Tuesday, March 23, 2021

Repost: Nadine Lustre Says She's Healing from Breakup with James Reid Despite Being Seen Often Together

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Nadine Lustre admitted she is still in the process of healing from her breakup with James Reid, quashing rumors that they have rekindled their romance.

Lustre and Reid, both 27, announced their separation in January 2020, after nearly four years as a couple.

In the year that followed that announcement, the two were spotted together numerous times, from relief operations amid the pandemic to a hike with friends. They were also close collaborators on Lustre’s album, “Wildest Dreams,” which was released under Reid’s own record label.

Their frequent sightings together, as recently as this month, prompted speculation that they have gotten back together.

In her latest interview, however, Lustre spoke of “the breakup” as something she continues to move on from, noting the span of time — “four years” — that the relationship had lasted. She did not directly mention Reid.

Lustre, who has been open about her past bouts with anxiety and depression, was speaking on the topic of dealing “traumas,” according to Nylon Manila, when she mentioned the separation.

“Gusto ko, 'pag tapos na, tapos, alam mo 'yon? Or ‘pag may gusto akong mangyari, dapat mangyari na kaagad. But now, I’m allowing myself time to heal, to process things. Ganon kasi ako before, like in the breakup, which really changed me and my mindset,” she said. 

“Before, I wanted to get over it to not get hurt or overthink about it or feel bad…We tend to do that just because we don’t want to be affected. Again, I wouldn’t say I’m completely healed from that, like I’m still going through it. But this time, I'm allowing the time and I'm not rushing myself. It would take a long time, but I know I’ll get there.”

To date, Reid and Lustre are known to still have a close relationship. In January 2021, for instance, Reid credited Lustre as a co-writer of his latest single, “Soda,” saying, “She knows what’s in my head.”

Lustre, in her Nylon Manila interview, compared how she once used to deal with traumatic experiences to her current progress. In the case of her breakup with Reid, she has learned that healing is a process that takes time, and not something that can forced.

“I used to just completely shut off from people… no closure, no healing from past traumas, including friendships,” she recalled. 

“I've always been afraid of being left behind. I’m afraid of being abandoned, because that’s how it feels when you’re in a relationship for a long time and you separate. It changes you a lot. It makes you feel like there was something wrong with you that’s why the person left you. Before, I would blame myself. I would think to myself: ‘May pagkukulang ako or may ginawa ako.’” 

“But you know, I would say I’m slowly ascending from that trauma. You can’t put a timeline on it. It’ll just happen,” she said.

Progress, Lustre pointed out, is not necessarily linear. There are days, she said, when she would still become emotional.

“Of course, I won’t stop myself from feeling sad. That’s also four years of being together….it’s not like I'm not going to cry,” she said.

“Before, I would stop myself from crying because I’d think it would only make me more sad. When you stop feeling that or going through the process, you’re also not allowing yourself from taking a step higher… If I don’t cry about it, it’s going to stay there, bottle up, and eventually, I might break down and get messed up even more,” she explained.

Now, Lustre has allowed herself leeway to cry when the emotions overwhelm.

“But when you’re done,” she said, “you move on.”


 

79 comments:

  1. LMAO please she's trying to be relevant.

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    1. Hahaha tama. Pakulo lang nila yan. Kumita na yan last year. Iba naman ngayon. Sana sumikat sila hindi sa paandar kundi sa galing sa pag arte o pag perform. Kasi yang ganyan pakulo di na kakagatin ngayong pandemya. Walang longevity sa ganyang drama.

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    2. 12:39, Trying to be relevant sayo but til now, Nadine is one of those celebrities na wala pa din YT channel til now. She does not need to post what she does on a daily basis and make money out of it which almost every one does nowadays.

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    3. 2.02 Ay talaga ghorl? She post her YT channel 2 weeks ago. If you really her fans you must know. Go follow her. Eventhough she didn't post any video yet but she make YT channel means she also will do vloging.

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    4. Waitsung ko na lang ang balita na sa iba na ikakasal si koya James ha? At saka ka na magpa-interview, ateng Nadz na naka-move on na daw (pero walang naniniwala). #abangan

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    5. Break chu chu pero nakikita magkasama. Wag kami uyyy

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    6. Girl bye. She was interviewed because she is still relevant. May 2 magazine covers nga this month eh. Subpar nga lang.

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    7. 2:02 babalikan kita dito pag gumawa sya ng yt channel ha. Haha tiktok nga di pinalampas e. Alam niya kasi mahina ang views niya pag mag yt sya. Music videos nga niya ang hina e. Free streaming na yun ah 😜

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    8. 10:43 Wag ka na humirit. Haha! Magmove on ka na din sa ilusyon mong di pa sila break. Don’t be a Nadine.

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  2. Beautiful couple though they are both LAOS now.

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  3. How can you move on from your ex IF you keep seeing him though? Nadine you should just cut all ties and stop all communications with james and be free.

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    1. may kanya kanya po tayong coping mechanism. What works for you may not work sa iba. :)

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    2. True. I think sinasabi niya lang yan just so james wont have any idea na she still wants them back together that or to simply keep telling herself na nag mo-move on na siya. But she and james they still hang out together baka also to keep each other as close as possible without any label? I mean paano nalang if may nahanap na bago si guy? She would have to detach herself pero feel ko sobrang mahihirapan siya if ever

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    3. Ang dami nyong assumptions, hayaan nyo sila. Nag post lang si Nadine, she is not asking for your opinions.

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    4. 12:58 Ah talaga ba baks? Makakapag moveon ka sa ex mo kahit palagi mo kasama? 🤣🤣

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    5. 12:48 mahirap yan beh kasi kung lalayo sya kay james, means aalis din sya s current management nya which ito n lng ang tanging gusto tulungan or ihandle ang career nya. Remember, may kaso p sya sa viva kaya mahihirapan sya maghanap ng trabaho inside showbiz (networks) kasi may connection ang viva s kanila.

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    6. Echos lang yan, naging ex kuno dahil sa show na di natuloy! Aminin!

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    7. Kung alam mo namang wala ng chance siz bakit hindi? Kung maayos naman paguusap nyo at in good terms kayo, masasabi kong okay lang kahit magkasama kayo. Lalo na nasa iisang industry lang kayo. It’s up to the other person how she/he will cope up.

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    8. 12.48 how could she cuts the ties with James if James is the only one who gave her job rn. She needs money to pay her lawyer. So even if it hurts she needs to keep close to james

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  4. So siya nga iniwan.

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    1. Yes based on her interview with Nylon. It is clear that James who broke up with her.

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    2. Kung nagpayaman muna sana si Nadine at mas nag concentrate sa career kesa na inlove dyan kay James.

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    3. Beshies akala ko live in na sila ulit? Since sa FP posts mej recently parang iisang bahay na sila ulit

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    4. 9:59 Hindi sa FP yun. Never nagpost ang FP ng about sa balikan. Dun sa sa isang tabloid trash site yun na mahilig sa fake news.

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  5. How can she move on if she's always with him? James seems to be enjoying the best of both worlds. She's always at his beck and call sans the commitment from the guy.

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    1. Tawag doon babaeng doormat, charot!

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  6. how can you heal kung palagi mong nakikita at panay hangout niyo? i don’t get it. pero baka naman friends with benefits ang arrangement nila mga ka-FP.

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    1. Pag ganon.. mauumpog din si girl

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  7. It's pretty obvious that James just wants to be friends with her nalang. Ito naman c Nadine martyr pa rin at panay buntot kay James. Move on girl.

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  8. E pano ka maghheal kung panay ang buntot mo sa ex mo?? Pa-strong woman kuno e di kaya mabuhay ng wala si James.

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  9. So clearly,James broke up with her.

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  10. Girl, u realize na nagmumuka kang push over right? Mismong fans mo naiinis sayo kakabuntot mo kay James. Hintayin mo paba na maubos sila? U always preach about women empowerment chuchu pero parang di naman ganun ginagawa mo. What does that make u? 🤥

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  11. I moved on from my ex husband eventhough we still have to spend time together with our kids on certain occassions. Posible naman but i only hang out with him because of the kids and for the kids' sake. but If I were Nadine and Im still single without kids, jusko I wont go anywhere near my ex! Hell no! I would rather spend my time meeting new people or doing something productive.

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    1. Tama. Ewan ko ba kay Nadine siya pa tong mukang habol ng habol at di maka move on samantalang si james Moved on na at healed na. si gurl nalang ang hindi

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    2. Exactly, it's not like they have kids together! Too sad.

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  12. One year and counting.,, I hope she’ll fully moved on. Everybody deserves to love and be loved

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  13. So if not romantic, platonic na?

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  14. So si James ang nag initiate ng break up. At first Hinde tanggap ni Nadine well hangang ngayon pa naman Siguro? Si James finally move on na. Feel ko pinapakisamahan na Lang ni James si Nadine coz Alam ni James ugali ni Nadine Baka mag Wala pag Hinde bigyan ng project . You know nagpapakumbaba na Lang siya bilang kaibigan but no love... wlaa na sila spark e.

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    1. James is such a good friend sobra.

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  15. Paano Kung may na Hanap si James na bago? Didikit parin siya? Mahirap yun. Ito ang toxic din! Lol

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  16. Mas maganda pa si james

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  17. She put reid in the pedestal kasi..she should learn to love herself!

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  18. everyone has different ways of coping or moving on. i just hope whatever she’s doing is really helping her. i was once in a similar situation. i kept on clinging to my ex on the guise of friendship and telling myself that there is no need to rush myself on moving on. kumbaga ang excuse ko e dahan dahan. but eventually narealize ko din naman na magkasama pa din kami palagi pero hindi ako masaya at hurting pa din. So i cut all ties. it was hard until onti onti nababwasan yung pain until maaccept ko na. Ngayon pag nagkikita kami e ok na. Looking back, had i not cut ties with him, baka pathetic pa din ako at umaasa. So yeah, from personal experience e mahirap gonagawa ni nadine. But then again, inhope nga e magwork sa kanya as she is claiming.

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  19. The way she is healing is quite common, people have different ways of coping. Some heal fast, some don't. Some pretend they've moved on when they really haven't. I admire Nadine's honesty on this subject.

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  20. Girl, dika makakamove on kung ganyan parin kayo kaclose. You need to detach to truly heal. Pinapahirapan mo lang sarili mo at pinapatagal mo lang yan.

    James, let her go. Isa ka pa.

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  21. I think that she deserves more. The only way for her to prepare herself for the right one is for her to completely break free from the ex. If James wants her back, then he would put a label on it, at the very least.

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  22. In the wise words of Dua Lipa, “If youre under him, you aint getting over him”.

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  23. Hinde kase kayo nagbreak. Pakulo niyo lang un e kaso e di naman effective. Di naman kase lahat mauuto niyo no. Haha

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  24. Hindi Tama yung mechanism Niya. Pano ka magmomove on Kung expectorant ka pa ng Burberry light? Mas ka tanggap tanggap pa yung nagboblock or Unfollow ng ex kaysa sa style ni ate na nakabuntot pa rin sa ex. Oh well Kung Sina Martin and pops nga kinaya Nila yung ganyang set up e Baka naman mag work for them.

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    1. Pops and martine kasi may kids sila. They need to be civil, they have reason bakit sila need magkasama. Unlike dito na gf-bf palang

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    2. 7:08 girl, ex na mag asawa and may anak mga yun. Why do you compare them to James and Nadine? Ang layo girl.

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  25. Seryoso ba hindi na kayo!?? haha ewan, wala na rin naman na ghorl wala na kayo masasalba sa careers nyo.

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    1. Wag mo idamay si James. He’s doing fine sa music label and businesses niya.

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  26. Ang hirap niyan pero siguro wala siyang choice. She has to work with him and therefore has to stay friends with him. Ang mahirap jan lalo ay pag may gf ng bago si guy. Sheket.

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  27. Sana inisip nya din muna career nya. James made his own path through his music and own company on the other hand nadine is clinging to him. May ibubuga naman sa pag-arte to si Nadine, for me she doesn't sing well. She should have chosen wisely rather than clinging on to James.

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  28. That pictorial/interview is almost a year old but was released only today. The circumstances and emotions may have changed.

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  29. They are business partners and friends at the same time. They continue to work together despite the break up. Professionals kasi sila. Meron bang laos na nasa covers ng magazine at endorser ng blue chip brands like Nike and Creamsilk (blue and green) or Versace? Plus music vids na pang international level? This is the kind of person that is great to work with. Professional, highly creative and kind despite her personal traumas.

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    1. Know the difference between endorser and influencer. Yang idol mo influencer na Lang, pakicheck.

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    2. eh hindi yun yung gustong label ng idol mo halata namang she is asking for more, may napatunayan siya compared james so bakit kay james niya pinipiling maglalapit? does it make sense to you na hindi lang yun ang habol niya. may malisya pa sa kanya eh so obviously more than friendship and business partner ang gusto niya sa tao. matalino kayong fans eto lang hindi niyo kayang icomprehend masyado kayong echosera. lol

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    3. 10:15 pinagsasabi mong endorser ng nike at versace? Haha grabe yung pantasya niyo 😝 downgrade to being influencer nalang si nadine, kalevel yung mga vlogger at influencer sa ig. Kahit saan mo isearch na website ng nike at versace wala kang makikitang nadine as endorser noh lmao 😂

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    4. @4:36 teh punta ka bgc/aura, mukha ni nadine andun sa nike store (:

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  30. pero paano maghihilom ang sugat kung palagi kinakalmot?

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  31. She is too needy and clingy talaga. Yuck.

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  32. The poor thing, no love and no career na. Wawa naman.

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  33. Contradicting talaga sya, nasaan na yon women empowerment, nasaan na yon loving yourself, choosing yourself...kung buong mundo umiikot pa din sa ex. Girl, you gotta let go para mahanap mo ulit sarili mo, magexpand ang mundo mo at baka sakali mahanap mo din yon the one para sayo at yon true happiness.

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    1. Kinaya nya 1:30. She is thriving because there is more to her than a love team or a guy. What a great example of a person who knows her worth and the good thing about it is companies see that. She knows her worth. Kung kinaya nya..kaya mo rin. Oh and the break up,diba January 20, 2020 thru Boy Abunda nagbigay na sila ng statement? Ano pa hinahanap nyo? They are the realest kasi. Nadine is happy, she is thriving and a CEO of her own company. What's more empowering than that? Kaya nyo yan.

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    2. 4:28, haha, keep telling yourself that. Her personality did a 180 when she got together with him, and now she can't let him go. She isn't empowered, she's needy and sad. I hope she realises that the current arrangement does nothing but disadvantage her. She's prolonging the inevitable and extending her pain.

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  34. Para sa akin, when you break up with someone mas maganda to cut contact na din. My ex gave me closure, he stated kung ano ang mga naging pagkukulang ko. Ganun din ako sa kaniya.Kahit naghiwalay kami nang maayos, we still cut the communication. Mas madali mag-move-on. Now I'm happy being single.No regrets.

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  35. Hopefully hindi sya type ng ex na maninira ng future kajowa ni James. Kaya sya dikit ng dikit kay James para bakuran si James or to be updated sa happenings kay James.

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  36. Out of sight our mind dapat. Hindi ka makaka move on niyan.

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  37. You can't move on if you haven't let go. Let him go, have your own set of friends. She hasn't let go. How sad. Oh well. Once he gets serious with someone, it's not gonna work. No new gf would be okay with that.

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    1. Kung ako bago Gf ni James, I want Nadine booted out the door !!! LoL

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  38. ano ba naman ito. May pandemic na at lahat, issue pa rin ni James ang pinagkakaabalahan. Awat na girl.

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  39. Just gonna stand there and watch me burn, but thats alright because i like the way it hurts 🎶 jusko rihanna lang girl? May pagka masokista ka ti kung kaibigan kita binungangaan na kita walang strong woman na naghahabol sa lalake.

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