You know what Kakai, you just describe a business partnership - yung two people trying to build a business :D :D :D Noong unang panahon, there's no mention of "love" when two people gets married :) :) :) Two strong families gets together to become a stronger family :) :) :) "Love" comes after the marriage because you can't take love to the bank and deposit it :D :D :D
Actually. She has a point. Even if you are sought after.... it'll be dumb to rely on your partner for everything, especially with finances. It's dangerous too, for you to give that much power over you.
All these comments hating on kakai, good luck with not aiming for stability first before getting into a relationship.
I think what she meant was the guys who like her are those who are only after her money, hence her hanash. Kasi if mayaman yung guys who are interested in her then her statement is no longer valid.
12:10 well, theres truth nman sa sinabi mo but wag mo rin discredit or hndi iacknowledge ang sinabi ni Kakai kasi totoo di nman sya. U cant live without money. Having love is not enough to survive noh. Pati isa sa mga main reason why nagbrebreak ang relationship (love, family, friends, work, etc) is money. Facts is facts, Philippines.
I wouldn't say it's an excuse, more like a healthy coping mechanism. Better than turning into an incel/femcel. If you really read her post carefully, sinabi niya na naisip niya to just start chasing guys (it appears na ang implication is dahil walang humahabol sa kanya so she's contemplating to just take the initiative) but upon thinking it through she realized that it wouldn't necessarily make her happy so she'll just focus on aiming to be as independent as possible. I don't think magmamaganda siya to shade people who get into relationships cause she has a reputation of clinging onto men and being rejected in pretty cruel ways. It seems like she's just really talking to herself and self reflecting sa post niya.
Huwaw habulin yarn 12:10? Walang Ibang responsibilidad sa life? Yung mga May nagkagusto how sure ka na masaya lahat yon? So ibig mong Sabihin lahat ng single Hindi gustihin? Taca! Sa truth lang din ako.
12:40 I hope you'll be able to overcome whatever health situation you are in right now. Reach out to family, friends who will protect you, health professionals, and community resources who can help address your situation. Being a housewife is a fulfilling job in itself and don't diminish your worth just because you haven't held any long-term jobs. If I have my choice, I'll rather be a homemaker and take care of my family. For me, it is more fulfilling. Maybe you can do special projects from home e.g. selling online, or whatever creative things you can do and sell.
She’s right. I’m a college grad, in my late 40s, pero I’ve never held down a job for more than a few months because I have severe mental health issues (lifelong, no cure) that render me barely functioning. I want to break free from this sham of a marriage pero I have no money and takot akong kunin from me yung anak ko.
Parang no sense of accountability ka baks. Yung tipong lahat nalang ng problema mo dahil sa ibang tao. Without taking any personal accountability of your own choices.
If you are avoiding marriage or building a family coz you know you are unwell, that is being responsible. Good thing you know that. There are other ways of making life worth living naman. We all can be somewhat a parent by anonymously supporting child services. We can be get the affection of a loved one thru friends, pets, or just being by a pleasant person. Life is what we make it. Live more, worry less.
aw. it's so enlightening to read a post like yours. talagang true ang mental health issues. siguro lalo ka lang nadi-depress because you're in such a marriage. you said you have no money. but is he nice to you? shouldn't you be happy that there is someone who loves you just the way you are? bihira ang man like him so be thankful pa rin.
I hope you can get medication and see a psychologist, or even a counselor. It's never too late. Please get help and I pray you can build your financial independence and gain your freedom too.
6:03 Medyo weird na nagstart ka as supportive but in the end sinabihan mo siya na maging thankful kasi she’s with “someone who loves you just the way you are.” Sabi niya nga “sham of a marriage” and takot siyang kunin yung anak niya sa kanya, so I think she doesn’t feel loved, and, worse, she doesn’t feel safe.
Hala, ang heartless ni 4:16 at 4:17. May sakit nga po yung tao. Nag-agree pa nga sa kay Kakai, kaya siya nagta-try magtrabaho. Kaya hindi umuusad yung mental health services sa pinas eh, dahil sa mga katulad nyong napaka perfect. May pa feminist feminist pa kayong nalalaman.
Di ko masasabi na walang nagkakagusto sakin kasi kahit paano naman ay meron pero dumating ako sa point na nakukunsume na ako sa mga lalake haha. As in. Parang di ko kayang makasama ang lalake sa buhay ko. Career and financial stability rin talaga gusto ko. Syempre good health
Tumfact baks! Yung ibang commenters kasi feeling maganda ni di naintindihan sinabi ni Kakai. Di naman lahat ng magaganda ligawin, lalo na kung pangit ugali so turn-off agad. Saka may ibang maganda pang one night stand lang di pangcommitment.
You don't need a man to feel at peace, secure and be happy as long as you have faithful friends and support system. Indepence financially and emotionally and physically is the key. Look at Jennifer Aniston, pretty but happy being single after soo may partners in the past. Go Kakai, pretty in your own way.
This is so true! I have friends na unhappy and sobrang tiis sa marriage nila kasi di sila makaalis because they are not financially independent. Parents out there, teach your daughters to be independent in every sense of the word.
Ibig sabihin di mo pa nahahanap ang lalaking mahal ka unconditionally. If ikaw lagi magbabayad sa date nyo, mag ok pa ngang wag ng mag jowa. Or magjowa ka nalang ng mayaman like Rhian R.
Kakai, you are just at the wrong place. Alam naman naten ang standards ng pinoy men na nasa age bracket mo. Kahit gaano ka ka-green flag coz you are financially stable and all, they would still go after looks to fulfill their fantasies. Kaya nga most of successful women, mga forenjers if not half pinoys ang napapangasawa, kase iba yung mindset ng ibang lahi. So, my unsolicited advise is, travel, travel, travel. Explore the world and meet other people. Sabi nga diba? May mga bagay na hindi na appreciate kase nasa maling lugar lang. An old car wont get appreciated by someone who is looking for fast cars, but will be valued by a vintage car collector.
5:43 Majority ng foreigners(who go for filipinos) are the same. Filipinos hate to admit this but a sizable percentage of foreigners who are into asian women tend to have ulterior motives (fetish, or ultra-conservative views and assumptions that asians are submissive), or are incapable of marrying their own race. Similarly, foreigners would pick younger filipina women and not the more successful (but older) ones.
I have this feeling kaya sya may hanash na ganito kasi namimiss nya ang lalaki pero wala syang choice kundi kumayod nalang. Ok lang yan kakai, sana talaga dumating na ang the one. Yung totoong mamahalin ka.
I agree 💯 with her. My husband and I are both financially stable bago pa kami ikasal kaya ni singkong duling wala kaming hiningi sa parents namin for our wedding and our home. Hiwalay din ang bank account namin kaya pareho kaming driven to achieve more and we are more conscious sa pagastos dahil alam namin na pinaghirapan namin yun. Di rin kami nagaaway kung gagastos kami kasi kanya kanya kami ng pera.
4:55 They split their expenses siguro, same kami ng husband ko, example, sya sa meralco then ako naman sa groceries, parang ganun, then may financial freedom padin
Ay beks tama si kakai habulin man siya ng lalaki or hindi. Isa nga sa mga ills ng ph society ito. Nagpapamilya/relasyon kahit hindi kaya financially tapos gagawing retirement plan ang anak.
I agree 100%! In this day and age, both men and women should be financially and emotionally independent and stable before they start building a family. Otherwise, kawawa ang mga bata.
I dunno, walang formula yung mga ganitong bagay. It gets even more complicated kapag babae ka, cause hindi considered na plus yung success and financial stability sa mga babae, all men care about are youth and looks. For example, successful men in their 20s hanggang 70s who are not yet married tend to go for ingenues--that's a big range. Men with relatively stable jobs are the same. Meanwhile women past 25 who are single tend to get judged and looked down upon if they are still single. Dito nga sa fp, successful and filthy rich women like bea, iza, and anne get flak for not marrying young and having children right away, despite being way above average in the looks department. Yung regular 27 year old pa kaya who may have a post grad degree and a high paying job, but not as "young and fresh" as an up and coming 22 year old. The 27 year old will most likely settle with someone who earns less than her, while the 22 year old will end up marrying up.
5:28am Not all men care about youth and looks. Hindi naman lahat ng lalaki sa physical aspect lang. Yung mga ganong guys na puro looks lang ang hanap ang dapat iwasan at di na pagka aksayahan ng panahon dahil magiging fragile lang yung relationship kung looks ang basehan cause beauty fades.
May point si Kakai. Kita mo nga yung ibang mag asawa na asa lang ang babae sa asawang lalaki financially, pag nangaliwa or namatay yung mister, nganga ang babae.
Pero mahirap din naman kasi tlaga kapag maganda ka or pogi ka sobrang dami aaligid sayo at maaraming mag cchat sayo, and they will offer luxurious things. Kasi nga maganda/pogi ka. You can use your beauty to establish your life kung gagana ng maayos ang utak mo. Pero kung hindi, kapag nasimot na ang kabanguhan ng pisikal mong katawan magigising ka na lang sa kangkungan. Still, sa brains ako. Hindi sa ganda, hindi sa pera. Sa B-R-A-I-N-S.
Unfortunately brains don't mean much if you are a woman lol sa true lang tayo. Being a brainy woman is only attractive to a certain extent to men. If you become authentically and extremely smart as a woman society tends to shun you. Beauty queen "smart" is acceptable but if you are miriam defensor smart, you get labeled as crazy and don't get perceived as desirable and womanly. And men who do find those qualities attractive get married early.
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DeletePustiso Diva yata title nya
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DeleteSa totoo lang po tayo, tama naman yang sinabi ni kakai!
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DeleteYou know what Kakai, you just describe a business partnership - yung two people trying to build a business :D :D :D Noong unang panahon, there's no mention of "love" when two people gets married :) :) :) Two strong families gets together to become a stronger family :) :) :) "Love" comes after the marriage because you can't take love to the bank and deposit it :D :D :D
ReplyDelete12:10 kung ano man yang tine take mo. Itigil mo na yan. Hindi na nakaka healthy. You’re welcome!
DeleteExcuse ng mga kinapos sa nagkakagusto. Sorry, sa truth lang ako.
ReplyDeleteExcuse me, pero di lahat ng tao tulad mo na panlabas anyo lang ang qualification sa magiging oartner
Deletekorek 12:10 hahaha ganyan lagi ang hanash ng di gustuhin LOL
DeleteHey nice to see u back
DeleteActually. She has a point. Even if you are sought after.... it'll be dumb to rely on your partner for everything, especially with finances. It's dangerous too, for you to give that much power over you.
DeleteAll these comments hating on kakai, good luck with not aiming for stability first before getting into a relationship.
Pero aminin marami din namang mga panget na in a relationship LOL so di batayan ang itsura sa pagkakaroon ng jowa
DeleteI think what she meant was the guys who like her are those who are only after her money, hence her hanash. Kasi if mayaman yung guys who are interested in her then her statement is no longer valid.
Delete1:16 another excuse ng walang nagkakagusto or never nagkajowa. Sa totoo lang tayo. Haha
Delete12:10 well, theres truth nman sa sinabi mo but wag mo rin discredit or hndi iacknowledge ang sinabi ni Kakai kasi totoo di nman sya. U cant live without money. Having love is not enough to survive noh. Pati isa sa mga main reason why nagbrebreak ang relationship (love, family, friends, work, etc) is money. Facts is facts, Philippines.
DeleteI wouldn't say it's an excuse, more like a healthy coping mechanism. Better than turning into an incel/femcel. If you really read her post carefully, sinabi niya na naisip niya to just start chasing guys (it appears na ang implication is dahil walang humahabol sa kanya so she's contemplating to just take the initiative) but upon thinking it through she realized that it wouldn't necessarily make her happy so she'll just focus on aiming to be as independent as possible. I don't think magmamaganda siya to shade people who get into relationships cause she has a reputation of clinging onto men and being rejected in pretty cruel ways. It seems like she's just really talking to herself and self reflecting sa post niya.
DeleteHuwaw habulin yarn 12:10? Walang Ibang responsibilidad sa life? Yung mga May nagkagusto how sure ka na masaya lahat yon? So ibig mong Sabihin lahat ng single Hindi gustihin? Taca! Sa truth lang din ako.
DeleteOkay lang naman magmaganda basta gustuhin. Hehe
ReplyDeletehahahaah! may point ka!
DeleteWell said. Agree to the max
ReplyDeletepero pag si mario maurer go si mumsh sa true love haha jk
ReplyDeleteIkaw ata yung hindi nakamove on kay Mario eh.
DeleteKorek ka dyan Kakai. Dapat unahin ang sarili bago lalake. Dapat practical sa buhay.
ReplyDelete12:40 I hope you'll be able to overcome whatever health situation you are in right now. Reach out to family, friends who will protect you, health professionals, and community resources who can help address your situation. Being a housewife is a fulfilling job in itself and don't diminish your worth just because you haven't held any long-term jobs. If I have my choice, I'll rather be a homemaker and take care of my family. For me, it is more fulfilling. Maybe you can do special projects from home e.g. selling online, or whatever creative things you can do and sell.
DeleteShe’s right. I’m a college grad, in my late 40s, pero I’ve never held down a job for more than a few months because I have severe mental health issues (lifelong, no cure) that render me barely functioning. I want to break free from this sham of a marriage pero I have no money and takot akong kunin from me yung anak ko.
ReplyDeleteHala..cannot hold a job and got a lalaki para pasanin gastusin mo baks? Hulaan ko, puro feminist posts on IG?
DeleteParang no sense of accountability ka baks. Yung tipong lahat nalang ng problema mo dahil sa ibang tao. Without taking any personal accountability of your own choices.
DeleteIf you are avoiding marriage or building a family coz you know you are unwell, that is being responsible. Good thing you know that. There are other ways of making life worth living naman. We all can be somewhat a parent by anonymously supporting child services. We can be get the affection of a loved one thru friends, pets, or just being by a pleasant person. Life is what we make it. Live more, worry less.
Deleteaw. it's so enlightening to read a post like yours. talagang true ang mental health issues. siguro lalo ka lang nadi-depress because you're in such a marriage. you said you have no money. but is he nice to you? shouldn't you be happy that there is someone who loves you just the way you are? bihira ang man like him so be thankful pa rin.
Delete12:57 AM Praying for you. I hope you find a way to financially secure yourself, for your own wellbeing
Deletetry wfh momsh. Like virtual assistant, esl teaching.
DeleteI hope you can get medication and see a psychologist, or even a counselor. It's never too late. Please get help and I pray you can build your financial independence and gain your freedom too.
Delete6:03 Medyo weird na nagstart ka as supportive but in the end sinabihan mo siya na maging thankful kasi she’s with “someone who loves you just the way you are.” Sabi niya nga “sham of a marriage” and takot siyang kunin yung anak niya sa kanya, so I think she doesn’t feel loved, and, worse, she doesn’t feel safe.
Delete6:03 depression can be cured so malamang hindi yun ang condition ni 12:57. Most likely bipolar or schizophrenic siya.
DeleteHala, ang heartless ni 4:16 at 4:17. May sakit nga po yung tao. Nag-agree pa nga sa kay Kakai, kaya siya nagta-try magtrabaho. Kaya hindi umuusad yung mental health services sa pinas eh, dahil sa mga katulad nyong napaka perfect. May pa feminist feminist pa kayong nalalaman.
DeleteDi ko masasabi na walang nagkakagusto sakin kasi kahit paano naman ay meron pero dumating ako sa point na nakukunsume na ako sa mga lalake haha. As in. Parang di ko kayang makasama ang lalake sa buhay ko. Career and financial stability rin talaga gusto ko. Syempre good health
ReplyDeleteSame sis. At magastos din talaga magkajowa ha. Kaya kahit may jowa ako, minsan naiisip ko mas may pera siguro ako ngayon kung single ako. lol
DeleteIF you say so Kakai hahahaha
ReplyDeleteCareer and financial stability rin gusto ko. At may jowa ako na same kami ng pangarap sa buhay. So, yes, you can do both.
ReplyDeleteTumfact baks! Yung ibang commenters kasi feeling maganda ni di naintindihan sinabi ni Kakai. Di naman lahat ng magaganda ligawin, lalo na kung pangit ugali so turn-off agad. Saka may ibang maganda pang one night stand lang di pangcommitment.
DeleteYou don't need a man to feel at peace, secure and be happy as long as you have faithful friends and support system. Indepence financially and emotionally and physically is the key. Look at Jennifer Aniston, pretty but happy being single after soo may partners in the past. Go Kakai, pretty in your own way.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true! I have friends na unhappy and sobrang tiis sa marriage nila kasi di sila makaalis because they are not financially independent. Parents out there, teach your daughters to be independent in every sense of the word.
ReplyDeleteWag isipin na pag pinakasalan ka na ng lalaki e may bubuhay na sayo. Be independent kasi you’ll never know kung anong pwedeng mangyari ahead.
ReplyDeleteI don’t blame people na ayaw magkaanak or even ayaw mag asawa. Or those married couples na separate ang personal finances nila.
ReplyDeleteYou can do both Kakai, as long as nasa tamang tao ka na supportive. You have to choose wisely at wag papakasal agad.
ReplyDeleteIbig sabihin di mo pa nahahanap ang lalaking mahal ka unconditionally. If ikaw lagi magbabayad sa date nyo, mag ok pa ngang wag ng mag jowa. Or magjowa ka nalang ng mayaman like Rhian R.
ReplyDelete4:37 Rhian is well off, hot, and funny lol. She will always be able to get rich guys who'll pamper her.
DeleteOr Pwede rin namang magjowa tapos sabay kayo mag climb up the ladder?
ReplyDeleteKakai, you are just at the wrong place. Alam naman naten ang standards ng pinoy men na nasa age bracket mo. Kahit gaano ka ka-green flag coz you are financially stable and all, they would still go after looks to fulfill their fantasies. Kaya nga most of successful women, mga forenjers if not half pinoys ang napapangasawa, kase iba yung mindset ng ibang lahi. So, my unsolicited advise is, travel, travel, travel. Explore the world and meet other people. Sabi nga diba? May mga bagay na hindi na appreciate kase nasa maling lugar lang. An old car wont get appreciated by someone who is looking for fast cars, but will be valued by a vintage car collector.
ReplyDelete5:43 Majority ng foreigners(who go for filipinos) are the same. Filipinos hate to admit this but a sizable percentage of foreigners who are into asian women tend to have ulterior motives (fetish, or ultra-conservative views and assumptions that asians are submissive), or are incapable of marrying their own race. Similarly, foreigners would pick younger filipina women and not the more successful (but older) ones.
Deleteshe's got a point. para hindi ka aapi-apihin. but if a man is willing to offer financial stability with his love, ay by all means, go for it. lol.
ReplyDeleteReal talk. True, pero di naman kailangan bongga ang kasal.
ReplyDeleteKaya ba gigil na gigil siya kay Mario before, insinuating they are special friends. 🤭
ReplyDeleteI have this feeling kaya sya may hanash na ganito kasi namimiss nya ang lalaki pero wala syang choice kundi kumayod nalang. Ok lang yan kakai, sana talaga dumating na ang the one. Yung totoong mamahalin ka.
ReplyDeleteTama naman sya. Period.
ReplyDeleteI agree 💯 with her. My husband and I are both financially stable bago pa kami ikasal kaya ni singkong duling wala kaming hiningi sa parents namin for our wedding and our home. Hiwalay din ang bank account namin kaya pareho kaming driven to achieve more and we are more conscious sa pagastos dahil alam namin na pinaghirapan namin yun. Di rin kami nagaaway kung gagastos kami kasi kanya kanya kami ng pera.
ReplyDeleteHow do you handle who pays for common expenses ?
DeleteThats a good strategy/plan. 👍👍
Delete4:55 They split their expenses siguro, same kami ng husband ko, example, sya sa meralco then ako naman sa groceries, parang ganun, then may financial freedom padin
Delete4:55 sa bills, grocery at vacation lang kami hati. The rest ng personal expenses separate na.
DeleteSame. And we even own our small businesses. Walang pakialamanan sa kita.
DeleteI'm not married but I am just asking out of sheer curiosity. Do any of you have children? If so, how does this set up work?
DeleteShe’s so right.
ReplyDeleteGo girl! Jusko grabe yung Mario era ni bakla. Yung tipong kahit di naging totoo, dadalhin mo hanggang kamatayan yung kilig.
ReplyDeleteExcuse ng mga never nagkajowa. Hehe
ReplyDeleteIn this economy hindi mo talaga maiisip magkajowa! At walang masama sa pagiging nbsb: hindi nakasalalay sa partner ang kaligayahan mo.
DeleteAy beks tama si kakai habulin man siya ng lalaki or hindi. Isa nga sa mga ills ng ph society ito. Nagpapamilya/relasyon kahit hindi kaya financially tapos gagawing retirement plan ang anak.
Delete4:08 Ang tanong, hahabulin ba siya ng lalaki?
DeleteI think more than anything else, more than money, the key to a good relationship will always be self love.
ReplyDeleteTruth nman, basta ba wag susobra dahil toxic ang too much.
Deletetrue yan kakai, darsting at darating talaga ang lalaking para sa'yo kung meron..at least kung wala man ay ready at may pera ka
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%! In this day and age, both men and women should be financially and emotionally independent and stable before they start building a family. Otherwise, kawawa ang mga bata.
ReplyDeleteI dunno, walang formula yung mga ganitong bagay. It gets even more complicated kapag babae ka, cause hindi considered na plus yung success and financial stability sa mga babae, all men care about are youth and looks. For example, successful men in their 20s hanggang 70s who are not yet married tend to go for ingenues--that's a big range. Men with relatively stable jobs are the same. Meanwhile women past 25 who are single tend to get judged and looked down upon if they are still single. Dito nga sa fp, successful and filthy rich women like bea, iza, and anne get flak for not marrying young and having children right away, despite being way above average in the looks department. Yung regular 27 year old pa kaya who may have a post grad degree and a high paying job, but not as "young and fresh" as an up and coming 22 year old. The 27 year old will most likely settle with someone who earns less than her, while the 22 year old will end up marrying up.
Delete5:28am Not all men care about youth and looks. Hindi naman lahat ng lalaki sa physical aspect lang. Yung mga ganong guys na puro looks lang ang hanap ang dapat iwasan at di na pagka aksayahan ng panahon dahil magiging fragile lang yung relationship kung looks ang basehan cause beauty fades.
Delete11:00 but that is the point. Majority of them do, and those who don't are already married.
DeleteMay point si Kakai. Kita mo nga yung ibang mag asawa na asa lang ang babae sa asawang lalaki financially, pag nangaliwa or namatay yung mister, nganga ang babae.
ReplyDeletePero mahirap din naman kasi tlaga kapag maganda ka or pogi ka sobrang dami aaligid sayo at maaraming mag cchat sayo, and they will offer luxurious things. Kasi nga maganda/pogi ka. You can use your beauty to establish your life kung gagana ng maayos ang utak mo. Pero kung hindi, kapag nasimot na ang kabanguhan ng pisikal mong katawan magigising ka na lang sa kangkungan. Still, sa brains ako. Hindi sa ganda, hindi sa pera. Sa B-R-A-I-N-S.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately brains don't mean much if you are a woman lol sa true lang tayo. Being a brainy woman is only attractive to a certain extent to men. If you become authentically and extremely smart as a woman society tends to shun you. Beauty queen "smart" is acceptable but if you are miriam defensor smart, you get labeled as crazy and don't get perceived as desirable and womanly. And men who do find those qualities attractive get married early.
DeleteGgss to kairita
ReplyDeletei don't see it as ggss, more like happy and content on knowing na kung anong meron siya. confidence is the key mars.
DeleteScary most pinoys are deadbeat dads , PAL, insecure , ma ego at mamas boy 🤣
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