Older millenial here. I grew up without social media. Nag start sya nung college ako - Friendster, Myspace, Multiply. Social media was fun back then. Afterwards dun nag start ang blogging. Andami kong binabasang blogs noon, when bloggers were passionate about their interests.
I've seen the evolution of social media, and I don't like it. Nowadays it's about pasikatan and pabonggahan. No wonder the youth are always comparing themselves with each other. Ang lala din ng bullying. People are not afraid of bashing each other.
What's my point? Social media can be a drug. Social media can be toxic. Nakaka high ang likes and validation. But when people don't like you, they will drag you down even if they don't know you.
Same..friendster pa dati..yung problema natin padamihan ng testimony...true na masaya ang social media dati, now puro bashing nlng kahit simpleng post lang kaya i don't post sa social media..i also filter what comes out from my feeds..yung hindi kinakaya ng mental health ko d ko na tinitignan...i value my mental health more kaya i try to take less time and more on watching happy videos lang but i check naman whats happening now na alam kong depressing from time to time..
OFW here and the only purpose i use socmed is for communication with my family and very few friends from long time ago. I know some people na ginawa na ring source of income ang socmed sukdulang magpost ng mga fake news! Sad....
I’m an older milennial too, and I’ve deactivated all my socials years ago. It was easy for me to do because College na ako when it’s started. I know how it is to live without social media and scrolling nonstop.
yep parang ang chill nung early 2000s Myspace Friendster multiply dota and ragna. if may social bullying man na hindi talaga maiiwasap hindi kasing lala today. Ewan parang yung generation natin yung idgaf attitude hahaha
Friendster was just like an online autograph book. Did I remember it right? Autograph book ang tawag sa written personal info, likes and dislikes, favourites, message sa'yo, who's your crush etc. nung 80s and 90s. Ginagawa yun sa school especially before graduation. Ganun lang friendster dati. Online nga lang. Tapos may music sa background. Testimonials given by people who know you. They would send their congratulations kung nakapasa ka ng board, first car, first house. Pag mayron kang achievement and gusto mong ibrag (yeah brag lol wag na tayong pahumble.) Ganun din sila say your congratulations if they have an achievement. Kumbaga once in a awhile. It's not an everyday thing. Then suddenly un mga kabatch kong millennials naging everyday habit na siya in friendster and FB. Na ooff ako when they started posting their everyday mundane life. Like really? Naglaba, nagluto, umutot lahat pinopost. Nawala na un scarcity, magic. Like the need to constantly inform everyone about your life, when in truth and in fact they don't give a d@mn. The fact that you can be easily reached ang ayaw ko. So now 10 years na akong walang Facebook, I never downloaded tiktok and if not waiting for an important call, my phone is always silent. I don't feel the need to be easily reached out by anybody. Kahit kakilala pa kita.
Marian and Dingdong did the right thing when they disallow gadgets to their children. They're engaged in sports and music. Zia galing galing sa swimming at ang ganda ng boses. While si bunso taekwondo yata. I mean that's what parents should be. Lead the way, decide based on what you think is the best for your kid. I really think social media is not for the sensitive, emotional and vulnerable people. Not to mention it's a total waste of precious time if you're not earning from it. Anyway, RIP young lady. Your parents and family must be truly devastated by your untimely demise. May you find peace and comfort in the loving arms of God.
Yes! The Friendster Testimonials where you get to say good things about other people. Now, social media is all about pabonggahan and endless bashing :(
I am a millenial too not active in social media anymore deactivated na yung FB twitter and official Ig ko meron akong private IG na walang post I only used it to browse for time killing para sa mga healthy non toxic accounts na finafollow ko. a gen z workmates asked me how can I survive haha sabi ko sa kanya mas peaceful ang life ko I have nothing to prove to anyone so why would I feel bad wala din ako sineseek na validation
723 No she didn’t get addicted to social media, what she meant was she got anxious whenever she posts something because of the hate comments that she receives.
This is sad. Wala naman kasalanan yung bata why so much hate? Problema nyo? I follow her on toiktok pa naman and never a single negative word may sinabi sko thank God. Kase kung oo nakakakunsyensya. Sa simpleng comment mo hindi mo alam may apektado at nasasaktan na pla. Lets be kind lets be mpre understsnding lalo na sa wala naman ginawa sa inyo.
I dont understand where the hate is coming from. Dami na ba bobo at tanga? Dami na ba stressed? Dami na ba inggit? At the end of the day, Emman is just a girl trying to live her life.
she met amazing people in tiktok? there is nothing authentic in someones comment made while sitting on a toilet...Rest in Peace girl.TikTok is not a place to find adoration, it aint real and it aint lasting...
I don’t have tiktok neither my kids. Thank goodness! This is one of the main reasons why we never installed the app. They have IG for memes and inspo fashion and recipes. I deleted mine(IG) for many years ago, bec I hate to see how people trying to outdo one another.
Let's try to be "nicer" everyday. Even sa mga tsismis sites like this kasi possible na nagbabasa din yung mga involve sa tsismis dito. It's depressing to read comments and bashing.
maaan!!!.this is very sad! i honestly dnt know her until i saw posts about her passing away and finding out that she's the daughter of Kuya Kim. Everyone of us has our own political views, but can we at least be kind to one another?it's just sad knowing this and no parents should endure this. my sincere condolences to the whole family.
We have to understand that it was a world they were born with na.. 2006, may internet na. unlike us millenials na naabutan natin ang walang internet and then we watched the world evolved into what we have now.
We don't know everything. I read in the comments she's in therapy and that she was abused nung yaya niya when she's a kid. She's already mentally fragile then came the massive bashing on nepo babies. She took it hard obv
Mas ok kasi na walang TikTok, twitter, napaka toxic ng social media, affected na pala but still using it, if di kaya turn off the replies, you can still post and kung ano man ang message or content na gusto mo i share pwede pero you can control the replies turn it off, sa messages naman you can also not receive messages from people you don't follow, ang active nya pala sa TikTok
She was vulnerable because of past and current mental health issues , very opinionated and combative in soc med without knowledge or wisdom to back it up sometimes out of touch from lack of maturity, of course because she was only in her teens and sheltered, people was critical of her, she used soc med as an outlet, like moth playing with fire. Her parents didn’t guide her enough when she was growing up because they were chasing their dreams. When she posted her bare pic at 13 to someone she trusted and end up spreading it to the entire school, that broke her spirit, yet she still continued to use soc med as an outlet. That is a tragedy there. May she rest in peace.
Kung ako ang papipiliin mas gusto ko pa ung panahon na keypads lang ang mga phone at ang internet ay hindi madali maaccess. Mas masaya nun dimo ramdam na mabilis oras at araw, naeenjoy mo ang bawat araw kaysa ngayon parang ang bilis ng panahon.
True! Tipong text lang talaga sa friends and family. Ngayon kasi everything is just there. Isang click na lang lahat. Nakahiga, upo, tayo cp na lang lagi. And may mga tao talaga na hindi na halos mabitawan ang phone.
Ang hirap maging nice, maging kind, maging compassionate lalo na sa panahong ito, sa panahong kahit gaano ka ganda ng sinabi mo, pinost mo hoping na may ma bless ka sa word mo, meron at merong ibabash ka at magtataka ka na lang na saan nanggaling yung bashing nya? Ganun pa man, let’s chose to be kind parin. Mahirap pero kaya naman. Sobrang toxic ng socmed at kung kaya ng mga magulang na walang socmed ang mga anak gawin nila kasi ako na golden na di ko kaya ang bashing lalo na siguro na ang mga bata.
As a parent, the lesson from the same sudden loss of Mr. Buencamino’s daughter was instilled in me. Always check on your kids especially when they choose to be alone in their room, or the other way around appearing to be so “high” / extremely extrovert.
Not only because of social media.. sure nakadagdag yun pressure but she was diagnosed na with depression na when she was still a minor. Hindi takaga dapat binabalewala at kailangan matutukan ng professionals
12:25 hndi natin alam. Baka ayaw paawat. Based on the things that she said doon sa toni talks talagang sya ang nasusunod sa lahat. Walang say ang parents.
Sana yung mga grabe kung manlait, mamintas, at body shaming matauhan na dahil dito. Nakakatulog ba kayo nang mahimbing kung alam ninyong isa kayo sa mga nagtulak para lumala ang anxiety at depression nya? Sa Reddit, isa pa yang platform na walang habas ang mga commenters.
Kawawa na naman na bully na sya sa schools na bully pa sa social media, sana di na sya nag social media kasi wala talagang control at malawak ang reach malawak din ang bashing, she can talk to family friends and support groups mas better, nahaluan din ng politics may DDS e grabe ang DDS,
sabi nya she's insecure sa itsura nya. despite having a complete, normal body at walang kapansanan, she still feels kulang, kahit na filthy rich ang family compared sa ibang taong. she's got all the privileges and more. wala na kayo magagawa dun kung hindi pa rin yun sapat sa kanya. desisyon na nya yan. respect her decision.
Minsan mahirap if you take away all the problems of your child thinking that’s the way para maging ok lahat. Ang prublema, hndi natututo magsolve ng problems at gumamit ng appropriate coping mechanisms. Eh life is hard and people are cruel so pag naharap sa issues especially as a teen and in adulthood kahit maliit na bagay sobrasobrang laki na kasi malaki naman na nga yun para sa kanila. At such time, parents can’t control everything around the child anymore. Yun cousin ng husband ko ganun. 40s na, father to 3 kids na pero parang toddler pa din na nakasumbong sa parents kahit napakaliit na bagay. Sya ang pnakabigay lahat compared to siblings. Lalo na nun eventually nadiagnose na may depression. Ngayon naman naging narc kasi yun ang nafigure out nya in life na kaya nya imanipulate lahat especially ang parents. Yun niece ko din nadiagnose with depression. Sabi ng brother ko ang hirap kasi nga walang naging prublema growing up. Samantalang yun mga madaming prublema, ultimo school supplies prublema, kun kakain ba, etc., naging batak sa buhay kasi yun problems na makakaharap simple na lang compared to past issues encountered. Pero alangan naman ideprive ang anak. Mahirap talaga maging magulang ngayon hay. Kanyakanyang issues and ang hirap lang din talaga kalaban ng social media.
Mahirap din now isang pagkakamali mo lang mali kana, you should be cancelled forever hinde ka na pwede nag napansin ko din ngayon gusto nila sila lang aangat ikaw hinde pwede. So many selfish people these days. Lahat pa i post sa social media papahiyaan ka. Pwede lang ibalik buhay ni Emman kapalit ng mga leche corrupt ng Pilipinas why Not diba?
Mga tao kasi ngayon ginagawang pagbati ay “uy ang taba mo ngayon”, huy anong nangyari sa face mo dami mo tigyawat” at kung ano ano pa. Di ba pedeng “oy you look good today.” Lagi kasing negative ang nakikita.
Nakakakilabot na na identify at may specific na group na na mention-DDS. Their obsession sa mga Duterte, isinabuhay na nila ang goal na patayin ang di nag aagree sa sinasamba nila
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Older millenial here. I grew up without social media. Nag start sya nung college ako - Friendster, Myspace, Multiply. Social media was fun back then. Afterwards dun nag start ang blogging. Andami kong binabasang blogs noon, when bloggers were passionate about their interests.
ReplyDeleteI've seen the evolution of social media, and I don't like it. Nowadays it's about pasikatan and pabonggahan. No wonder the youth are always comparing themselves with each other. Ang lala din ng bullying. People are not afraid of bashing each other.
What's my point? Social media can be a drug. Social media can be toxic. Nakaka high ang likes and validation. But when people don't like you, they will drag you down even if they don't know you.
TRUE. Sad
DeleteSame..friendster pa dati..yung problema natin padamihan ng testimony...true na masaya ang social media dati, now puro bashing nlng kahit simpleng post lang kaya i don't post sa social media..i also filter what comes out from my feeds..yung hindi kinakaya ng mental health ko d ko na tinitignan...i value my mental health more kaya i try to take less time and more on watching happy videos lang but i check naman whats happening now na alam kong depressing from time to time..
DeleteOFW here and the only purpose i use socmed is for communication with my family and very few friends from long time ago. I know some people na ginawa na ring source of income ang socmed sukdulang magpost ng mga fake news! Sad....
DeleteI’m an older milennial too, and I’ve deactivated all my socials years ago. It was easy for me to do because College na ako when it’s started. I know how it is to live without social media and scrolling nonstop.
DeleteI agree with everything you said, fellow older millennial.
Deleteyep parang ang chill nung early 2000s Myspace Friendster multiply dota and ragna. if may social bullying man na hindi talaga maiiwasap hindi kasing lala today. Ewan parang yung generation natin yung idgaf attitude hahaha
DeleteFriendster was just like an online autograph book. Did I remember it right? Autograph book ang tawag sa written personal info, likes and dislikes, favourites, message sa'yo, who's your crush etc. nung 80s and 90s. Ginagawa yun sa school especially before graduation. Ganun lang friendster dati. Online nga lang. Tapos may music sa background. Testimonials given by people who know you. They would send their congratulations kung nakapasa ka ng board, first car, first house. Pag mayron kang achievement and gusto mong ibrag (yeah brag lol wag na tayong pahumble.) Ganun din sila say your congratulations if they have an achievement. Kumbaga once in a awhile. It's not an everyday thing. Then suddenly un mga kabatch kong millennials naging everyday habit na siya in friendster and FB. Na ooff ako when they started posting their everyday mundane life. Like really? Naglaba, nagluto, umutot lahat pinopost. Nawala na un scarcity, magic. Like the need to constantly inform everyone about your life, when in truth and in fact they don't give a d@mn. The fact that you can be easily reached ang ayaw ko. So now 10 years na akong walang Facebook, I never downloaded tiktok and if not waiting for an important call, my phone is always silent. I don't feel the need to be easily reached out by anybody. Kahit kakilala pa kita.
DeleteMarian and Dingdong did the right thing when they disallow gadgets to their children. They're engaged in sports and music. Zia galing galing sa swimming at ang ganda ng boses. While si bunso taekwondo yata. I mean that's what parents should be. Lead the way, decide based on what you think is the best for your kid. I really think social media is not for the sensitive, emotional and vulnerable people. Not to mention it's a total waste of precious time if you're not earning from it.
DeleteAnyway, RIP young lady. Your parents and family must be truly devastated by your untimely demise. May you find peace and comfort in the loving arms of God.
Yes! The Friendster Testimonials where you get to say good things about other people. Now, social media is all about pabonggahan and endless bashing :(
DeleteCondolences to the Atienza Family. RIP Emman 🙏🏻
I am a millenial too not active in social media anymore deactivated na yung FB twitter and official Ig ko meron akong private IG na walang post I only used it to browse for time killing para sa mga healthy non toxic accounts na finafollow ko. a gen z workmates asked me how can I survive haha sabi ko sa kanya mas peaceful ang life ko I have nothing to prove to anyone so why would I feel bad wala din ako sineseek na validation
Delete"I catch myself checking my notifications.. I'd put up with the hate knowing I'd be receiving a paycheck."
ReplyDeleteGirl 😭 Grabe naiyak ako dito. Nakaka addict ang socmed. Ang bata pa nya.
723 No she didn’t get addicted to social media, what she meant was she got anxious whenever she posts something because of the hate comments that she receives.
DeleteOh my.
ReplyDeleteThis is sad. Wala naman kasalanan yung bata why so much hate? Problema nyo? I follow her on toiktok pa naman and never a single negative word may sinabi sko thank God. Kase kung oo nakakakunsyensya. Sa simpleng comment mo hindi mo alam may apektado at nasasaktan na pla. Lets be kind lets be mpre understsnding lalo na sa wala naman ginawa sa inyo.
ReplyDeleteI dont understand where the hate is coming from. Dami na ba bobo at tanga? Dami na ba stressed? Dami na ba inggit? At the end of the day, Emman is just a girl trying to live her life.
ReplyDeleteIt’s Filipino culture aka bottom of Asia culture
DeleteNag-start yun dun sa "Guess the dinner bill" post nya na 130K.
DeleteNabash sya ng malala bec instead of apologizing, she said she was not responsible for the wealth disparity in the Philippines.
She also used BTS, Nadine Lustre, and other celebrities as examples to argue that these wealthy individuals were not redistributing their wealth.
she met amazing people in tiktok? there is nothing authentic in someones comment made while sitting on a toilet...Rest in Peace girl.TikTok is not a place to find adoration, it aint real and it aint lasting...
ReplyDeleteI don’t have tiktok neither my kids. Thank goodness! This is one of the main reasons why we never installed the app. They have IG for memes and inspo fashion and recipes. I deleted mine(IG) for many years ago, bec I hate to see how people trying to outdo one another.
DeleteAko rin never ko nagustuhan ang tiktok. Feeling ko napakalat and gulo ng tiktok
DeleteIG matagal na ko wala - sobrang OA na ng m ga post, sa Tiktok it cringes me seeing people dance sa tapat ng camera.
DeleteLet's try to be "nicer" everyday. Even sa mga tsismis sites like this kasi possible na nagbabasa din yung mga involve sa tsismis dito. It's depressing to read comments and bashing.
ReplyDeletemaaan!!!.this is very sad! i honestly dnt know her until i saw posts about her passing away and finding out that she's the daughter of Kuya Kim. Everyone of us has our own political views, but can we at least be kind to one another?it's just sad knowing this and no parents should endure this. my sincere condolences to the whole family.
ReplyDeleteOver tiktok??? Omggg peer pressure sa social media is reallll!! Pls uninstall muna girls pag unstable ang emotions nyo. TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
ReplyDeleteWe have to understand that it was a world they were born with na.. 2006, may internet na. unlike us millenials na naabutan natin ang walang internet and then we watched the world evolved into what we have now.
DeleteWe don't know everything. I read in the comments she's in therapy and that she was abused nung yaya niya when she's a kid. She's already mentally fragile then came the massive bashing on nepo babies. She took it hard obv
Korek. Prioritize yourselves.
DeleteMas ok kasi na walang TikTok, twitter, napaka toxic ng social media, affected na pala but still using it, if di kaya turn off the replies, you can still post and kung ano man ang message or content na gusto mo i share pwede pero you can control the replies turn it off, sa messages naman you can also not receive messages from people you don't follow, ang active nya pala sa TikTok
ReplyDeleteShe was vulnerable because of past and current mental health issues , very opinionated and combative in soc med without knowledge or wisdom to back it up sometimes out of touch from lack of maturity, of course because she was only in her teens and sheltered, people was critical of her, she used soc med as an outlet, like moth playing with fire. Her parents didn’t guide her enough when she was growing up because they were chasing their dreams. When she posted her bare pic at 13 to someone she trusted and end up spreading it to the entire school, that broke her spirit, yet she still continued to use soc med as an outlet. That is a tragedy there. May she rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteSocial media is demonic
ReplyDeleteKung ako ang papipiliin mas gusto ko pa ung panahon na keypads lang ang mga phone at ang internet ay hindi madali maaccess. Mas masaya nun dimo ramdam na mabilis oras at araw, naeenjoy mo ang bawat araw kaysa ngayon parang ang bilis ng panahon.
ReplyDeleteTrue! Tipong text lang talaga sa friends and family. Ngayon kasi everything is just there. Isang click na lang lahat. Nakahiga, upo, tayo cp na lang lagi. And may mga tao talaga na hindi na halos mabitawan ang phone.
DeleteAgree
DeleteBullied sya nun high school . Nanay nya owner ng chinese international school sa bgc.
ReplyDeleteAng hirap maging nice, maging kind, maging compassionate lalo na sa panahong ito, sa panahong kahit gaano ka ganda ng sinabi mo, pinost mo hoping na may ma bless ka sa word mo, meron at merong ibabash ka at magtataka ka na lang na saan nanggaling yung bashing nya? Ganun pa man, let’s chose to be kind parin. Mahirap pero kaya naman. Sobrang toxic ng socmed at kung kaya ng mga magulang na walang socmed ang mga anak gawin nila kasi ako na golden na di ko kaya ang bashing lalo na siguro na ang mga bata.
ReplyDeleteIt’s so sad that social media killed her…
ReplyDeleteSocial media should be banned. My gosh. What a waste of life. She's got so much ahead of her..
ReplyDeleteSa mga Parents, laging tanungin ang nga mga anak at hanapin sila lalo na at may pinagdadaanan.
ReplyDeleteDi ba? Hindi ginusto ng mga bata na ipanganak sila in this cruel world kaya responsibilidad nila anak nila in all aspect
DeleteGirl, you let people beneath you drag you to their level. Rest in peace 😞
ReplyDeleteAs a parent, the lesson from the same sudden loss of Mr. Buencamino’s daughter was instilled in me. Always check on your kids especially when they choose to be alone in their room, or the other way around appearing to be so “high” / extremely extrovert.
ReplyDeleteSoc med is becoming so toxic. Parents always guide your child.
ReplyDeleteNot only because of social media.. sure nakadagdag yun pressure but she was diagnosed na with depression na when she was still a minor. Hindi takaga dapat binabalewala at kailangan matutukan ng professionals
ReplyDeleteIf ganun, why let he be alone in LA. :(
DeleteNo blaming but sadly this might be her time that way and to teach us a lesson
12:25 hndi natin alam. Baka ayaw paawat. Based on the things that she said doon sa toni talks talagang sya ang nasusunod sa lahat. Walang say ang parents.
DeleteTapos yung nangbabash sakanya noon nakiki sympathize ngayon??? Hypocrite
ReplyDeleteSana yung mga grabe kung manlait, mamintas, at body shaming matauhan na dahil dito. Nakakatulog ba kayo nang mahimbing kung alam ninyong isa kayo sa mga nagtulak para lumala ang anxiety at depression nya? Sa Reddit, isa pa yang platform na walang habas ang mga commenters.
ReplyDeleteKawawa na naman na bully na sya sa schools na bully pa sa social media, sana di na sya nag social media kasi wala talagang control at malawak ang reach malawak din ang bashing, she can talk to family friends and support groups mas better, nahaluan din ng politics may DDS e grabe ang DDS,
ReplyDeletewhy putting the blame on DDS? or other people. Its her reaction and her action
Deletesabi nya she's insecure sa itsura nya. despite having a complete, normal body at walang kapansanan, she still feels kulang, kahit na filthy rich ang family compared sa ibang taong. she's got all the privileges and more. wala na kayo magagawa dun kung hindi pa rin yun sapat sa kanya. desisyon na nya yan. respect her decision.
ReplyDeleteMinsan mahirap if you take away all the problems of your child thinking that’s the way para maging ok lahat. Ang prublema, hndi natututo magsolve ng problems at gumamit ng appropriate coping mechanisms. Eh life is hard and people are cruel so pag naharap sa issues especially as a teen and in adulthood kahit maliit na bagay sobrasobrang laki na kasi malaki naman na nga yun para sa kanila. At such time, parents can’t control everything around the child anymore. Yun cousin ng husband ko ganun. 40s na, father to 3 kids na pero parang toddler pa din na nakasumbong sa parents kahit napakaliit na bagay. Sya ang pnakabigay lahat compared to siblings. Lalo na nun eventually nadiagnose na may depression. Ngayon naman naging narc kasi yun ang nafigure out nya in life na kaya nya imanipulate lahat especially ang parents. Yun niece ko din nadiagnose with depression. Sabi ng brother ko ang hirap kasi nga walang naging prublema growing up. Samantalang yun mga madaming prublema, ultimo school supplies prublema, kun kakain ba, etc., naging batak sa buhay kasi yun problems na makakaharap simple na lang compared to past issues encountered. Pero alangan naman ideprive ang anak. Mahirap talaga maging magulang ngayon hay. Kanyakanyang issues and ang hirap lang din talaga kalaban ng social media.
DeleteTrue, naisip ko rin yun.
DeleteResult of abuse as a child.
DeleteMahirap din now isang pagkakamali mo lang mali kana, you should be cancelled forever hinde ka na pwede nag napansin ko din ngayon gusto nila sila lang aangat ikaw hinde pwede. So many selfish people these days. Lahat pa i post sa social media papahiyaan ka. Pwede lang ibalik buhay ni Emman kapalit ng mga leche corrupt ng Pilipinas why Not diba?
ReplyDeleteMga tao kasi ngayon ginagawang pagbati ay “uy ang taba mo ngayon”, huy anong nangyari sa face mo dami mo tigyawat” at kung ano ano pa. Di ba pedeng “oy you look good today.” Lagi kasing negative ang nakikita.
ReplyDeleteNakakakilabot na na identify at may specific na group na na mention-DDS. Their obsession sa mga Duterte, isinabuhay na nila ang goal na patayin ang di nag aagree sa sinasamba nila
ReplyDeleteCongrats, trolls. You finally broke the camel's back.
ReplyDelete