Friday, October 30, 2015

Accepting the Ugly Truth

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One of the saddest days in marriage would be the day that husband and wife realize that they are not attuned to each other, and what was supposed to be a match made in heaven was turning into a living hell. A high profile relationship and the ideal family image do not guarantee that all is well between the man and woman.

After several years into their marriage, Talented Actress (TA) discovered that Her Husband (HH) has been keeping a secret from her. TA discovered that HH has an alleged mistress (AM) whom he has set–up in a flat. AM and HH share the same school and chances are both had been classmates. Thus, HH had met AM long before he met TA. Belonging to the few celebrities who can wave a diploma from a university, HH projects an image of someone responsible.

The marital problem reached a point that TA and HH already consulted a lawyer. However, their family image is very strong and breaking apart their family will have more consequences than a ruined reputation. They have many endorsements that could be affected if they separate. Consumer products are keen on utilizing celebrities that project the ideal as their brand image. Hence, a tumultuous relationship can affect the brand they are endorsing.

Nonetheless, no one wants a broken family, which is so typical of showbiz marriages. Instead of pursuing legal options, TA and HH opted to make their marriage work. In what was perceived as a desperate effort, TA did something drastic to make HH interested.

However, this new situation did not stop the issue. HH and AM are still together. Thus, TA has decided to let things be in anticipation that HH will come back to his senses and remember his vows at the altar. Perhaps, TA has succumbed to accepting a mistress in their lives if she wants their marriage to last.

TA and HH have different backgrounds. While TA was struggling in showbiz to establish a career, HH was living the life of a typical student in a private school. As TA fretted over her career direction, HH was probably mulling over where he would work after completing his degree. Although HH is a celebrity in his own right, he always seems to have his foot firmly anchored in his private life. As time passed, HH realized that he could not achieve a certain level of conversation with TA, who has spent her whole life in the crazy world of showbiz. Thus, they probably could not achieve the quality communication that HH had expected.  

Some people think that the truth can be hidden with a little cover-up and decoration. But as time goes by, what is true is revealed, and what is fake fades away. -Ismail Haniyeh

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267 comments:

  1. TA - J
    HH - R

    OMG. I really thought pa naman they are solid 😯

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    1. Inlove pa naman ako sa wedding nila! Hindi din pala magwowork...

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    2. Seryoso ba kayo classmates?
      "TA was struggling in showbiz to establish a career"

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    3. Sana hindi sila toh

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    4. But I wonder what was this 'something' that TA did drasticakky to make HH interested?

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    5. Ang nakakaloka binahay pa talaga nya? Wala bang self respect yung mistress considering maayos pa naman school nila (school mate ko sila hihi). Nagpabahay pa talaga siya!

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    6. Correct! J, R and I.

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    7. Pagtatawanan lang nito nina J and R ...

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  2. ta: j and hh: r .. kawawa nman ung girl

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    1. I feel sad for these women who put up with this open infidelity for the sake of image and pretensions.

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  3. I hope it is not J and R. I will be sad because I like them both.

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  4. OMG is this for real? Si J and R ba to?

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  5. Wahh totoo pala to. I heard this from a friend of mine kala ko chika lang... Anyway

    TA - J
    HH - R

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  6. HH - R
    TA - J

    Matagal ng issue to kay HH. Sad naman for TA if tatanggapin nya na lang yung situation dahil sa image na iniingatan nila.

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    1. Naging sosyalin kahit papano ang Lola dahil Kay Hubby. Diba lately panay na rin ingles nya

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    2. actually, I expected this to be the turn-out. sobrang magkaiba background nila where HH is from educated elite cirlce and TA is in jologs showbiz career. sabi ko na eh, parang nagmamadali kasi si TA, parang desperada lng. now that's what you get from getting into M with wrong reasons, magiging kalbaryo lng tlga.

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    3. At the end of the day nanaig ang kinasanayan ni hubby na circle at si wifey naging trying hard humabol at mag look sosi

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    4. di ba ilang years muna silang gf/bf before nagpakasal, so nagmamadali might be a wrong word here.

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    5. anon oct 30, edukado nga si HH pero look at what he's doing.

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    6. @3:28 It's not J's fault.
      The issue here is R's infidelity, hindi makuntento sa isa.

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    7. Grabe ka 328 alam na alam mo nangyare a. Nde mo mn lng na consider they were both in love at the time they got married. Ladies and gentlemen 328: judgemental prick on the house

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    8. Grabe ka 328 alam na alam mo nangyare a. Nde mo mn lng na consider they were both in love at the time they got married. Ladies and gentlemen 328: judgemental prick on the house

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    9. Ok lng nmn sna kung mgkaiba ang mundo nila as lng as love nmn nila isa't isa and willing to compromise. Kso in this case mas mhal ni R srili nya at isang martyr nmn si J. Nwwalan n rin ng respeto relationship nila. R doesnt respect J for having a mistress while si J wla n rin respeto s sarili for tolerating this. Tsk tsk tsk.

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  7. j and r pakkkkk yun na!

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  8. TA-j
    HH-r

    Parang dami baho ni hh na lumilitaw, sad for j

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    1. oo nga di ba may BI din dati na mahilig si HH?

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  9. J and R... sino si gurl???

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  10. OMG sana iwan n lng ni J si R.. kesa ganyan.

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  11. Kawawa si J..importante talaga sa marriage ang same social background and meeting of the minds..the guy is R.

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    1. Bakit naman ako sa asawa ko, doktor asawa ko, ako teacher! We might not talk the same language at times, but our heart does!! 20 yrs in marriage & still going strong.

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    2. Magkaiba man profession ninyo 3:49 di ibig sabihin magka iba din wavelength nyo.

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    3. preho kau may pinagaralan oi. c r is know to be intelligent talaga while c j ay jeje

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    4. Sinabi nya importante..hindi nya sinbing requirements! Anon 3:49

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    5. My husband is a lawyer..medical rep ako pero minsan mas gusto nya pa nga makipag usap sa mga kaibgan nya. Eventually we decided to part ways after 14 yrs. See it matters..

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    6. you are a teacher? then why you can't even understand the point given here

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    7. You're a teacher so, you're educated while this showbiz girl hasn't finished hs or college so, what do you expect..she grew up in showbusiness, her only world and even before i find her a bit mataray and her language is bakya..so, what do you expect?

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    8. 3:49 parehas kayong nakapagtapos ng mister mo. Ung nasa BI, si J all her life nasa showbiz na sha, diba bata pa lang sha artista na sha at parang breadwinner pa ata if im not mistaken. E etong si R, graduate at conotic pa.

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    9. 3:49 iba yung case mu teh, intellectually suited pa rin kayu ng hubby mu.

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    10. you call it personal differences. it is never the same in every situation. Anon 3:49

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    11. 3:49 eh d wow! Ikaw na! Sure ka ba jan atey???

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    12. @12:27, Totoo pero importante din to respect each other in terms of your differences.

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  12. I was really shocked when I first found out they ended up with each other...I guessed they had some sort of common ground. Pero mej coñotic kasi si guy, that's why they're not on the same wavelength and now it's taken its toll. Sad.

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    1. Di sila bagay to begin with

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    2. maybe pareho din ni k and j.

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  13. i feel so bad for J :-(

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  14. siguro nga pag laking showbiz at hindi naka-attain ng real secular education, puro ka-jeje-an ang topic at lumalabas sa bibig at hindi maka-relate ang spouse na highly educated.. maghahanap ng makaka-connect intellectually itong si husband

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    1. I agree , R is smart and deep.

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    2. kung ganun hindi nya talaga mahal si J. dahil ang totoong nagmamahal hindi na magiging isyu sa kanya ang kakulangan ng isa dapat nga matulungan nya si J para mag-improve hindi yun hahanap si R ng iba para magpuno sa kakulangan ng asawa nya.

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    3. Me mga me degree din na super jeje magsalita

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    4. Im worried for S & M, they have the same situation.

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    5. True 350 but im hoping for the best kasi M seems mabait and he is probinsyano naman. So sana naman diba

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    6. Seryoso? Kasalanan pa ni TA kung bakit nasisira M nila. Hirap kasi satin basta classy and elite sila na nasa tama palagi.

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    7. Wala naman diploma si R noh! D kaya sya nakagraduate kase d nya natapos thesis nya. Pero intelehente talaga sya at mukhang d kayang sakyan ni j. Too bad!

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    8. R is a womanizer even before they married.

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  15. J iwan mo nalang c R. You deserve so much better.

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  16. kawawa naman si J sobra

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    1. Pede naman shang kumalas. Kaso mas gusto nyang mag pretend to save face.

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  17. Naku J anobehhh. Pabayaan na yang si R na yan. Balita ko bad temper din yan

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  18. Wala akong nakuhang clue!! Puro J&R lang. :( Clue please

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    1. si J & R na kilalang kilala as a showbiz couple!

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    2. Anon 12:38 Ano ba yung kabit?

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    3. J is KaF... R is KaH... J can often be seen where R works

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  19. Clues naman mga beks. I am in the dark!!!!! KaH ba o KaF?

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    1. kaF si J kaH si R marami silang endorsement, J is a relly good actress who started young

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    2. TA is KaF while HH is KaH na nasa isang N show

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    3. KaF c J kaH c R

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    4. TA is KaF
      HH is KaH

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  20. J and R agad naisip ko. Pero sino si mistress?

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    1. Classmate yata so non showbiz. Matagal na sila mukhang college days pa lang.

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    2. mukhang non showbiz, schoolmate ata

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  21. Wala naman sa title yung J at R eh..

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    1. obvious nmn sila yan

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    2. Anon 12:41.. Kng alm m sgot, maiintindhn m initials. Bye, sembreak n kmi, kita kits nlng sa 2nd sem..

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  22. i feel bad for j :(

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    1. Coño yung hubby at siguro iba yung level ng utak nila. Di sosyal ang packaging nya although infairness from being bakya eh improved na ang Lola nyo para maka adapt sa sosyalerong hubby nya na panay ingles.

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  23. Wala nmn sa title ung initials ah

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  24. Nagustuhan lng ni R c J dahil supersikat dati, pabor sa kanya. Pero itong mistress nya as un supertagal na, gf nya to dati d ba?

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  25. Sana hindi sila ito. In denial ako dhil i love them both.

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    1. I - same school, yes, but unlikely a classmate of R, thunders na si R.

      May jowa si I diba?

      Pero if si I ito, grabe lang. Third party sha dati kay D and M.

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  27. Huh? J and R? Tama ba yung nasa isip ko? Paki confirm.

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    1. Yes you are correct

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    2. Confirmed! Authentic! 100% certified! Haha

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  28. I feel sad for the wife. Ang sakit kaya.

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  29. Clues naman please kung sino sina J and R. Please po..

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  30. Sino si j and r? Clue pls mga baks

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  31. Sino si j and r. Clue please mga baks

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  32. Nooooo! there's only one prominent college sweetheart si R. Tisay pero chaka!

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  33. Lahat kayo tama!!! J and R

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  34. TA - J and HH - R. Kawawa naman si J. Mahilig daw talaga si R eh. Pero unfair rin para kay J na mag-sacrifice dahil may mistress.

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    1. hypocrite mu nman, ganyan tlga kaya ka mag-aasawa, mahilig.

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  35. Di ko knoooows huhu help mga baks. Ako lang ata cleaner today :(

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    1. Sikat cla both lalo na si girl

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  36. J and R
    well what do you expect? an intelligent woman is highly attractive

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    1. 1:29 Are you kidding me?! Are you justifying the alleged cheating? Whether she's Intelligent or not, he married her. He made a commitment so he better stick with it. He made a vow sa harap ni God at sa mga tao and their union is recognized by the law too. So don't give us that crap you are saying.

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  37. Naiyak naman ako sa balitang ito. I thought they have an almost perfect marriage. Na si HH ay isang prince charming for a damsel in distress like TA. With HH's influence, TA has achieved things other than being an actress or someone from showbiz. Sana HH would realize that when he decided to marry TA, he also married all her flaws and shortcomings. :-)

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    1. Ang perfection at nasa isip Lang ng mga fans- we don't know behind their bedroom

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  38. Ang magaling nyo manghula ah. Good job.

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  39. Clues pls... or maglinis naba ako?

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  40. Totoo pla un... I thought ok cla kc npka ideal p nmn ng family nila..hayy, wla tlgang Forever
    TA-J
    HH-R

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  41. Sino si J & R ? More clues please.

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  42. Sad naman sana magtino na si HH

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  43. Dba babaero dw talga tong c R,so ngaun mern syang sineryoso na bnahay na nya?

    lucent

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  44. HH is know for being that naman since college.

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  45. pero they look so in love and parang alagang alaga nila ang isa't isa lalo na now na TA is... you know..

    haaaay sa harap ng camera masaya talaga pero sa likod sobrang baliktad... sayang if si J and R nga ito :(

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  46. R and J, as in si R is Ka-H?
    Di siguro kasi they were both from different school as far as I know.

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  47. Cleaner ako today. I don't know who is J and R :(

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  48. I think J and R have irreconcilable differences
    Its time for to separate after all the efforts.

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  49. pag inglisero matalino na agad?di ba pwde english ang way of talking nila sa bahay kaya fluent.. well..
    mahiya kanaman HH sa wifey mo dami suitor nyan nuon,at ikw ang nagwagi!
    wag ka magmatangkad..HAHAHa :))

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  50. Idol ka pa naman c R. Tsk sad.

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    1. Makapag comment lang eh no. Basa basa din.

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    2. kuha na ng walis tambo, hindi sila yan. Row4! Baligtad ang kay M&D, si M ang nag-aaral nang tahimik at si D ang nasa showbiz.

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    3. Sige ipilit mo yang M & D mo. Simulan mo na maglinis.

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    4. balik ka sa grade 1. "several years into the marriage" nga eh. Kakakasal pa lang nung dalawa. At di yung tipo ni M magpapakamartir, takot lang ni D.

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    5. Really?.... It's J & R

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    6. maling mali ka beks. Wala sa tipo ni M ang lolokohin ng asawa, masyadong palaban si M, takot ang ni D.

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    7. Ngek e parehas graduate si M and D noh.

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  52. HH- R,TA- J. kung ako kay TA wag masyado martyr. kainis si R parang wholesome image pa sya crush ko pa nman sya haiz

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  53. si h and c yan. di nakapag tapos si h dahil sa showbiz

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    1. H & C ka jan basa basa minsan sinabi na nga na years of being married kakakasal lang nila H&C

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    2. wala naman silang endorsement as family. basa din.

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    3. Ikaw din baks hndi mkkapagtapos dhl sa hula mo..

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    4. You are very wrong te.

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    5. Akala ko si D and M

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    6. may family endorsements na ba yan???

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    7. basahin mabuti matagal bg kasal to si h and c kakakasal lang

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  54. Stress Pala si j behind her smile. It so sad pero can't judge. God bless their family J and R

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  55. Bqueen and A. Bakya naman kasi talaga si girl.

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    1. Pede pero this is J and R. Yung bqueen and A mo, soon pa lang yan. Nasa happy stage pa sila ngaun

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    2. Bad mo! He made a vow and he should honor it. Kasalanan pa ng asawa na nambabae ang mister. Kaya maraming martir sa pilipinas eh

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  56. J-R I think TA tried her best to be acceptable to the family and friends of HH but unfortunately talagang hindi committed sa marriage tong si HH. Matagal nang may rumors about HH.

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    1. You don't need s man who doesn't love you anymore-move on

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  57. TA - J HH - R AM - keber. Di ko knows

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  58. Una ko naisip si j and R kaso nalito ako sa last paragraph

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    1. di sila magkalevel intellectually kaya j and r nga :((

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  59. Si s ba ito at yung asawa nya?

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  60. Matagal na ang isyu about HH still seeing his former college gf even after just getting married. So, sila pa rin pala hanggang ngayon, pero binahay na din. Tsk, tsk! Baka may anak pa siya doon. Time to kick him out, girl!

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  61. It says actress was struggling in showbiz to establish a career. I don't think this is J.

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  62. Why prolong the agony kung dun din lang ang bagsak. If I were J, I will dump him, kc from the start talagang he is just using her to attain a nice place in showbiz. J has comfortable position in showbiz nung mag-asawa sila while HH is just a struggling wannabe.

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  63. naiiyak na ko!! sino si j and r?? pls help!!!

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  64. I don't think this has something to do with their backgrounds. There are couples out there who remain strong despite their differences in social status and educational backgrounds.

    It's all about choices. The husband chose to cheat, and the wife chose to stay and save their marriage for the sake of their children. That's it.

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  65. I guess R got bored. They are not intellectually compatible. Hindi sila magkapareho ng wavelength kaya nga marami nagulat nung nagkadevelopan sila noon.

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    1. J looks older than hubby at sosyalin nga eh

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    2. Kaya importante talaga sa relationship yung intellectual compatibility. Ang dami ko ng na meet na ganun. Na nagkaka-problema in the long run, kasi di nagkakatugma. Especially when you get older and the passion wanes. Its better to have a conversation where you never ran out of things or subjects to talk about. Anything under the sun. As that will sustain your relationship till your twilight years.

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    3. Yup, true. Case in point, I had a bf before who had all the physical attributes I`ve wished for. But the relationship did not last as we had so many disparate interests. Then I met another guy, who was not at par with the previous one in terms of looks but the conversations were great and along with the passion, came a great friendship. More than 20 married years later, we still never ran out of things to talk about and we seem to finish each one`s sentence, or even correctly guess what the one is thinking. Yes, intellectual compatibility matters a lot.

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    4. kelangan talaga base sa wavelength or intellectual compatibility? hindi ba pwede @ some point nagkasundo sila bcoz nagkagustuhan @ nagmahalan sila? kung talagang matalino si guy bakit sya nambabae to think na ang ganda ng image ng pamilya nya..
      I think the guy is so stupid for using his toot & not his brain...

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    5. Bakit naman si M at D, mukhang di rin sila magka level intellectually pero mukhang very loyal si guy. Nasa lalaki ang problema yun lang yun!

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    6. eh sa ganda and sexy nmn ni M mambabae pa ba c D?

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    7. Right on! @12:14 1:55 :))

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  66. TA-- J
    HH-- R
    -×-×-×
    Why stay in a sh@#*y marriage J??!

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  67. Mahirap talaga pag sobrang contrast ang background. Sa una, it may have been the attraction, pero sa kalaunan, hahanapin din yung commonality. I was a bit apprehensive, too nung unang nabalitang sila na and even got married. It was only a matter of time na lilitaw at lilitaw din yung differences nila. As Kipling would have said, "never the twain shall meet."

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  68. So kunwa-kunwari lang yung sweetness nila sa social media??

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  69. meron ba silang endorsments together as family? si j and r?

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  70. Dami nang blind item articles about R before. Small but terrible pala itong si bansot. Over sexed kasi, masyadong mahilig, akala mo kung sinong matino, marami palang bahong nakatago.

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  71. Sana di nalang sila nagpakasal kung feel pala ni guy noon pa na di sila compatible, plus, di naman enough reason yun to cheat on your spouse. i just hope na this is just a phase that married people go through. Sana eventually, yung fear of GOD, respect for the matrimony and love for their children ang magprevail. Kasi, at the end of the day, Family ang pinaka importante sa lahat.

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  72. J and R. In the future si D and M na to.

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  73. J&R and I--rumored pa since 2 years ago. Pero diba may foreignor boyfriend sya?

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  74. i hope mabuking si HH ng matindi. yung malalaman ng buong madla. i feel bad for TA. kahit siguro madami syang flaws as a wife / person hindi nya deserve na masaktan ng ganito.

    - DD KENYA

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  75. That's sad. R seems to be decent and a family man. What I don't comprehend is how could u come home everyday when part of the day was spent with ur mistress? How could u ever make an contact with ur spouse nor share the same bed and even make love when u know tomorrow u would be spending it with ur mistress? Don't u have a heart? I find it very disrespectful on the hubby part for cheating but it is also disrespect for a wife to put up. Either u go with ur mistress and don't come home or stay and get rid of ur kabit. We all have a choice. I'm not pro divorce but I will never put up with such bs. Sa part naman ni kabit, kanal ng mukha mo. Sa dami ng single men, sa may asawa ka pumapatol.

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  76. Uuuy, please clue namn jan.. Di ko tlga knows eh.. Pleeeeaaase mga ka-fp?... Thanks!

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  77. hindi si J at R yan anuvehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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  78. Who's the mistress? Showbiz din ba?

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  79. Please clues on J and R

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  80. I've heard of the guy's dirty little secrets way before they got married. i thought he ended it with the other girl already before he got hitched? or is this a new one? i won't be surprised. but yes, sad indeed!

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  81. Kung mahal talaga walang kwenta ano man background. Love knows no boundaries.

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  82. nag google pa ko ng celebrity couple endorsers in search for R & J. ang sad naman.. pero matagal na ang chismis na may iba si R d ba?

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  83. people...hindi si R and J ito. napaka layooooo sa katotohan! bagkus devoted husband si R lalo na sa kalagayan ngayon ni J, hinding hindi ito totoo...isip isip pa people! at si R and J intellectually compatible sila, wag maliitin ang natapos din ni R.

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    1. si J ang sinasabing di makasabay kay R kasi nga di nmn nkapagtapos tlga si J kc bata pa lang nasa showbiz na

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    2. sorry pero sila J & R ito.

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  84. OH EM GEE..si J and R ba talaga??? di ko knows, nangongopya lang ako..

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  85. Hmm, kaya nga nung naging mag-asawa sila nagtaka talaga ako.

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  86. Matagal nang chismis na yung girl ex ni R. Gf nya before sila ikasal ni J. Di yata nakalimutan ni R.

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