang ung batang nambully sakin non at binabato ako ng pork adobo dahil lang sa payat at maputla ako eh mukha ng chewing gum na nginuya. but honestly, bullying has to stop. yung scar na iiwan sa pagkatao mo hindi na maaalis yun.

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    1. Mamang natawa ako sa binato ka ng pork adobo and im sorry hahaha

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  18. I am not sure if this is bullying but when my daughter was in Grade 1 she was groped by her classmate on her chest. It was on purpose kasi inglesera anak ko eh lumaki sa labas at bumalik na kami sa Pinas when she turned 6. When she got groped at alam nyang di yun tama, binuntal ng daughter ko yung classmate nya na lalake. Ayun nagka black eye. Pinatawag ako ng principal and to my disappointment yung batang lalake ang kinampihan kahit the classmates confirmed na my daughter was groped. Muntik na nga sya ma suspend so warning lang cause I threatened that if they do suspend her dadalhin ko sa korte. I have taught my daughter and my son to defend themselves kung sa tingin nila di tama ang nangyayari and to be outspoken if they see someone else not being treated right.

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  19. I was a very quiet girl back in grade school, bullied (albeit not physically) from grade 1 to 6. In 6th grade, there was this girl saying mean things about me. She made a point of telling her stories as I was within earshot. Next thing I know, we were throwing punches. She gave me a bruised shoulder, I gave her a black eye. That was the first time I ever stood up to anyone. The bullying stopped after. Wished I did that sooner.

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    1. Good for you. Inspiring story mo

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  20. The girl who verbally bullied me in high school, I found out she still bullies her work colleagues today. May asawa't anak na siya hindi pa rin nagbago.

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  21. Binully ako dati ako ngayon nagng bully

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  22. nabully ka pero bossy ka dito sa pinas.. ano logic dyan ? gantihan ba ??

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  23. Ganon? Bakit ang suplado mo sa totoong buhay.

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  24. I think he is misunderstood. He’s very quiet in person and his attitude can sometimes come off as standoffish because he’s socially awkward which is not what you would expect from a showbiz personality. It could be a result of him being bullied as a kid. I think netizens are quick to judge him based on rumours about his attitude although I think he’s not at all as bad as other people make him out to be.

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    1. May attitude talaga yan iba ang ayaw makihalubilo sa may kayabangan . Daming issues dyan na padiva. Kaya tingnan mo biglang lagapak ang career

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    2. THIS. It’s a known fact that he’s an introvert. And that’s how introverts get misunderstood. I stand with Xian. Just be you, homeboy

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  25. Naalala ko bigla 10 years ago bago Lang kami sa US. Yung eldest son ko binully ng classmates niya na kesyo FOB daw siya. Wala naman pisikalan puro salitang pang aasar. Nilabanan din ng anak ko, in the long run naging mag kakaibigan sila hanggang ngayon. Tapos na sila ng college.

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  26. Bullied din ako as a kid. Naalala ko yung classmate ko na sinabunutan ako kasi hindi niya mabasa nakasulat sa blackboard at gusto niya ako magbasa para sa kanya. Yung classmates ko na laging itinatago sakin yung lunch box ko at ilalagay sa trash can. Yung classmates ko na tinusok kamay ko ng pencil at pinunit yung notebook ko kasi mataas grades ko sa quizzes. Tapos later on yung isa sa kanila na naging classmate ko hanggang highschool nagconfess sakin na ginawa lang daw niya yun kasi akala niya maarte ako.

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  27. Pero nag iinarte siya dun sa mayor na gusto siyang pasuotin ng mumurahin t-shirt na may logo “I heart Albay” kesyo komplikado dahil may iba siyang iniendorse e wala naman brand pinasusuot sa kanya. Da mga nagsasabi na nami misundertood lang siya, ikaw lang siguro kasi sh*nga ka

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    1. 7.24 Mas shunga ka you if don't know the whole story and yet you judge like you were there.

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  28. Sa all boys school ako nag aral ng elem at hs. May guy na nagbully sa kin, calling me names etc. I felt horrible. Dumadagdag pa yung friends niya na siga rin. Grumaduate kami at wala na ko naging balita sa batchmates ko, sa iilan na lang na kaibigan ko ako may updates. Kausuhan ng fb, mga second year college na ko, 2009, may nag add sa kin, si bully. Inaccept ko naman, then ok lang ba kung magkita at mag usap kami. Nagtaka ako, ayoko sana. Pero sabi niya he needs to apologize personally, tagal niya raw bagahe yun. So hesitant ako, pumunta ako with a friend para may back up. Ayun nag sorry, turned out closeted pala siya. Naiinggit siya kasi open ako etc. Ayun. Gumaan na rin loob ko. Nagkaroon kami ng contact at bago grumaduate ng college, kami na. Gulo di ba? Kami pa rin up to now.

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    1. He had a crush on you noon pa kaya ka nya na bully. Since he can't seem to find love, he contacted you. What a story.

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  29. I was bullied before too, 1st year hs. For yhe whole year I kept on eating whamos and pop cola for lunch. And sometimes piattos. That’s the easiest kasi na pwede ko madala sa Cr. Ang hirap mag kwento pero pag naaalala ko, gusto ko pag sisipain yun mga babaeng classmates ko na nag bully saken and bakit ko hinayaan mangyari sakin yon

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  30. Sa office din madaming bully. Kaya ako umalis dun eh.

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  31. Reading all the comments here at madami palang victims ng bullying. The sad part about it eh yung mga physical pain nawala na pero all the bad memories still lingers. Nakatatak na sa pagkatao mo hanggang pagtanda mo... 😞

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  32. Yesterday I thought this was Xian Gaza hahahahaha ngayon pagbalik ko as FB si Lim
    Pala hahahahaha

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  33. Malambot na pala sya dati pa

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  34. I waa bullied in HS. I usually buy food in the canteen alone not because I don’t have friends but because my friends have packed lunch. Ako target ng isang grp ng bully. Magpaparinig this particular girl at an earshot na “OP”. This girl has family problem pala, her father was and is still involved in drug dealing. Lately I realized it was out of insecurity kase we knew each other since elementary days. Her life became worse and mine got better (praise the Lord for good karma!) she grew up thinking they are better off than us because her parents worked in corporate offices. Unti unti nagka financial problem sila dahil sa bisyo ng tatay, hinndi nabayaran car loan kaya hinatak then later on nasubasta bahay nila hindi nabayaran.

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