School, PE and University Uniform
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It appears you had difficulty understanding my son, and being her responsible mother, who may clearly see his flaws and weaknesses, yes, he is hyperactive and has difficulty with verbal communication but he is sweet, affectionate and a capable learner.
You assessed my son to know if he is ready for school... you made him write, trace and color. You told me with a smile, "Ma'am, okay na po. Pasado na si Luigi."
I even received a text from you reminding me of his enrollment fees.
So I reserved my slot, enrolled him, paid his tuition fee in full, bought his uniform, books, shoes, bags and school supplies. My son is so excited because he will now go to school.
All is set for school.
The first day of preschool is an exciting day of my child's life. It is also quite stressful for him because this is a new environment, new classmate, new teachers, first experience of separation with us. He is anxious. But, he is learning to adjust in his new "second home".
I am not surprised when I received a request of Parent-Teacher Conference with you, because for me this is a good sign to have a communication with the teachers about the behavior of my son.
I even told you to please wait for the diagnosis of my son. He has a scheduled check up this July 28. For the meantime, let him go to school.
SECOND WEEK IN CLASS
I received a note from the adviser that Dr. Arguelles, BED principal wanted to talk to me about my son. You observed that he is not ready for school, hyperactive and disruptive behavior, and with the number of students you have... you cannot manage him.
I am wondering.. why the hell you accepted him in this school when you cannot manage him? There is an assessment right? I just discovered that the one who assess my son is not a psychologist or a teacher but only a TEACHER AIDE! So, how did you assess my son?
Why letting him enroll, accept the payment and then telling me now that you do not have a mainstreaming policy? And you are sorry, you cannot meet the needs of my son?
It seems you cannot wait for the diagnosis of his developmental pedia. You already gave up on him.
Why telling me that you will only accommodate a maximum of 15 pupils in the class but as of June 27, they are 21 pupils in the class? How can you manage that number of students?
In a matter of 8 days, you are tired of my son? Natatakasan kayo? You let him play alone in the playground without a teacher/teacher aide to watch over him? What happen if there's an accident?
For your relief, I would like to inform you that I am withdrawing my son from your school. The school is not secure. The school is not also a child-friendly environment.
MANNER OF PAYING REFUNDS
What matter worst is when the Accounting Department told me that it would take months before I could claim the refund because the one who would sign it is on maternity leave. This is too much!
I discussed it with Dr. Rayel, the School Director, but sadly, he said there is nothing he can do because the forms will be delivered to University of Perpetual Help Las Piñas Campus, there are lots of pending files, I'll just follow up, just wait for it, no assurance when is the release.. if I want, I'll just file a complaint...blah blah blah! Whatthef_ _ _k!
Based on your Grade School Student Handbook. All refunds are paid in check to the enrollee after at least one week but not exceeding a processing of two weeks. So you better stick to your policy!
Be true to your handbook! Don't give me some alibis!
Kung ganyan, talagang masasabi ko na ang school nyo... BULOK NA SISTEMA, POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE PA!
You wasted our time, effort and resources!
He really wanted to go to school.
It is so hard to explain for a 4 year old child why is this happening to him. It hurts me BIG TIME!
I am writing this also to share awareness to other PARENTS AND STUDENTS that by any chance they experience the same incident, they might want to stand up and speak up as well. I know this might cause a bad publicity to your school but such customer complaint will surely improve the school itself. Hopefully after reading this letter you may consider putting a full stop, and not a comma, to incidents like this.
And to everyone who's reading this right now, some of you will surely bash me for this but it really won't help. It was NOT YOU who EXPERIENCE THE STRESS AND PAIN FOR YOUR CHILD. I'm just so disappointed.
Sincerely,
Rhodora Espiritu-Valdez
Nanay ni Luigi
UPDATE: Last night, July 8 at 9:30 PM, Dr. Rayel, Ms. Lea Chua and Ms. Rose went to our house to give me the refund PhP26,510.00 in cash. According to them, they really wanted to stick to their "policy". I received it because that is our money. They also apologized for what happened to my son. Apology accepted.
The mother should have carefully checked the school before she enrolled his son. Adjustment, environment, teachers, etc. A lot of people have been deceived by "maling akala" rin kasi. Hope she gets her refund soon.
ReplyDeleteClearly me special needs yung child Dahil special child nga itong maituturing! Dapat Hindi in enroll ng mother sa normal school but sa special school! And ang napili pa niyang pagenrollan e ang pag aari ng world war 2 Japanese mason illuminati na si Antonio laperal tamayo! Alta for short na ang simbolo e ang triangle ng illuminati! Kung iimbestigahan ang pagkatao ng taong Ito e me koneksyon Ito sa laperal house sa me Baguio na ginawang HQ ng mga hapon Nung world war 2! Hapon itong si tamayo na anagram Lang ng Yamato! Hindi naman talagang local Ito Pero nakapagme ari ng mga lupain at mga iskwelahan! Dapat masuri ang family tree ng hapong Ito!
DeleteMali ng nanay, she should've told her son's condition sa nag-aassess. I bet alam nya na hyperactive ang bata. And sya alam nya na minsan di nya kaya yung bata, what more for two teachers handling 15 or 21 kids. Isipin na lang din nya na unfair sa mga magulang ng ibang bata kung nakafocus yung isang teacher sa anak lang nya. I guess, behaved or less hyper yung bata nung time ng assessment o baka dahil andun din mom nya.
Delete12:55 please choose your words wisely.
DeleteDi ka Lang pumasa ng Mason. Di masama maging Free Mason
DeleteAnonymous 1:00 AM
DeleteIt is assessment, right? The assessor should have picked up on cues. If the child is really hyperactive, then it should have manifested itself right there and then. And there was no mention that she could not handle her child.
And 8 days? To be told that the child is unmanageable? clearly something is wrong. Inept teacher and an inept policy. No school gives up on a pre-school child as early as 8 days. I'm a mom and I'm a teacher.
Mrs. Valdez, you did the right thing. I hope you get your refund and I hope Luigi finds a school that will be most beneficial for him.
wow kung mason ang may ari ng school na ito eh dapat secured ang graduates nito, empoyment-wise.
DeleteFirst of all, if aware yung mother na may iba sa anak niya in terms of verbal, cognitive, and behavior.. dapat pina-assess niya yung child sa isang child development psychologist kasi sila ang makakaalam if may delay sa 3 aspects. From there, irrecommend ng psychologist yung child sa ibang paraprofessionals (speech therapists, occupational therapists, et al.) para imaximize yung abilities nung bata. In terms of schooling, dapat sa special school muna yung bata IF proven na may special needs kasi pagtagal naman nung bata sa special school, pwede siyang irecommend sa regular school if kaya nung bata na magadjust sa ganong environment.
DeleteSa description na sinabi ng nanay siguro may adhd ung bata. Pero dapat full refund agd ng school yan. Kakahiya kung ganon a private catholic school pa man din. Tama bulok ang sistema kung sariling policy di nila mapatupad.
ReplyDeleteYup, that's what I also think. ADHD.
DeleteTake him to a school that specializes on students with ADHD.it is very difficult to have a child with ADHD because the child does not pay attention. I should know be cause I was a teacher's aide years ago. Yung time yung teacher nauubos sa kasasaway which disrupts the class. Punta ka sa UP. Meron silang program for children with ADHD. By the way, avoid giving your child junk food and sweets.
ReplyDeleteObviously, just by the meaning of it, you would know that ADHD clients have short attention span. (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder.)
DeleteMasyadong maaga pa para sabihin na hyperactive ang bata hindi pa tapos ang 1 quarter ganyan na agad.unfair sa parent at sa bata yan
ReplyDeleteireklamo sa dep ed.
ReplyDeletepero mukhang may ADHD ang kid. dapat talaga ilipat ng school.
pero yes dapat i-refund ang tuition fee
again ireklamo sa dep ed!
Naiyak ako dito! ;( Mrs. Valdez tama lang ang ginawa niyo na ilabas ito. Yang school na pinuntahan niyo eh kilala talaga sa pagiging mukhang pera pero ang serbisyo walang kwenta. Hanap na lang po kayo ng school na kayang i-manage yung behavior ng anak niyo. Baka may ADHD po yung anak niyo at hindi kaya i-handle ng Perps. Sa ngayon po baka pwede niyo na muna siya ipa-tutor para sa next school year.
ReplyDeleteako din, naiyak agad ako when i saw the pic of the kid. i was not able to finish reading the whole article. nabibigatan ako, i want to hug the kid. gosh.. this breask my heart
DeleteSorry, but to be fair I think the mother might be in denial rin naman. His kid might be an ADHD kid and she's not able to acknowledge it. There are some schools who specialize in these cases.
ReplyDeletePero the school should have been fair and professional about handling the situation. As a mother, I am heartbroken dun sa part na her kid is flipping through the pages of his book. :(
I guess kahit may adhd yung bata, he has a right to study in a normal school. Mahirap kasi na ma-feel nung bata na naiiba siya sa ibang bata. He can attend therapy and go to a normal school. This is really possible kasi i had a classmate from preschool hanggang grade 6 na may adhd.
DeleteI beg to disagree Anon 1:27. Kung may special needs ang bata, dapat dun sya sa environment na appropriate sa kanya. Mahirap sa mainsteam school dahil may certain situations na nakaka-trigger ng behavior. Baka yung classmate mo ay may medication kaya na-control kahit papano ang symptoms nya. But sometimes a child is too young to be medicated, kaya ilagay mo na lang sya sa environment na makaka-cope sya.
DeleteADHD needs special care. And the earlier na ma-address ang issues ng bata, masmatutuwid pa. Enrolling him in a special school will not make him less of a person or child. Instead, it will, bring out the best in him and correct the habits and hyperactivities.
DeleteActually, not all people suffering from ADHD need to be put in a special school - if there is proper diagnosis and treatment (eg. medication) involved it is possible for them to attend a regular school. It's appalling how many commenting on here are saying just dump the kid in a special needs school as if that's the only option available.
DeleteIm also a mother and I understand where she is coming from pero it would have been more appropriate kung she seek an advice from a specialist prior to enrolling the kid to a normal school. For sure she knows that there is something wrong with the kid pero in denial nga sya. We cant always blame some school kase mga mukhang pera mga yan,tanggap lng ng tanggap. Sa school naman, they have to give her the full refund kung yun ang nkalagay sa policy nila, hindi acceptable yung reason ng school
DeleteI am 20 not yet a parent, but this hurts me big time :( Ang sakit while reading this, what a school... :((( sobrang nakakahiya to
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for the kid... pero naloka ako sa sentence construction ni ate, mali mali... sana nagtagalog na lang siya!
ReplyDeleteisa ka sa nag bash kay ate vi noh?
Deletebad ka
Huh? Ano mali sa english nya?Ikaw nga first sentence mo pa lang mali na eh na puna mo pa ung letter sender.. kaloka ka!
DeleteOmg wtf? Hindi yun ang issue dito, yun pa napansin mo? Perfect ka e
Deletewe are Filipinos and majority of us think and write the English language the Filipino way-- In-Ingles na Tagalog. as long as the thoughts and concerns of the letter writer is understood, okay lang. sana'y tigilan na ang mga pagpuna sa grammar ng iba, di naman talakayang pang Ateneo or Harvard ang palitan ng kuro-kuro dito.please!
DeleteNapansin ko rin yun pero upset siguro sya nung sinusulat nya ito kaya palipasin nalang pls.
DeleteSorry, pero agree ako kay 12:35. Sana nga nagtagalog na lang yung mother. wala naman masama kung magtatagalog sya.
DeleteThere are times when you look at grammar and sentence construction and there are times when you don't. Have a heart.
DeleteDami perfectionist sa pinas..kairita.
DeleteI agree, she should've just used Tagalog instead, it is the national language anyway.
DeleteIt only means bored ang bata s loob ng class room. Dapat ang teacher gumawa ng activity that will suits the boys need. D mo pede lage associate sa isang bata and adhd
ReplyDeleteHoney, the more open we are to accepting or noticing the signs of ADHD, the earlier we cam address the isaue and give proper therapy. Mas maagapan ang condition and maovercome.
DeleteU can not ask a teacher/school to cater to one's student needs. Just coz the kid is bored? How about the other 20 kids who are doing fine with the activities??? The parent should know better. Alam naman pla nya her kid has special needs. She should have enrolled her kid sa ibang school.
Deletethis story breaks my heart..im a mother and soon my daughter will go to school. trying to imagine that this will happen to her really brakes my heart. hope you'll get justice.. may mga school kasi n pag alam nilang kilala sila, sila p mataas. kasi ang iniisip nila maraminaman dyang iba pang students n papasok s kanila..
ReplyDeleteThere are children na super active and hyper pero walang ADHD
ReplyDeletekorek!yun iba kc dito nabasa lang na sobrang active me adhd na agad.inassess yung bata before enrollment.sana noon pa lang sinabi na agad na special un bata..daming judgemental
DeleteIve been thru this. Almost the same case kami ni Mrs. Valdez. The difference is Grade 1 na sa akin. and yes same din ang mga symptoms... cant stay put, lumalabas ng room pag nag cla class, nakikipag away, disruptive, etc. I was so afraid that my son has ADHD. with the support of the school, the guidance counselor and continuos support at home, after 5 months after the school opening, ng behave ang anak ko. The counselor said that my son may have a longer time to adjust to a new environment, kaya sobrang gustong mag explore and hindi masyado nadevelop ang social skills kaya may mga incidents na nakikipag away. The school should support with continuous dialogues with the parents. whether or not may ADHD, the school must support the child. And hello, this is the child first time sa big school, syempre hindi pa sya nakaka adjust and preschool po ang bata hindi pa sya highschool na madaling pagsabihan.
DeleteIt pains me that the victim here is the child, kung wala syang disorder, na mark na sya na may diperensya by his classmates and teachers. This only goes to show that PERPS is not child focus but a money making institution. Better to transfer him na lang, walang values matututunan ang anak mo dyan if they cannot do their part as educators.
Agree ako sau 1:56!
Deletepwedeng nasa denial stage din si mother ang magandang gawin para ma sure is magpacheck sa developmental doctor at kung sa school dapat irefund na nila agad para makapagenroll yung bata sa tamang school na magcacater sa needs nya,
ReplyDeleteAnong in denial eh may scheduled check up nga sila on july 28...wla pang diagnosid eh ano p b ang ideny... basa basa din pag may time
DeleteYes, that's what happened to my nephew. In denial ang sister ko. She enrolled him in a regular school, na bully tuloy. Pati teacher walang pasensya sa bata. My nephew would cry going to school. Buti na lang na agapan and he was transferred to a special needs school. Now he looks forward to going to school.
DeleteSometimes kasi as a parent we pretend that nothing is wrong with our child.
Hindi denial si mother. Sinabi sa letter naka-sched na sa doctor. Hindi lang mahintay ng school. Sinisigurado kasi ang perang ibabayad sa kanila.
DeletePaki basa nga po uli, may schedule na ung bata for development pedia. Kung in denial pa dn mommy nya,di nya ipapasched s specialist anak nya.
DeleteThat's not the point here! The mother may not know of the symptomps of ADHD. Kaya nga pinadala sa school! Point is the school failed to realize its goal!
Deletethe mom is not in denial, the fact na meron siyang appointment with a developmental pediatrician and she was just requesting the school to wait for that appointment.
DeletePoor kid to suffer discrimination at such a young age. Shame on the school and it's staff.
ReplyDeleteSa prisonto magpaliwanag
ReplyDeleteMatagal na itong alam ng lahat na ang Perpetual Help ay PERApetual! Mukhang pera, hindi lang sa school, pati sa ospital! Sino ba ang may ari nito? Casimiro?! pwe!
ReplyDeleteHindi po mga Casimiro.. TAMAYO po.
DeleteMali sa mga Tamayo po ito hindi sa mga Casimiro #tagaLasPinas
DeleteFirst of all kudos to Mrs Valdez for exposing that school. Yes, she should have taken her kid to a school with SPED (Special need education) program but probably she is hoping against hpe that he is "normal". Dun palang sa nag assess na di naman child psychologist, The school already failed them. Tapos ngayon it will take months to refund them the money, is that even legal when their Student Handbook says that they should get it not later than 2 weeks. Baka nga yan ang patakaran ng DepEd mismo.
ReplyDeleteAnong shouldve??? E wala pa ngang diagnosis... may check up pa sa july 28!
Deletesped?agad agad?inassess un bata before enrollment.sinabi na ok.nabasa nyo lang un word na sobrang active ikoconclude nyo na agad na special un bata.madaming kinoconsider bago sabihing special child ang isang bata..judgemental people!
DeleteThe school should have waited for the doctor's report before accepting or not accepting the kid. With the doctor's report, the school would be able to know if they can handle the kid considering the class size & number of teachers / aides per class.
ReplyDeleteAh may attention deficit hyperactivity disorder yung bata. Dapat nagresearch sya ng bongga about the school. Humingi ng tulong sa iba. Baka naman kasi sa sobrang excited ni mamita, go lang ng go. Oh well lesson learned. Next time magresearch ng bongga. Love love live. Positive always. Aya!
ReplyDeleteI think the mom is in denial.
Deleteikaw ang magresearch!nabasa mo lang na super active naconclude mo agad na special un bata?hahhaahhaha..ang babaw ng pagkakaalam mo sa special child
DeleteWhaaaat? Anong positive sa statement mo? Things like this are not just about optimism. Justice ang issue dito. Kitid naman!
Deletewow na-diagnose mo agad!
Deletethat happened to me. looks like at risk sa ADHD yung bata. but once ma-diagnose ng developmental pedia, give the recommendation sa school and they will give special attention sa needs ng bata. that's what we did. importante ma-diagnose muna kasi ang school hindi rin papayag na walang recommendation from developmental pedia. but better if pa-tutor muna sa bahay yung bata in the mean time.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for both the mom and the kid. I hope the mom is aware that there is a famous SPED/normal school next to UPHDS which can handle kids like him. For sure they can diagnose kids better because they have both normal and sped students in one school. This school is only few meters away from UPHDS.
ReplyDeleteThe school should have been transparent that it has limitations when it comes to handling special cases like children with ADHD, Autism, PDD, etc. While assessment conducted by a teacher aide sounds unprofessional on their part, a teacher or a psychologist has no capabilities to diagnose a child that is under the autism spectrum either. Having previously worked in a preschool, I understand that a special child could be disruptive to the flow of the class. Again, it goes back to my first statement that they should have been honest in the first place.
ReplyDeleteWith regards to the refund of tuition fee paid in full, if I were the school head, I would refund it in full ASAP. They should stick to what is indicated in the handbook. Or else, the parent has the option to sue the school (hassle nga lang).
aww :( ganyan talaga sa perps, nag aral din ako dyn nung elementary ako... may pagkafavoritism mga teacher, kaya ako na yung binubully nun, ako pa yung mali... Tas may mga teacher pa na ayaw sa maiitim .. may nagtapon nga na teacher ng notebook ko nun sa basurahan ehh, at nagpapahiya pa... pero hndi naman ako makulit, tahimik nga ko ehh... yun lang ayaw nila NOON sa kulay ko :(.... tsaka mukang pera tlga cla at mtgal ang service.. experience q na yan sa sister ko pti sa iba kong cousins
ReplyDeleteUna, let her child consult a doctor or specialist Kung May ADHD nga, . . .pero sana May ginawa din yun mom after syang in inform ng school about her sons behavior in the class, at it's too early naman sa part ng school na kind of I-give up yun bata, they should at least evaluate the kid for a month kasi what if mag improve pala sya at ma-lessen yun pagiging hyperactive Nya. Just don't stop talking to the child let him know the do's and don't's, keep reminding him over and over, at ganun din dapat sa bahay with the child's mom or family that way you are helping him out, too di lamang sa school. And teacher should not give up on him, instead refer him to somebody that can help the child.
ReplyDeleteRead the letter again. The child is already scheduled for a checkup on July 28. Kaunti lang ang developmental pedia sa Pilipinas kaya kailangang hintayin ang doktor. Ang eskuwelahan naman hindi pumapayag late enrollment.
DeleteThis is heartbreaking :(
ReplyDeleteHopefully, makuha agad nila yung refund para mailipat nung mother yung kiddo ng school.
For the school, well shame on them.
Hi Miss Rhodora
ReplyDeleteI hope you can read this. I feel you. I get you. It is very painful. When I was told my child will not be admitted to Grade 1 because he was still unable to read, it really hit me hard. But mine was nothing compared to what youre going through. I understand that as a mother, you want to protect your child from everything, even from emotional pain and rejection. Sadly, you can only protect him so much. When my child asked me why he wasnt proceeding to Grade 1 with his friends, I sugar coated my excuses with all my might. Because I dont want to hurt him. I'd take it, I'd take it all for him. Ayoko sya masaktan. I will protect him from this world's rejection for as long as I can.
But guess what, before I knew it, he has forgotten about all of it. The good thing is that children are very resilient, more resilient than adults, more resilient that we adults know of. We tend to underestimate their emotional quotient. Adults are more difficult to get over things, we always carry bitterness, anger and unnecessary baggage. Children are not like that. They get over things pretty quickly leaving all pain behind them. They dont carry it around.
Take him to Kumon, or tutor centers where you go (not personal tutors that go to your house), or Kids Camp for now, I bet you, very quickly, he will be happy again and he will not ask anything about that school again.
I pray for you sis. Stay strong. And find comfort in the thought that your son is emotionally stronger than what you think.
we need compassionate and understanding people like you in our midst. kudos!
DeleteThank you for restoring my faith na hndi lahat ng anonymous ay bashers. May God bless you always.
DeleteMy son is the total opposite of yours, quiet, listless, and has difficulty focusing. His sad droopy eyes made it worse and his red lips made him appear he has fever all the time. His teachers called me up for a meeting but when we were facing each other, they couldn't speak straight to the point, so I asked them if they can handle my son or not. Said I should look for a special school suited for my son's needs. I was shocked but I complied.
ReplyDeleteThey suspected my son has autism but can't say the word. So I took my son to a developmental pedia, had him took a battery of psych tests, physical exam, blood chem, etc. Found out he has severe allergy. No autism. Until today my son is still shy and quiet, still has his droopy eyes and he's in grade 8, happy and well adjusted. Buti na lng.
Dear Mrs Valdez - I hope that you will hear me out as an aunt of an autistic child. Please wait for the diagnosis because the rejection your son received might be one of the greatest blessing he will receive and that is early detection. From this you will be able to make adjustments on how you will educate your son. Acceptance is very hard but without it you will not be able to take the right path.I know a lot of parents who are in denial so their kids are not getting the help that they need. I wish Luigi the best.
ReplyDeleteTo mom: I am sure that you must be aware of the child's condition even before you let the school assessed your child--and yet you just crossed your finger and prayed na the school will accept him. In fairness to the school's "pasado", they were referring to his academic side, not the behavior or attitude. I also have a son, and 6 years ago I knew na baka maging iba sya mga magiging classmate nya and I made sure na he was "really ready" before entering the normal class. Why did I do that? Because I also have a daughter who were bullied by an ADHD child in her class, and the school did nothing because I found out that the parents of the child is hugely wealthy and the principal won't allow the child to be reprimand due to the ADHD child's parent's contribution/donation sa school. Parents knew what their child is getting through, but sometimes we denied it in hope that we are wrong.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I am with you for noting the school's lack of empathy. They should informed you and have given time before they pulled out your kid--not 8 days! And the harassment of not getting the refund is really a hair pulling experience. 32k is a huge amount!
I hope and I pray that you and your family will get through this.
andaming judgemental dito!nasabi lang na sobrang active nun bata naconclude na me adhd na?madaming super active na bata ngayon pero walang adhd..madaming kinoconsider bago sabihing special child un bata.basa basa din oag me time..hindi yung mga nagdudunong dunungan kayo eh mga wala naman kayong alam!
ReplyDeletepamangkin ko may ADHD pero s normal school sya pumapasok. ala namng issue katulad nyan naka top1 p nga sya s classroom. cguro na s teacher din kung pano i handle yang ganyang student. nung nursery nga sya hirap talaga sya mag salita pero napag tyagaan sya ng teacher nya. ngayun ngayun grade 2 n sya
ReplyDeletei don't believe in the mother's claim na july 28 pa this year mapa.final diagnose ang bata. The child is already 4 years old. And as a mother, alam nya yun from the start na something is different sa anak nya. Kung talagang may pedia ang bata, she already knew it years ago pa. She could have accepted the fact na special school ang needs ng bata. During the assessment naman ng school, basic tool ang kanilang ginagamit to gauge the readiness of the child. They still have the discretion to further obseve and assess the child during the school days na. Syempre masakit talaga yan as I am a mother also but sometimes you have to accept the reality.
ReplyDeleteDapat talag makarating sa DepEd yan! Ang mga teachers, faculty staff nagtatakipan yan! Dami pang bully dyan. Lalo na mga anak ng teacher. Na kung tutuusin hundi naman sila nagbabayad ng tuition. ( free tuition nila) misc. lang binabayaran nila. Ang nga students nila sa isang class room umaabit ng 50 sa higher level. Na kung tutuusin dapat hindi ganyan kadami estudyante nila.
ReplyDeleteNakakainis yang perps na yan! Mabuti na lang lumipat na anak ko. Kawawa naman yung bata. Dapat sanumpisa pa lang hindi na nila tinanggap ung bata para hindi na umabit sa ganyan. Nakaka dissapoint yang school na yan. Dapat palitan na nila yung management at lahat ng staff dyan! Nag alisan na nga mga ia ng teachers at students dyan dahil sa BULOK na system nila!
ReplyDeleteTo Parents:
ReplyDeletePlease refrain from giving sweets to your children(sweet drinks included) para di maka-hyper sa kanila. Feed them home cooked nutritious food instead lalo na fruits and veggies. Don't let your yayas raise your children para matutukan nyo development ng kids nyo. Wag nyo ring gawing nanny ang tv/Ipad/tablet dahil mas mahirap mag-focus at matutong magsalita ang batang naiwan lang most of the time sa harap ng tv at gadgets lalo pag nasa school na sila. Watching tv and using gadgets are fine as long as you guys are beside them to monitor what they are watching at para may human interaction at guidance while they are using those. Check nyo din ano pinapanuod at apps/games na ginagamit ng kids nyo kung may violence ba, sex o nakaka-hyper mga nakikita nila sa mga yun. Give them a proper schedule mula sa pagligo nila, eating time, tv/gadget time hanggang sa sleeping time. Please be responsible parents para di maging kawawa yung mga kids nyo.
dpat kc as a mother ikaw ang dpt unang mkaasses sa anak mo..unang ngpacheck para mdiagnose ng maaus para mas alam mo kung saang school sya dpt...at sa school start plng nmn ng classes dpt buo ang refund...with proper referal..
ReplyDeleteAabutin ka ng siyam siyam bago maka refund jan sa Perapetual. Tssss
ReplyDeleteIn denial si mommy. 4 years old Na yung bata "school, teacher, happy" lang ang nasabi. Dun lang may idea ka na na mabagal ang development nung bata. Hindi makaconstruct ng sentence. Dapat full refund agad. - konkiat
ReplyDeletehmm... may point ka jan. di ba may school naman for kids with special needs?
DeleteAng hina ng logic mo to discuss the issue of the mother! Mag-aral ka, iha! Nang may masabi kang tama
DeleteHi Miss Rhodora,
ReplyDeleteNangyari na rin sa akin yan nag summer class yung anak ko.. 1st day pa lang sinabi ng teacher na baka may adhd sya.. kasi hyperactive sya sa school.. so ipa check ko daw sa dev ped.. to think na 1 day pa lang yun kaya sobra akong nasaktan nun.. hindi ko na ginawa yun ilang pedia na rin nmn yung napuntahan ko.. hindi naman daw ganun anak ko at di rin masasabi ng isang araw lang yun..hindi lang tlga pala labas yung anak ko kaya na excite siguro.. sobra din akong iyak nun. Napakasakit na sabhin sayo yun.. nararamdaman kita naiintindihan kita.. ang ginawa ko na lang.. tinulungan ko nlng anak ko makipag socialize sa ibang bata.. nakapag kinder at prep na sya...in two years na yun wala naman nasabi yung teachers niya sa akin na may problem yung anak ko.. now grade 1 na sya.. so far ok naman sya sa school. Basta turuan mo lang yung baby mo.. pero maganda rin para sure ka ipa check mo sya.. god bless..
Sa totoo lang, naiiyak ako. Masakit para sa magulang ang itaboy ang anak nya, sana maibigay na lang ang refund sa nanay at ng sa ganon makapag enrol na ang bata sa special school. Para sayo nanay, saludo ako at di mo iniwan ang anak mo sa pinagdadaanan nya ngayon.
ReplyDeleteHello,
ReplyDeleteI think you should have the child check by a child psychologist. Maybe there are some underlying issues behind the behavior. I have a nephew who had the same issue as yours and the school was the one who advise my sister to have the child checked. it turns out that the child has special needs so he has to go some sort of treatment but not that kind that he would be given medicines its like more of counselling not sure on the details. After 3 years in a special education school now he has joined regular school. Before it was discovered the child seemed to be so normal but super hyper active and has temper.. Lumabas lalo nung napasama siya sa ibang mga bata..
Perapetual nga ang tawag namin jan sa school n yan..
ReplyDeleteNaiyak ako sa dito kasi nangyari to samin. Fyi hindi madaling malaman namay adhd kahit sabihin pa ng devt psychologist. Pero to avoid ganitong scenario ilipat sa small sch with small class. Madaming bawal na pagkaina bawal computer games cellphone games dapat swimming or basketball or soccer games para magamit nya extra energy nya.a At irefund and tuition fee.
ReplyDeleteTry ALRES or any school which specializes in behavioral and developmental problems. Ask your developmental pedia about it. You are not alone in this.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, nde lahat ng comment ay mga basher, halos nmn ay may mga point lalo na sa mga mother na naiintindihan at nadarama ang pain mo. And right now ang main concern mo eh makahanap ng tamang school para sa bata at makapag refund na ng matapos na ang ugnayan mo sa school na yun. I guess nmn you learned your lesson well, una eh, considering na may kakaiba sa anak mo na i guess aware ka nmn kasi di mo na mn sya ipapa consulta sa ganun klaseng doktor kung wala karin napansin kakaiba sa kanya, kailangan sa tamang school mo sya ienroll, tas pangalawa, wag ka na mag full payment kahit mayaman ka kung may option namn na installment, yan tuloy nahirapan kang magrefund.
ReplyDeletePero kagaya mo nanay rin ako, may anak din ako, nabully nmn sya last year at second grade, till na magdrop na kami kasi ayaw na nya pumasok. Dami ko rin kinosider nun, ang magtransfer ng school sa kalagitnaan ng taon, mag homeschool- kase bilang nanay, ikaw din ang teacher nya, ibubuhos mo oras mo sa anak mo, matulungan mo lang. Tawag nga sa akin eh teacher mommy. But we end up sa Kumon kagaya ng isang commenter. At kahit may kumon, ikaw din mag tutor sa anak mo, susunod ka lang sa program nila. And now, back to school na anak ko, second grade ulit pero atleast nde nmn nasayang yung year sa kanya kasi she gain self confidence again dahil ang bilis na nyang magbasa ngayon. Hindi man sila bright kagaya ng ibang bata, pero proud ako sa accomplishment nila. Minsan mahirap talaga maging nanay, pagod, pasensya, pangunawa. Goodluck sa baby mo, sana makahanap ka na ng school para sa kanya.
The problem here in the Philippines is that there are only a few developmental pedias around, so, lahat nagsisiksikan makapagpaschedule ng anak for assessment alone. Ang hirap makakuha ng slot. I feel for the mother, yung frustration, yung hurt, yung lahat lahat. Kaya, sa school na yan, bahala na sila.
ReplyDeleteIt is not that kaunti ang developmental pedia. Accd to our pedia, there seems to be a worldwide boom in cases of children with special needs. In Canada alone, pila daw ang nagpapa consult. Until now, doctors can't exactly pinpoint the root cause of this phenomenon. One theory is that mas malaki na ang exposure natin sa processed food. Another theory could be oberstimulation due to overconsumption of digital media, one of my kids has speech delay. I tried changing our diet. Tinanggal ko yung mga cubes and powdered na food enhancers (cubes, artificial seasoning) and limited their consumption of hotdogs and chicken nuggets. I also limited their TV time. So far, may improvement sa speech niya. I still need a speech therapist for my kid and I'm still hoping na wala siya sa spectrum.
DeleteMa'am, this made me cry. I have experienced the same thing in La Trinidad Academy, Imus. 2 weeks nakaenroll ang anak ko and she was labelled hyperactive. That day mismo, I pulled her out of school. I enrolled her in Little Haven Christian School. I never heard the 2nd school complain anything about my child.
ReplyDelete8 days palang para mahusgahan agad na hindi nila kaya ang bata. marami namang paraan para hindi mapakawalan ang bata. Ung anak ko may kaklase rin na may ADHD pero ang ginawa ng teacher, hinayaan na lang muna na may tito/yaya/parent na nakabantay. 1st year of schooling palang naman at hindi naman sa isang kisapmata e magbebehave yan. Remember ang Kinder 1 ngayon is 4yo na dapat. Noon nakakapagrade 1 ka na 7yo ka kahit walang background ng preschool. Mga ganyang edad playful pa tapos lalaki pa. Pinaaassess na rin ng parent un anak nya kung ano ang diagnosis. Walang problema kung special or hindi e. Responsibilidad ngeskwelahan yan lalo at tinanggap nila. Naaawa ako sa bagets. Pero mother, magpakatatag ka at kung ano man ang resulta, suportahan mo lang ang anak mo. Makakahanap ka rin ng paaralan na para sa kanya.
ReplyDeletethe mom knows about her child's behavior right before nya ni enroll si luigi. given that, dapat pinaka siguro nya na ma ha handle ang anak nya sa klase. 1 teacher, 1 aide for 15 kids is not enough. just looking at that ratio I'm very doubtful the adults can handle the kids.
ReplyDeleteas for the refund, unfortunately nasa pilipinas yan, you can't expect they can cut you a refund check right away. well with this letter, all out in the open, hopefully you got their attention and you'll get the credit bank to your account sooner.
who wouldn't like to mainstream their child.. but we have to be realistic so the kid will be more successful. find a smaller class ratio with an ABA program. focus on the child's needs thats all it is.
I know how protective a mother can be, i am a mother myself. But we should also be open-minded to things na hindi pwede para sa mga anak naten. I have also a toddler son, 3years old. I enrolled him as early as 2 years old sya coz i knnow he can do it, and he wants to do it also. Eventhough my son is not as 'hyper' and dont have 'special' needs, i made sure he is enrolled in a school where he can be taught and guided and guarded well. Only 8 kids in class. With 2 teachers and 2 teacher aides. Sana ganon ginawa ni mother, i mean, if u know ur son needs more attention, dont enroll him in a 'big school' then you vent out ur frustration. With the refund though, that i hope u get asap. Its not fair for u. But i wish nextime u know better. Who doesnt want the best for our kids?
ReplyDeletePrecisely the reason why you have the least right to give an opinion about this, first of all, yes, you are a mother, but you have no idea of her plight or what any parent of kids with special needs go through because you don't have one. I suggest you heed your own advice to be open minded or keep whatever you have to say to yourself. It was never needed nor wanted.
DeleteDapat di siya gumawa ng open later kung ayaw ng unsolicited opinion. Nakakairita lang.
DeleteNaglikot lang ang bata ADHD agad? Hindi ba normal sa bata ang curious, playful, at full or energy?
ReplyDeleteThe person who diagnosed is NOT EVEN a child psychologist to the very least. To those who bashed the author / mother of Luigi, BASA BASA pag may time.
- Friend ng Nanay ni Luigi
Perpetual is known as PERA-petual. It includes hospitals. We were a victim.
ReplyDeleteWhile I sympathize with the mother, I think she was not transparent with the school. Did she ask how they would handle students with special needs? It seems to me she knew her child has special needs. She had mentioned she took her son to a doctor for psychological testing before the school even reached out to her requesting for a meeting. If however the child went to regular assessment with school psychologist this may not have happened. Sometimes though even with a professional assessment, these things do not manifest right away. Especially if the testing is short. That is why additional information from parents or guardian is useful. I am sorry but She cannot say i will write an open letter to school and expect people not to comment about it. It is just human nature to judge. If she did not want to, then she should not write an open letter. Having said all this, i agree with her 100%, the school should refund her money as soon as possible.
ReplyDeleteI can only empathize with the mother and I hope that she will be able to get her refund soon. As for the child, I think they should seek help from child psychologist even if a kid has ADHD they still can live a normal life think Michael Phelps. At this age the child has special needs and maybe Perpetual is not equip to handle cases like this in their school.
ReplyDeletepag pre-elem me summer class ang mga schools dapat para malaman kung kaya n ng bata mag regular school. 8 days para sa akin ay sobrang aga to determine kung kaya mag adjust. Lahat ng magulang yan ang ultimate dream mabigyn ng magandang education foundation ang mga anak nila.. ang anak ko me selective mutism .. sa assesment sinabi ko n agad ang lagay.. para kung d sila tumatanggap ng mga ganung case -- maghahanap ka tlga ng school.. mapa regular school man o special education clinics..
ReplyDeleteMee too we had bad experience sa perps, in the end we decided to transfer our child.nakaka stress mag reklamo wala naman patutunguhan.lately ko lan nalaman di tlga maganda reputation ng perps molino kaya wla despite maganda campus nila mega ads cla sa cavite,compare sa ibang schools.
ReplyDeletedont worry baby.. makakahanap k dn ng perfect school .. this is sad.. marami dapat ayusin s educ system regarding s mga me special needs n students. d ginusto ng bata ipanganak cya n me adhd.. kaya sana tulungan n lang..
ReplyDeleteHi mommy,
ReplyDeleteRamdam ko ung situation mo... di nmn kita nakikitaan ng indenial stage. Mas makabago ka lang mag isip unlike sa mga nag comments sayo dito. Kahit nmn may special needs,may right lahat ng bata for a regular school. Ika nga ng therapist ng baby ko, may iba na nga sa anak mo tapos ihahalo mo pa cia sa katulad nya. Mas ma aadopt lang nya lalo at iisiing normal lng pla ginagawa nya. Sa ibang mommy na may normal kids,di nyo ba nanaisin na makatulong man lang anak nyo pra ma imitate ng iba? Mas nakaka proud cguro un kesa isipin nyo pang kawawa ung anak nyo na di natututukan ng teachers kahit mas kaya naman nla.
Kung may red flags si Luigi,di naman kailangan i-label agad cia for a syndrome na khit mismong doctor/therapist e di naman agad agad nagda diagnose. It takes months pra mabigyan ng label ang isang batang may symptoms. Hindi katulad ng mga nagcomment dito na wagas kng makapag sabi ng adhd agad. 2014 na po tayo,mga high tech na technologies. Pero mga paniniwala sobrang makaluma.
Anyways,mommy ni Luigi... wait nlng tayo ng assessment ng dev ped. And if your not satisfy s doc,lipat ka lng ng iba. Makikita mo nmn kng pano iaassess e.. 1hr lang yan,ikaw nmn nakakakilala sa anak mo. Try mo na din magresearch bago kayo magpunta s dev ped. Maigi if you can list down ung mga likes and unlikes ni Luigi. These will help too pra mas makilala ng dev ped anak mo.
Pray lang! ;)
I feel the mother, she loves her son so much. Kaya siguro di Nya matanggap yung mga sinabi ng teacher sa school. Kahit ako masasaktan para sa anak ko, yes it's clear she's in denial of her child's situation. Enroll Nya na muna sa special school para maagapan pa at in time makapag school sa normal classroom.
ReplyDeleteI think the child has autism dahil hindi lang naman sya hyper kungdi may communication (difficulty following instructions) and social interaction problems. My kids have been diagnosed with autism but they are coping up well dahil sa support system ng school and family. Believe me, if the school rejected your son it's because they cannot handle him. They should refund your tuition fees ASAP and you should look for another school that has a program appropriate for children with special needs. Not necessarily na segregated class unless na severe autism ang diagnosis with violent tantrums or tendency to hurt other kids. My kids are in integrated programs and are both doing fine. Yung first school that I want for my child rejected him as well pero at least they were honest, they said wala silang capacity to handle special education dahil wala silang trained teachers/staff. So I looked for another school na hindi lang willing kungdi able to handle him. Dun ko na rin pinasok yung isa later on. Nag-grow sila pareho dahil trained yung mga teachers and teacher aides (one-on-one for half-day sa kanila). The school is very tolerant, the students are good as well, walang cases ng bullying and they actually embrace the students with special needs. They don't make my kids feel that they are different so they (my kids) feel that they belong. We also have the support of all the therapists/doctors that they need, a speech therapist, an occupational therapist, a child psychologist, a nutritionist, and a doctor who specializes in developmental delay. And lastly, dapat committed ang parents sa lahat ng educational planning na dapat reinforced din sa bahay. The first step is acceptance, dapat ma-accept mo kung anuman ang kalagayan ng anak mo dahil hindi mo siya matutulungan kung ikaw mismo hindi mo matanggap kung ano siya. It doesn't have to be a hindrance for them to succeed in life, if they are well-loved they would also blossom like any other kids.
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly what I have in mind, agreed with every word you've said.
DeleteI especially loved the last part, about Acceptance, mthat's why I have this great respect for moms of kids with special needs, kasi doble effort,, tama,, hindi hindrance ang success kung yung hope nandun
DeleteI've been through this. As a parent of a special child it really hurts when you can feel that other people don't understand your child, the more when they make you feel they don't want him in their school. My son is diagnose with functional autism at age 6. Too late but I insisted to let him enroll in a normal school, as he can read and write and I know someday, with my hands on support and guidance he will become okay. From 3-7years old it was a struggle. As I was always in school with him, I didn't let him go inside the classroom without me watching over. I asked the teacher if I could stay so I can manage him and it wouldn't be a burden to them as I know he's hyperactive, have a short span of attention and doing things on his own. In the case of this mother, if she knows her child is different then she should have send someone to watch over the child inside the classroom like yaya so everytime he will become destructive, there's a yaya who can help the teacher in dealing with him.
ReplyDeleteTama:)
DeleteSo sad...well its a crappy school anyway. Im sure your kid will learn more in a better institution.
ReplyDeleteso true
Deleteso true! mismong main campus eh bulok
DeleteRegardless kung ano condition ng bata, focus should be given on whether Perpetual did the right thing in accepting the child, dropping Luigi after 8 days, and the dilly dallying with the refund?
ReplyDeleteGanyan din anak ko nung 1st time mag school na overwhelmed lang pero walang diperensiya. Pinag chagaan ng teacher at school ayun nakapag adopt narin sa environment. Chagaan lang yan sa bata.
ReplyDeleteGanyan din anak ko nung 1st time mag school na overwhelmed lang pero walang diperensiya. Pinag chagaan ng teacher at school ayun nakapag adopt narin sa environment. Chagaan lang yan sa bata.
ReplyDeleteJust curious.. Hindi ba nag nursery or pre-nursery ang bata? Usually pag private school, hindi pwedeng diretso Kinder 1 agad, right? And for the amount na willing to shell out si Mrs. Valdez, mukhang afford naman nila ang nursery even pre-nursery. So kung may disorder nga si Luigi, napansin na sana ng past teachers/school niya.
ReplyDeleteMy son started in Junior kinder, as long as the child is capable, or depende din sa school
DeleteI felt the pain of the mother but I suggest that she should get medical help for her child just to make sure na walang problem sa anak nya... better see a specialist para maagapan or the problem will just continue and the child will never be given proper education, attention and treatment that he rightfully deserve...
ReplyDeleteMy son had the same problem when he was in preschool. Pero trained ang teachers na humawak sa anak ko kahit public school dito sa lugar namin. Alam nila humawak ng bata at naniniwala sila na every child is different at they mature in a pace of their own. In my opinion dapat ang mga school din dapat kumuha ng trained or licensed professional to teach hindi yun basta basta na lang kukuha ng empleado na wala naman amor sa bata. Maybe wala naman adhd or add or autism ang bata. Sadyang malikot lang at mahirap pakalmahin dapat alam nila na pakalmahin ang bata pukawin ang interest nito. Mahirap humanap ng school lalo na kung yung iba pera pera na lang ang labanan. Saka sinabi 15 students lang bakit naging full class of 21 na? Business is business kumbaga.
ReplyDeleteganyan tlg sa perapetual!!! #university alumni #main campus
ReplyDeleteMove on na lang Madam. Find a suitable school for Luigi. Everything will be fine. Wag basta magconclude na ADHD ang bagets kasi bata yan. Teacher ako dati for 7 years. Meron akong mga tutees na kasinlikot ng anak mo, yung tipong tinatawag ako nung teacher nya sa classroom kasi yung tutee ko ayaw sa kanila makinig, kung anu-ano sinasabi sa katabi daw, maingay, malikot... pero hindi naman siya sinabing adhd. Patingin sa propersyunal tapos lipat ng school na lang. Hayaan na yang Perpetual, manenega ka lang.
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